my bf "matt" ok i really like him i tell him i love him he tells me he loves me and we hug and cuddle and that crap but he seems to refuse to even try and kiss me i dont know why!
1. does he really love me
2.why wont he kiss me
2006-08-22 16:30:37 · 14 answers · asked by xsweetypiex 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A looooong time ago I ran into the same problem. So I asked the guy what was up and he simply told me because he was afraid what would happen after that. He wasnt to sure if he would be able to control himself and since he was a few years older than i was and I still being under age he didnt want to do something that he might regret after. Once I gave him the green light that he need not worry I couldnt keep his lips off of me and I ended up breaking up with him since thats all he ever wanted to do. If he is still pretty young then he probably has never kissed before and doesnt know how. If you are both still young look at it this way you have plenty of years ahead of you to worry about kissing so dont push it to much now. You'll apreciate it alot more when you are older too.
2006-08-22 16:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been with you for more than a month without kissing, he loves you. As I see it, there are five possibilities:
1: You have bad breath.
2: He thinks he has bad breath
3: He's SUPER conservative.
4: He's had a traumatic kissing-related experience.
5: He's terrified of germs.
I don't think you have bad breath. Most guys would dump their girls pretty quick if that was the problem, unless some recent change has caused this. However, a little more care when flossing, and brushing, less smoking, and more water in your diet might help.
I don't think he has bad breath, because you probably wouldn't be wanting him to kiss you if he did. Maybe he thinks he has bad breath though. You can talk to his friends perhaps, as someone is probably feeding him bad information. Alternately, you can start talking aroung school, or wherever about how bad you want to kiss him in such a way that the word is likely to get around. if that doesn't work after a few weeks, you might have a friend ask you what makes you want to kiss him so bad, and you can exaggerate how nice his breath smells a little bit as one reason.
I can't tell if he's super conservative or not. Exactly what "cuddle and all that crap" means is a major indicator here though. If he's grabbing your buttocks, or groping your mamaries, his conservative nature probably is not an issue. On the other hand, if cuddling, hugging, and writing love notes is all that crap, he may be pretty conservative, and afraid that kissing will lead him down the path to hell. Find out if he goes to church, and maybe you can talk to his pastor some time.
Germ phobias are pretty common these days. Try sharing soda, or something like that where swapping spit goes on. If he seems reluctant, this may be the issue.
Traumatic kissing related incidents tend to be bizzare, and hard to handle. that's one possibility you'll just have to talk to him about. Note that some guys are really uptight about sharing, so you may want to eliminate the other possibilities first... as much as you can.
2006-08-22 16:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are preteens, maybe it's because he's still a kid in his head and hasn't gotten used to the idea of kissing. Boys mature a little slower after all.
2006-08-22 16:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is abit queer.He loves you and doesnt kiss you.Man, have you asked him why he hasnt kissed you yet? Is he gay? I think that it might be time for a long talk about that issue especially if you two have been together for awhile.If not he might have kissed anyone before.But yeah talk to him
2006-08-22 16:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kiwi GurL3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two were honest with each other (you say you like him but tell him you love him) you could ask him instead of random strangers who have no idea what's going on inside his head. I suggest you start with the honesty right now and go from there.
2006-08-22 16:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please Don't get me wrong...but first the obvious...Have you tried some TIC TACS?
You seem too young, and sometimes at certain age kids don't do stuff because they are insured, I am sure he loves you...otherwise he wouldn't be with you, try kissing him, may be he doesn't know how would you react to that, he probably thinks you might reject him.
2006-08-22 16:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves u he would kiss u but it realy depends on how long u 2 have been dating
and he probably doesnt feel secure or is a bad kisser or thinks hes ganna screw up
2006-08-22 16:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mr.Gentlemen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that guy said he loves , then it is for sure that he loves you. maybe he feels shy to kiss u .go & make the first move. i'm sure he'll feel good & probably, kiss u the next time.
2006-08-22 16:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is worried about his breath or he has been told he was a bad kisser so he isn't comfortable kissing you afraid you will think so too
2006-08-22 16:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have a physiological problem with kissing, ever thought about it?
2006-08-22 16:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by Michael JENKINS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋