So my mum kicked me out so she could be with her new sleeze boyfriend and i live with my dad now and he pays for me and pretty much all of my brothers(who lives with mum)needs, she gets paid to look after him and she doesnt look after him, her boyfriend pays the rent and bills and she lies to get paid more money. Now she has reported my dad for not paying child support and he has more than 1000 dollars to pay out! Should she be paying child support for me?(i am 16) and how can i get this ***** back?
2006-08-22 17:36:44 · 14 answers · asked by lily paige 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do not sit idly by and let her break the law.Report her. She needs to be paying child support to your father.
2006-08-22 17:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its difficult enough for you that you're having issues with your mother, and that you have concerns about your brother.
The person who needs to do something about what you say is going on is your father. Your father needs to go back to court, ask if the child support can be changed to be appropriate for the present circumstances, and maybe bring up concerns about the care your brother is getting.
This is an option available to your father, and if he chooses to take it great. There is the chance that the court sees things more objectively than you do, however, and if he has tried this at court but the court didn't change the existing orders there is the chance there is something you aren't seeing that the court does.
Try to reserve judgment about your mother. There could be something you don't understand about her situation or her emotional problems (if she has some), and there could be something that your father had done that he isn't going to tell you about. Sometimes mothers don't tell children what fathers have done because they don't want to seem like they want their children to think less of their father. I'm not saying this is the case with your family, but I'm saying consider the possibility that it could be.
You apparently are angry with or even hate your mother at this point because you want "revenge". Any chance she "kicked you out" because you and she were fighting?
If you want to "get her back" you could go to some counselor, tell the counselor you had to leave because of the boyfriend, tell the counselor you have concerns about your brother's care, and tell the counselor you feel your father is being mistreated by the court.
That counselor can take steps (whether by talking to your father or even child services) to do something about the situation if its as bad as you say; and if, by any chance, it isn't and you're just seeing it through angry eyes, that counselor could help you see things more objectively.
Neither of your parents' money concerns should be yours. They are grown-ups. You are still the "child" (although I know you're not a child). Neither of your parents should allow you to take on this kind of mess to worry about, and you shouldn't take it on yourself because, truly, its your father's mess and he should deal with it. If he can't or won't then that should tell you something.
2006-08-23 00:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am sorry that you don't have the relationship with your mother that you deserve. I know first hand that it creates a void within you. But please, do not get involved in this. Do not try to get back at her or to help your dad out. They, as adults, are responsible for your care and how that is handled is between them. Your father has the option of filing for an amendment to the child support order. But if he chooses not to, that is his choice. You need to just take care of you and for your sake, I hope you can forgive your mother.
2006-08-23 00:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support your dad. Complain in the police station near you 4 this and live with dad, if you think he is right.
If you can't live with your dad then have boyfrnd and live with him. Remeber to leave a message before leaving your mom and send copy of that message to police station and dad. So that you dad will not have to pay for your coustedy afterward.
I have a sympathy 4 you...
2006-08-23 02:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by heart_intelligence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i understand your anger..but getting her back isnt the answer..now if you need the money that is different..your right she shouldnt have chose a boyfriend over you..but sadly you cant always tell your mom hay i am important and i am your blood and her listen..if you need the money then i would say take her to court and get the childsupport but i wouldnt do it for getting even. Right now since you are 16 you are learning how to deal with situations that you may have when you get older, and you need to have your mom back..and she needs to realize your important to..
2006-08-23 00:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by away right now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your mom does sound like a *****. what i always say she should be nice to you cause her kids pick out her nurseing home. to get back at her call someone not sure who to call someone with athority and tell them the story. this is such a rediculious situation you have to be in im sorry you had to go through this. were are you even liveing?
2006-08-23 00:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by nikki fm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad would have to take her to court on it but all in all she could end up paying him for you because you are no longer living with your mom. i would try to get that fixed asap. at least get it to where your dad doesn't have to pay on you for the time being and that shouldn't be too hard.
2006-08-23 00:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by penelope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok girl...jus be strong...ur dad needs the support now..i know u must be going thru enuf already.if there ever is a case or somthing make sur eur there to support him in all ways.
2006-08-23 01:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by bianca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ring the child support agency and give them all the info about both of your parents and they will clear it all up.... and yes your mum should be paying support for you..
2006-08-23 01:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join you and your family in a game of Battle Royale.
2006-08-23 00:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Japan_is_home 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋