I am a cheater I have cheated in almost all my realtionships, it doesn't matter if it is a good or bad relationship and I don't cheat and get anything out of it but sex and not always good sex I have hurt a few good people I am always sorry How do I stop?
2006-08-22 16:58:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have an issue with commitment. It could stem from being in bad relationships, it could stem from growing up in a home that there was a bad relationship, divorce, cheating, abuse.......etc.
But you have a problem with commitment, and this is your sub conscience way of dealing with it. If you cheat then you know you don't have to commit, that the relationship is going to fail eventually.
Your best bet is to figure out why you are having such a hard time with commitment and then deal with the past issues that are causing it.
And having an issue with commitment does not necessarily make you a bad or sorry person. You may have a very logical psychological reason for it that needs to be dealt with.
I wish you all the best and hope that you can find what you are repressing in your sub conscience that is causing this issue. As everyone deserves to find their soul mate and live in a healthy and happy relationship.
2006-08-23 07:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I used to cheat also on people. I once had 7 relationships going on at once. I was a cheater because none of the people I dated had anything I liked in a man or weren't my type. Eventually when I realized there was a guy I really wanted and went after him I was satisfied and stopped my cheating and when I found the urge I thought of all his qualities i fell in love with, we've been together for a year and a half my longest relationship. I think sex should wait until a further point in the relationship until you are both comfortable sometimes that causes people to hurt each other, try this and see if it works.
2006-08-23 00:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say that there is nothing wrong with you except for the fact that you've developed a bad habit. You've come to terms with your behavior and that is the first step to putting a stop to your cheating.
From what you've described it sounds like self-sabotage. Take an honest look at all the relationships you've cheated your way out of and see if you can find a common link.
Is there something specific that triggers you to cheat on your partner at a certain time in the relationship? Or is it just about you and your comfort level. A lot of people have fears about people getting close to them. I myself have some control issues. Cheating maybe just your way of coping. Once you figure out what causes you to cheat, just make a conscious not do it in your next relationship.
Practice not cheating. If you know you want to be with someone else simply break off your current relationship before taking up with another person. You can be faithful. You just need to take responsibility & make better choices. Good Luck.
2006-08-23 00:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, deep down you already know you don't want to spend the rest of your life with that person so it gives you an excuse to cheat. Maybe you will find "the one" and cheating won't enter your mind. You may also want to consider not getting in into a committed relationship if you know you can't be faithful. Be up front and honest, let them know right away. If they can't handle it, then it's one less person that you've hurt.
2006-08-23 00:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to watch out, cause this is going to come back on you 10 fold. when your not ready, youll never expect it. but you can not do so bad without it coming back on you. you obviously cant stop. so have your fun before this **** hits you. sex is good, but the luv of one person is best. knowing that you can come home and see that person there waiting for only you, then spending the rest of the day, then sleeping next too that person at the end of you nite is the best feeling in the world. let yourself go free, fall in luv! its okay. thats what people do. but once you do, be careful, cause that person you let yourself go too, can jack you up, when some thimg you pulled on a ladie in the past , gets pulled on you. theres no hurt worse in life. if youre having fun, then dont stop. but if you know what youre doing is wrong, then stop now, and come clean with yourself. and hope the **** dont hit you in the back side later.
2006-08-23 00:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by rob 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the first step is to realize that you have aproblem of cheating. Now what is the real problem ? You need to fix you before you go draging other people into your cycly of abused relationships. Cheating isn't only hurting the other person is it? I think that you have learned that it is hurting you. YOU are lookining for validation by being able to get who you want when you want. Start by loving your self first, then try to get into a relationship.......ok.................good luck!!!!!!!! just really look into your soul and find out what youare really looking for.
2006-08-23 00:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by expression 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you , now you are addicted to sex only and keeping yourself happy for the time being , it is OK as this is your life and body . PLEASE give a thought ,when you will be at middle age , you will not be so attrective as to-day , that time you need some body around you two saisfy your deep desire and there will be no one . You will litterly cry & due to your bad known reputation no body will come forward to be with you or showing their concern or sympathy or to be your friend , you will be absolutely a lone toubled human loitering around in search of peace , joy and happiness . Now choice is yours . Good luck .
2006-08-23 00:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really serious you should treat yourself to a few weeks of therapy. You sound like you have some ego issues....you need to feel important or special and you keep having to feed that need. Besides yourself your also hurting other people get some help.
2006-08-23 00:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick some activity or something to do that you can carry with you whenever you see anyone who causes any temptation... Maybe a really good book, some pocket- sized game (or a gameboy), anything that will get your mind off of these persons.
2006-08-23 00:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Isabella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat... nobody's holding a gun to your head. Have a little respect for the person you're dating. Grow up!
2006-08-23 00:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by Shooter 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋