A couple of days ago I was swimming (topless, as always) in my pool. When I finished I took off my bikini bottom with the intention of wrapping a towel around me and hanging it up to dry. Just as I took it off, a male friend of mine walked around the back of the house (having let himself in). I said hello while I finished wrapping the towel around me, but he got a good look (which didn't really worry me, and I didn't really react). But he was really embarrassed and apologetic, and claimed that the only way to make up for it was to let me see him naked. So he proceeded to take off his clothes. I said he didn't have to but he did, and we stood there for a few secs - him nude and me with a towel around me (covering my boobs and my lower half). Then he just got dressed and we went inside, I got dressed (out of sight of him) and then we hung out. There was no suggestion that anything else would or should happen. Just I saw him bc he saw me. Do you think he did the right thing?
2006-08-22 19:09:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It didn't seem like he was trying to make the situation sexual.
And if the situation was reversed, I would have apologised while walking away or at least turning my back until he was dressed.
2006-08-22 19:29:47 · update #1
It's certainly strange on his part, especially since you handled your own nidity in such a mature and normal fashion...which is what nudity in appropriate situations is all about, after all. If he was comfortable enough to let himself in he should have been aware that you swim topless and occasionally get naked while changing, drying off, lying out, etc. So my point is that his "surprise" at seeing you naked seems a bit strange...as was his need to "apologize" by getting naked himself.
It seems like he was using this as an excuse to both show himself naked to an attractive girl and possibly a hope that you'd stay naked yourself and perhaps you could both remain that way for awhile, either swimming or sunning, which might lead to "other" activities...at least in his mind.
You didn't mention that he was aroused when he got naked, so I'm guessing that he wasn't, at least for the brief time that his pants were off.
Sometimes guy just do goofy things, especially around girls, and this could have been one of those times. I'm sure that there was a part of him (no pu intended!) that enjoyed the idea of being naked in front of you, regardless of his reasons.
Not knowing the kind of person he is, it's hard to say exactly what his motivation might have been, but it was certainly a strange response on his part.
Since nothing else happenned, as it seems like you and he are friends and comfortable with each other, I'd forget about it for the time being unless something similar happens in the future.
Bare hugs...
2006-08-24 05:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by nudie chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't have the right to do that. It sounds to me that he wanted to expose himself to you and hopefully it would lead to more. What you probably should have done was turn away from him to make the message clear that an eye for an eye isn't always necessary. Everything else you did was right as far as getting dressed so he couldn't watch and not to bring up the situation again.
2006-08-23 15:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by ynotbeefree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds kinda strange to me. If I were to walk in, I would have done everything the same (apologize) except I don't think I would have insisted you see me naked as well to make up for it.
Perhaps he was hoping that if you saw him naked, you and he would be sexually attracted and more would happen. When it didn't, he probably just said 'oh well' and moved along.
Now, whats going to make you wonder more is, did he file you away in his spank bank?
2006-08-25 19:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He couldn't have felt to apologetic or he wouldn't have subjected you to his nudity!! If you had needed a fair exchange I'm sure you could have made the suggestion on your own! I think he acted like most men would who would want more to go on than what they got - but then I have a theory -men are like dogs - if they can't eat it or screw it, then piss on it.
2006-08-23 02:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by dph_40 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was showing off.... I never heard of such a strange approach to apologies, not in the US, nor elsewhere.
Very icky. Unless you enjoyed that, it may have helped to say that seeing him nude (aka indecent exposure) was another embarassment to YOU, rather than to him.
2006-08-23 03:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently he (as most males would) was wanting to try to maximize on the situation, would you react the same way on seeing a guy naked? or for that matter would he act the same way on seeing a guy naked? uh, no well unless he's... anyways you get my drift?
2006-08-23 02:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by rena2169 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound like a couple of bozos!
2006-08-23 02:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not quite sure what he did...if it wasn't a sexual advance..I don't know what it was.
2006-08-23 02:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it didn't bother you, it's okay. But it's pretty unusual.
2006-08-23 02:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was bs you and he didn't know how to handle this
2006-08-23 02:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋