What are your views on love, and its longevity?

Question

Alright. I've been thinking a lot lately, and I've been wondering how love works. I mean, people fall in love all the time, but only a select few of these couples last a lifetime. Is it possible to fall out of love? What is it that makes one relationship last until death, and another just a matter of months? Thanks.

Answer 1

There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......

(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.

Answer 2

Love is Love and I think it is special for the amount of time it last.

Whether it lasts a lifetime or a few hours, if both of you loved it then it was worth it.

I have never been one to get caught up in all the hype of love, being loved, how to love, and all that crap.

We as a society have a false view of love. Those damn hollywood movies. Love is not putting letters in a mailbox seperated by two years(i mean come on). Love is whatever you want it to be.

If you want love to be him living there and you living here so be it. And if you want love to mean 4 children, 2 dogs and a picket fence then so be it.

So love is how you want it to be and odds are someone else wants it to be that way also.

Answer 3

Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to either another person, a place, or thing; and may also include the aspect of caring for or finding identification with those objects, including self-love. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.

The concept of love, however, is subject to debate. Some deny the existence of love. Others call it a recently invented abstraction, sometimes dating the "invention" to courtly Europe during or after the middle ages (though this is contradicted by the sizable body of ancient love poetry). Others maintain that love really exists, is not an abstraction, but is indefinable; being a quantity which is spiritual, metaphysical, or philosophical in nature. Some psychologists maintain that love is the action of lending one's "boundary" or "self esteem" to another. Others attempt to define love by applying the definition to everyday life.

Answer 4

Yes it is possible to fall out of love. As far as what makes some relationship slast a lifetime it could be several things including ones values on marriage and or actually having found ones soul mate.

Answer 5

All I can answer here, is that I've been wondering the same things. I look at elderly couples holding hands, and wonder if that is true love (it looks like it!) and how they stayed together so long. In this world of divorce...it's the norm now, you know?! ....it makes us all wonder what it really takes to find "FOREVER" with someone. I believe in it. I have to because it is my dream, and I believe in almost every human spirit, we all have this dream. I believe it is God's will for most of us to live as one with another person, and it is one of the most precious things in the world. I know there are problems and issues that will come up, but at the end of the day........I, like you, wonder what the magical secret is that makes love last forever.

Answer 6

Well having finally experienced the two it is rather simple. True love works because you not only fall in love with the person once, you keep falling for them over and over for me its daily. She doesn't even have to do anything in particular it just happens. I cannot stop and I know it will be this way with or without her for the rest of my life whether I like it or not. I also know this because she was gone for several months and I never thought she was coming back and it was still there chewing at me, true love is dangerous in this right but worth it.
-NmD!

Answer 7

I have been w/ my husband for almost 20yrs, and we have alot of bad times w/ eachother and just life I have 4 kids been married 2x but I feel love is whats in your heart and if you find someone who is willin to keep you around for all your screw ups and faults and you as well w/ them and dont want to give up fighting for what they have then its really love if one or both give up depending on the reasons it mite just be cause they love too much and know the other isnt happy but if they are so easy to just give up then its not real love thats what it means when you say through bad times and good till sickness and health death do us part, we have forgotten what that means and jump so easy in marriage thinkin so easy to get out of now, forgottin what its all about,

Answer 8

Well, i've been in 2 long relationships one that lasted 5 years and the one i'm in and currently engaged is 4 years and going...The first one didn't last because my man wasn't MATURE-he cheated and if I wouldn't have left him, we would still be together. So I think the secret is Maturity, communication, trying new things and not rushing anything! this relationship i'm in now is going great-Good LUCK honey.

Answer 9

o.k...love is great... but sometimes love just falls down like a waterfall....when love "fails" it's because of age,unloyal,patient,no friendship,no communication,no trust,lost of interest and insecurity....and what makes love last a life time well the opposite of all of these above....love will find you but if you treat love with respect it will do the same thing..adn you also don't play w/love....so i hope i helped and answered your questions!

Answer 10

it takes a lot past two yrs to keep it exciting and fresh. I really don't think we are wired to be monogamous