why,.....?

Question

why is lifw so hard to go through, i never asked anythign from God,even if i had, its nothing more then my father's safety and his happiness is that very much to ask?i admit i had give alot of problem to my father since i cant walk and all, i admit i was useless and i made him angry, i know he would be much happier without me,i killed my mother too, he laways said if i wasnt bron my mother wouldnt have died, but why is my father tested this way, what wrong did he do, he is in a coma, i dont knwo what to do, i should have stopped him form going to work that day, i should have, but y are we humans tested this way when other friends from this site, told me in a few of my questions that He would protect us and if we have faith He would help,i dont understand why..why my ftaher is given such problem, why..i want him to be safe, they say praying would help i prayed, but why?

Answer 1

Dear Rivern, I am going to answer in the order You asked Your questions. Everyone has trials to go through. You know We both have, and so have Others. Your Dad has to choose to be happy, by seeking those gifts that make One happy. You have not given anyone a lot of problems because You can not walk. You said Yourself, You do not care if Your Dad can not walk, that You would help Him. Your the Son, Your Dad should have done as well with You, even better. You are brilliant, I can't imagine that You could ever be useless. That is only a word that was repeatedly forced upon You. We all have contributions to life, and to Others. See You are helping tremendously now, and I am sure You have in the past. Praying for Your Dad's safety, and happiness. Those are not the deeds of a useless Person. In fact there are NO useless People. You said You made Him angry, that is His cross to bear, not Yours. Like the old saying, People have the same pants to get happy in, that They have to get mad (angry) in. People who abuse Others try to make it seem as if it is Their fault. It is not Your fault, Your Dad gets angry. You did not kill Your Mom, You did not kill Your Mom. You did not kill Your Mom. Please hear Me, You did not kill Your Mom. Your Dad doesn't know how long Your Mom might have lived, had You not been born. And for Him to say that to You, again is abuse. Look at all You have said about Your Dad, just the facts, and You question why He may be tested? We reap what we sow. You have already stated what wrong He has done. And that is just a small portion of His anger. Your doing just what You should be doing, You are there for Him. Your not saying, to Your Dad - Your worthless because You had an accident. And - You are useless now that You may not be able to take care of Yourself, or Me. Something He may have said to You. You could not have known that this was going to happen, and He wouldn't have listened and stayed home. It is not Your fault. God does help us, and keep us safe. He was safe for how many years? Never doubt God. And yes God will help You. He is with You both now and always, but He doesn't always give us what We want. He does however always give us what We need. Your Dad was given such a problem, because He was involved in an accident. That is why they are called accidents. Just keep praying. Praying isn't like magic, where We rub a lamp and a genie pops out and grants Our wishes immediately. You have to keep praying, stop being angry, at least try, and have Faith. Faith that, if it is God's Will, Your Dad is going to be well. Keep believing that. Keep that in Your heart. Don't openly express doubt, or anger in front of Your Dad, about His condition. Keep talking to God, He hasn't given up on either of You, so don't give up on Him.

Now please don't be upset with My answer, You know I truly care about You. I simply answered the questions you gave, in the order in which You stated them.
It is like the black and white cards, this has a meaning, You just have to find out what that meaning is.

Much Love,

Muffin Ann

Answer 2

Rivern, it's not your fault, none of this is your fault. I know it's hard for you to believe that because of how you've been treated and all the things your father has said to you over the years. Maybe he is in the situation he's in so that he can understand you better, or because he never showed you the love you so desperately need and deserve. I don't know. But I've been reading through your questions and I'm glad to see you've found some friends on here and that you have found hope in the answers you've gotten. I wish I could know so much more about you specifically, like how old you are and where you live, and I wish there was a way I could help. The only thing I can do is pray-- which by the way is a pretty simple thing to do, you just talk to God kind of like you talk to us on here, tell him what's on your mind and ask for His help. It sounds like He is answering anyway because although this turn of events is very difficult for you now, I think it's part of His bigger plan for your life. My heart aches for you and I want to say just hang in there. Your father will need you when he comes out of the coma and I hope he will finally understand and appreciate your great love for him.

Answer 3

There are so many things that we don't understand but you should trust that God knows better, Just imagine this situation:
Imagine that you where praying for your father to be safe, and God knew that your father was going to be accused of some legal fraud or something really bad was going to happen to him if he went some place for vacation and the only way to stop him was with a coma,there God decided that the safest place for him was a coma right now, probably your father is not suffering at all, probably he is way better tan he would if he were living his life normally. There is no way you could know what was going to happen to him, so you can't tell that where he is know is the worst scenario. Just trust that if you asked for his well being, God is doing so, because God is love. And please don't blame yourself for any of this, you need to be strong and try to accept life because you don't have the power to improve the things that happen around you, you only have the power to learn to deal with them the best you can.
don't stop praying please!! That's all that is left.

Answer 4

Nope you did'nt kill your mom and you did'nt do anything to hurt your dad,our journey is already planned baby from day one.You think it's you but it isn't.Things happen for a reason,sometimes we can't see or know the reason,if you ask he will show you the way.We are all tested to see if we will hold on,it's all about faith.He's always on time and he never let's us down.Try looking at the bigger picture they're is one but it's up to you to find it.Because you see you're asking people for the answer and we can't give you one,sure we will all have something nice to say to you but when you cut the computer off you will be alone,so you need to seek the answers to the question you are wanting to know so that you will be content.God bless you.

Answer 5

I'm sorry that your beloved father is in coma right now. And I'm sorry too for what you're going through. Don't lose faith and just firmly believe in your heart that the hurting you feel for your parents will be erased with time. Now, those people who advised you before were right in saying those things about faith. Remember that faith can move mountains no matter how enormous they are. For all you know, one day, a medical expert will come your father's way to bring him back his consciousness. But if it does not happen, let God do what is best for your father. You really need to pray hard without questions in your mind.

Don't blame yourself for your mother's death. It was not your fault. You didn't ask to be born but you were born because God wanted you to live.

Always sit beside your father and whisper to his ears your words of love and support for him. You can do this affirmation and believe that it will help your father to recover. PUT YOURSELF IN YOUR FATHER'S SHOES AND FEEL AS IF YOU WERE YOUR FATHER. THEN SAY THESE WORDS SOFTLY AS IF IT IS YOUR FATHER WHO IS SAYING THEM THROUGH WHISPERS IN HIS EARS "WITH THE HELP OF GOD, I WILL STAND ON MY FEET AND BE WELL AGAIN TO SHOW MY SON THAT I LOVE HIM. I AM WELL, I AM STRONG, GOD LOVES ME." Say this affirmation with belief and dedication over and over again as many times as you can. Don't get tired of doing this with your prayer for his recovery. Believe me, I read a lot of books about miraculous healings through affirmations and you should give it a try.

Well, you can do similar affirmations that will suit you and you may see yourself walking again. NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry for your bad times, honey. Remember that we all have bad times. Your dad's safety and happiness is not too much to ask, but sometimes the answer is "no". You did not kill your mom. You could not have stopped your dad from going to work that day, God really is looking out for you. Breathe deep, slow and repeat until you don't have shallow panicky breaths. There is a plan, although we don't understand it. I believe you are an innocent. You aren't responsible. That also makes you (and please pardon me for saying so) fairly arrogant for thinking that life, death and in-between situations rest with you. Pray, cry, and please, please see a counselor to work through this. I wish you and your dad the best.

Answer 7

we are all here to learn our lessons from a previous life and will make the same mistakes till we get tit right , so.... keep the faith and pray to god and tell him you have faith in him ! and things WILL get better but you really have to mean it........ god knows if you dont or not, cause hes god. your dad may just be in the coma for a little while because god thinks he needs to rest for a while, i'm sure your mothers spirit is here on earth , her spirit maybe is in the nurse treating him, doesnt that bring a smile to your face :-)

Answer 8

Keep praying... God will answer your prayers... right now... it's hard, but God just may be testing you. To see how you keep faith through the hard times! Just keep up the praying and don't blame yourself... none of it is your fault! Everything happens for a reason!

Answer 9

don't worry. there are good times followed by bad & then good. your problems will soon be over. don't worry. keep faith in GOD.

Answer 10

bthecae yits a dyenast, sow. ue nknank hfaas.