i have loved my husband sense the day we met almost thats over 29 yrs ago and when i let myself think that one day we may not be a us but a me i just cant see any reason to go on am i not normal or what
2006-08-22 17:29:52 · 21 answers · asked by Msdeb gee 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ya ofcourse.
2006-08-22 17:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by pooh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can probably love someone too much, but the word, "love", itself, means a feeling that, by virtue of what is it, can often seem like "too much".
With regard to the idea that one of you will find yourself alone, and that one could be you.... Don't even think about. Nature gives people a way to get through such stuff. Also, very often if people live to be older by the time their death comes everybody involved is actually ready.
The same would apply if you were to some day break up. Usually, by the time a break-up happens everyone involved is quite ready and able to deal with it.
Is there a chance you could be left alone for one reason or another without the benefit of circumstances that assist with your being ready? Sure, but the world is full of people who lose someone they didn't want to lose any number of people they never wanted to lose and who find a way to move on, be strong and start over.
For now enjoy what you have. If you have reason to think it may be slipping away prepare yourself. If you don't, don't worry about it until it happens. Just think, you could be the one to go first.
Finally, sometimes when we lose someone we find that from that loss we gain a reason to go on that otherwise we may not have found.
2006-08-22 17:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never love someone too much.. You love them as much as you can and thats enough. You have every reason to keep going with your husband. 29 years is a milestone, see if you can do another 29 years. A long and full of love marriage is hard to come by these days. Make the most of it, you are one of the very few in this world you can!
2006-08-22 18:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... I wouldn't say that you can love someone too much..... I don't believe that there is such a thing, but I do believe you can invest too much into the wrong person and end up hurting yourself. Now, you are married to this guy, you've made it 29 years... you've got to be in love with him to get this far! And the same thing with him! Age has it's way of changing things with people, things are getting hard for him to do, he's losing mental sharpness, but don't stop loving him.
I'm actually a younger guy, I haven't even lived 29 years on the earth (I've lived 22 exactly as of right now).... and my experience was with a girl I met about 2 years ago... I didn't have any intention of a relationship with her beyond a friendship, because we lived so far apart.... but I couldn't stop myself for falling for her. And we opened up on a level we had never opened up to anyone before, and I fell deeply in love with her... but the distance between us just tore everything apart... The only problem was that in my heart, I invested too much into her... she became my everything, the greatest part of my day was the part where we talked to each other, and we broke things off, I lost everything that made me happy.... I still love her to death though, I'd still give my life to save hers.... but I've learned that there is nothing wrong with loving someone, but diversify your interests, spread things out and keep things for you to do on your own. If you invest all of your heart and soul into one thing, when it's gone, it devastates you.
2006-08-22 17:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Matt B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between love and obsession. Love is kind, but obsession is hurtful.
It's not possible to love too much. As long as your husband's not beating on you or being verbally abusive and stuff, just love, love, love.
I'm happy for you, continued luck! I'm 30 and never got to be married yet!
2006-08-22 17:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him which is a good thing after 29 yrs Congrads!, but i mean you are so used to being with him for so long you wouldnt want to be alone, god for bid any thing happens you will be able to go on with life because its an amazing thing... well Good luck
2006-08-22 17:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, but life has something in store for all of us one day, so if something was to happen where you and your husband are no longer 2 gether it will be hard for a long time but life goes on! You were born by yourself and you can do things by yourself!
2006-08-22 17:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe its possible to love too much, when you find that love its hard to let go but you always remember the good times and hes still with you so enjoy it while hes here
2006-08-22 17:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he treats you right, and you still find time for YOU and you take care of yourself and treat yourself and have time alone with your friends, then the answer is no. but if he takes advantage of you, yells/hits you and you still come crawling back and YOU'RE the one offering forgiveness, then YES.
i would RUNAWAY.
but sounds like you're in a good one, so keep at it! :)
2006-08-22 18:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by WiseWisher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's great that you love him so much but it sounds like dependency to me.. I won't ever let myself become dependent on ANYONE or ANYTHING in order to be completely happy.
2006-08-22 17:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your normal u just got 2 face the fact that evryone dies and intill then live your life as u please.....lil ma
2006-08-22 17:58:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋