What is the deal with strip clubs?

Question

I know men are visual creatures...and that they just want to see as many boobs as they can. I try not to take it personal....because I know the pre-occupation doesnt have anything to do with me. My bf and I have been together for around 6 months now, and a few weeks ago he told me he was going to go to a strip club with his brother.Hes very honest and he doesn't keep things from me. It didnt make me mad he was going, but it did bother me.I wonder why if a guy can see (and touch!) for free...why would be pay for it ? I have been to strip clubs, and I offered to take him for his bday a few months ago....we ended up not going, but I think that also made him think I was OK with him going.The part that really gets me is when they get REALLY close....I just dont like the idea of another girl touching my man!! I think as long as he just watched from his chair...and they stayed on stage I wouldnt mind at all. Im just looking for some male....or female (non biased) insight here.

Answer 1

People go to these venues often for the carefree feel of it all. yeah the women can be fun for awhile but after sometime you normalize. Its like the women being topless just seems normal. Plus guys eat up the attention, I used to have friends that worked in clubs I always liked it because it was someplace you could go have a beer alone and I liked watching how well some of the girls would hustle the pervs. Although that was a long time ago, and I do not miss it.
-NmD!

Answer 2

You just answered your question in the question. We guys love the strip clubs because we can see a completely naked woman dancing on a pole for a dollar. Who says men doesn't know how to bargain shop? LOL Why do you care? As long as he isn't slipping one of the dancers a C-note to go out back in the parking lot, everything should be all good.

Better yet, if you do not want him to frequent the strip clubs, try giving him something better at home so he won't need to go to such places. If you can't or won't, let the guy have some fun. There is a potential positive of him going to a strip club. He may come really horny and in need of some "release".

Answer 3

I wouldn't like my boyfriend going to strip clubs because I have friends and associates who are strippers and I know what can happen and what does happen inside and behind the curtains of the strip club. But, men will go and watch and pay and some don't pay, they just watch! I feel like as long as he is honest with you, and you don't have a problem with him going, then its fine, but if you have a problem with it tell him now! If its a once a month or even less than that thing that he does, I wouldn't worry about it, but if its every weekend or throughout the week, I'd have a problem. Men can have five girlfriends and they can all look good, but they will still look at the next woman that looks good also. They're idiots.

Answer 4

Well psychological speaking the women who get real close can care less about the person sitting their. All they want is the drooling fools money! I don't think they have any ideas of taking any of the clients home if you know what I mean. Just is just from an older woman's perspective and sharing my wisdom that I can offer here. I wouldn't get to worried over it. If my husband went I wouldn't be exactly happy either but not because of the women being all over him, its the money he would spend on the non existent women who cares nothing except for the money in the first place. Money is hard to come by and I refuse to support someone elses lifestyle.

Answer 5

well as a guy i will shed some light into your question....guys think with the head that is between their legs 99.99% of the time (at least most do) not likely to change either, but as for strip clubs...im not into the whole concept....i think that kind of profession shows that a woman has no self respect or pride....i know they make good money but there are better ways to make money than that...i should know i flip burgers for 6 dollars an hour....not that great of job...but at least its decent work and i dont have to put up with being treated as an object.....im still having issues with what 2 of my bosses said last week...they're planning on taking 2 days off from work in september and going down on friday night to the nearest strip bar which is 100 miles away...mind you one of them is married and has a new born baby....they say they're gonna make me go, then call a female friend they know and basically arrange for her to be a prostitute....i told them i will not go and that if i have to i will make sure i am working so i cant go...thats how much i dislike strip clubs....and as for your guy....if i were him i wouldnt want to go to some strip club with my brother...i'd want to spend it with my g/f....but i guess the whole "look but dont touch" thing is being applied in this case...i still dont like it though

Answer 6

There's a rule for men at almost all strip clubs-You can look but you can't touch. The strippers are just trying get all the money they can, it's not because they want your guy. It's all about the dollar. At least be happy he's honest with you and tells you were he is.

Answer 7

Look it's just a strip club. it's not like he's going to sleep with the women. Heres an idea why dont you sit down and talk to him about this so he will know that it's bothering you.
And remember he is a men and won't know how you feel unless you tell him.

Answer 8

strip clubs have been around for along time now and men been going so your not the first or the last girl that boyfriend goes to these clubs but i do under stand that it makes you uncomfortable you need to let him know how you feel and men just love to look at a woman body and don't think about the money i guess good-luck

Answer 9

Yes, we are visual. Yes, we can go completely ga-ga over a woman in just a thong or less writhing in front of us.
Have a FRANK, OPEN & HONEST talk with him.
You need to tell him how you feel about it.
You two have been together long enough to discuss these things. I think he would feel the same, if you had some male dancer in a thong rubbing against you.
Each of you have feelings and they should not go unsaid.

Answer 10

This is the thing with guys. Guys like to at least see new things. This may sound offensive, but it's the truth. It's why guys like nude photos of women too, we just like to see naked women, and the more the better.

Another thing to keep in mind, is that I can understand that you don't like the idea of a stripper touching your man, but I'm sure there are plenty of men in the crowd that the strippers don't like the idea of touching either. It's a different context, a stripper doesn't rub her body on a customer because he is cute/smart/funny or whatever, she does it because he pays her to.