can you forgive?

Question

i forgive easy my self after about 3 or for hours of being mad lol but i never forget. i think we should not only learn for our mistakes but the mistakes of others.
1.what are your views on forgiveness?
2.when do you think forgiveness doesn't apply?
3.what was the hardest thing you ever forgave?

1. you saw mine
2. i think it always applies
3. having my child riped from my arms and the abuse of my family,and my husband cheating on me.

thats right yall i am a woman!

Answer 1

I do forgive OFTEN.

BUT I very rarely forget.

TRUST must be EARNED too.

Answer 2

hey there, well

1. my veiws are that, you need to forgive to release the anger so that the anger and hurt won't grab a hold of you. Also I think that it is good to forgive and sacrafice the paine in hopes that it will bless the person we are forgiving, so they won't hurt other again , we all learn from forgivness. And the forgetting part never happens to forget,,,,,,,,,,,that is another chapter..........

2. IT needs to always apply, but when you are ready, never wait to long.

3. The hardest thing i forgave was , being molested from family member from ages 5-11,

I am a woman too.............

Answer 3

1.I beleive that forgiving is a very important thing. If we could not forgive others we could never go on in this life.
2. Forgiving always applies. Jesus will always forgive us and we as Christians should try to be more like Him.
3. I can not really narrow down one thing that was hardest to forgive. I guess when I felt like my best friend was turning her back on me.

Answer 4

I. It makes me feel better to forgive someone who has wronged me, whether or not they are asking for it or actually want it.

2. Forgiveness always applies. It only depends on whether or not you are willing to forgive.

3. Hardest thing to forgive is people who made my life hell by tring to physically hurt me and who emotionally abused me as a child. I still carry the emotional scars to this day.

Answer 5

my views on forgiving..is that if you don't, you'll keep that crap bottled up inside..until you can't hold it any more and end up doing something stupid...so it is best to let go.

I think that forgiveness don't apply is when you forgave someone before about something and they do it repeatedly.

the hardest thing for me to forgave I'll say being verbally abused as a child, and I still have some issues that I haven't forgave yet..working on it though.

Answer 6

Forgiving is the ultimate act of letting go. Forgiving is giving up on having a better past. Forgivness is letting go of anger and surrendering to the pain. Forgivness is moving forward.

Forgivness always applies. Though I have not mastered it entirely.

Forgiving myself for killing my child. I worked in Orthopedic surgery and exposed myself and unborn son to harmful chemicals and countless times of exposure to x-ray. I was too young and proud and thought it would never happen to me. I was wrong. He lived for 3 days and I held him while he passed. It ripped my marriage apart.Forgiving my brainwashed father for telling me my son died as punishment for my sins. He hasn't forgiven me for breaking his nose though.

I have forgiven myself, am now married to an excellent man and have a beautiful 18 month old daughter.

Answer 7

1.Always forgive, not doing so will only lead to self destruction in the long run.
2. Rape and Murder (someone this low doesn't deserve to live let alone be forgiven in my opinion) maybe they really should be, but it would be awfully difficult.
3. My wife running around on me then divorcing me because I became crippled! ( Funny part we are now as close as 2 people can be without having sex or being married)
Shamus

Answer 8

Hmm Wow...forgiveness I can forgive too but I cant forget tho just like you.
1. my views are that i can only forgive if the person is sorry for their actions
2. it does always apply
3. hmmmmm..nothing yet

Answer 9

1. Forgiveness allows us to grow and benefit from experience, even negative experience. Holding on to hurt and anger only stunts us emotionally and spiritually.

2. It always applies.

3. It's been hardest to forgive myself for my own shortcomings.

Answer 10

1. I never forgive, never forget.
2. In nearly every unforgivable situation I've been in.
3. It'll be a cold day in heck when I forgive him!!

Answer 11

to learn from our mistakes is compulsory... but to learn from other's mistake's may be viewed as voluntarily. see, some argues that to experience something is when we learn knowledge. the actual pain, suffering, the swetness of victory, the agony of defeat... best is for one to experience it by oneself. so much for the saying "tis better to view life from the outside rather than the inside".

it is noticeable that each of us has his/her own levels of forgiving someone or somethings. but better to forgive than to be hated, right? but the point remains, how far can you forgive a person? there are instances that we have to put the foot down, especially when someone or anyone, makes a fool out of you, right? but then, does it make me a sinner? to have the power to forgive yet unyielding for its release? or would you rather be a fool and continue forgiving others despite making you look stupid and mocking you everyday?

the hardest thing therefore to forgive is when someone mocks you, shames you, makes you feel stupid, makes you a fool... that's the hardest thing to forgive. yes, i know it's ego. but what if they performed it in front of your family? wouldn't you hate them then? though, christ teaches us to forgive, sometimes the limits and boundaries should be respected by each and everyone. thus, forgiving is easy, "meaning it" is difficult...