how to live a life with higher self-esteem when you have an abnormality?

Question

if you're suffering a physical defect

Answer 1

Always keep in mind that you are a human and that you are unique. I think if you try to get over the fact in your mind that you have it, then others wont really notice it either. You are as good as anyone, always remember that.

Answer 2

My self-esteem has pretty much always come from my abilities and other attributes. I am smart. I am a talented musician. I have a great smile!

There are times when it bothers me very much that I have really bad scoliosis (curvature of the spine), but I have learned to live with it. I try to not let it limit me or affect my relationships with other people.

There was a time when I was very self-conscious about it (how I looked, that I was 'messed up', that I could not be the athlete I wanted to be). I would not wear swimsuits that showed much of my back. I am actually a couple of inches shorter than I should be, but I can joke about it now.

I found that the best way to deal with it is to be honest. I don't like having to be helped with things, but there are times when even though I know I am strong enough, I can still get hurt. Not being too proud to ask for help when you need it can actually be a freeing experience.

But also - don't throw a pity party! Most people wouldn't wish it on you that you have whatever it is. They usually don't know what to say or do if a person who has some issue complains all the time. (My co-worker who has bad knees, migraines, insomnia, day blindness, and who knows what else, drives me crazy-- I understand pain, I am sympathetic to his plight, but I hear about it every day I work with him.)

It's important to realize that you are not defined by just one thing about your body or personality, but you can use what you learn from living with it to shape yourself into a better person.

Answer 3

Once in a while, hang out with folks who have similar issues. No one except them will ever understand what's going on with you.

I know this from being an alcoholic. I go to AA not so much for the program dogma, but to meet and share "war stories" with other alcoholics. Like any disability, no one understands alcoholism like other alcoholics. Besides, it's a good way to meet nice people and get valuable advice on managing the disease.

Call the local hospitals to see if they have any **free** support programs or can recommend any. That's probably the best place to start. Your insurance may also pay for participation in fee-based groups, but make that your lowest priority. The kind of fellowship I'm suggesting should be free.

Hey, it works for me. Good luck!

Answer 4

first of all why a physical defect happens! every one have to think about it. no one in the universe except GOD can interfere with this. just remember that anyone can be subjected to such a problem but it is out of control... so why should i under-estimate myself for things i can never change. add to this any creature on earth can be subjected to physical defect during life... so ... can we alter this fact... "to be evaluated weshould sit for an exam" and if you will think about physical defect as "under-estimate" so you really failed the test...

Answer 5

Just remember that no ones perfect, and that you are very special because there is no one like you. Every body in the world has their week points.

Answer 6

First of all, don't think of it as a "defect". Think of it as something that very few other people (if any) have.

Answer 7

I completely agree with laduron7

Answer 8

focus on what you can do and do it. and normal compared to what?