I fell out with my father recently over things that make it impossible to reconcile, yet i think my father may try and patch things up. I worry because this happened to my sister and my father tried to get to her by her friends and with some he got a little violent. Should I warn my friends about him not knowing if my father will turn up or leave it to chance that he wont?
2006-08-22 16:22:40 · 13 answers · asked by tateypops 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that if they are your friends, then it is best to be open and honest about your thoughts and feelings.
That way, they can be prepared to be very cautious about dealings with your father.
Good luck.
2006-08-22 16:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only should your friends be warned, you should also inform the police.
We do not know what the bust up was about or if your sister left for the same reason.
Take your sister with you and explain the full story, if you are a youngster there is a service at the police station for young people.
If you think resorting to the police not the way you want to turn, find your local social service, (you can get their address from the town hall)
In all cases the full story needs to be known and this as you rightly deduced isn't the right forum.
"Daddy Dave"
2006-08-24 05:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your friends what they can expect from your father even if he hasn't done anything yet. It is best that they be informed as to what they could be dealing with and perhaps, why. You say that he was a little violent with your sister's friends, I think it wise you let them know and not leave it to chance. Might feel like you are kinda giving your dad a bad name but if he has done wrong before then there's no reason why he wouldn't do it again. He shoulnd't be going through friends to get to his children anyway.
I hope maybe this can be of some help :)
2006-08-22 16:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by iEMO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that you haven't told them already?
1 Are you afraid that they will look at your dad differently because of what he did to your sister's friends?
2 Are you afraid your friends will keep away from you to avoid problems?
3 Are you afraid your friends will strike first before your dad does anything to them if you forewarn them?
Unless it's the third option above, I see no reason not to tell your friends. If they treat your dad differently or especially if they treat you differently, then may be they are not truly your friends to start with.
If it's the third case, then I think the best solution would be for you to go talk to your dad before anything bad happens. Just tell him you need time to think, which is true, because when parents are concerned, the 'impossible to reconcile' often becomes possible over time as both sides soften their stances.
Good Luck!
2006-08-22 18:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by ekonomix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to warn them I'd say. If he has a track record, don't leave it to chance.
But think again about not being able to reconcile, otherwise you may regret the stupidity later in life.
2006-08-22 16:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by The Lone Gunman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have a chat with your gp about your father and his behaviour. violence and threatening behaviour is never ok but may be caused by a health problem that you and your sister could get support for caring for him. yes you should warn your friends.
2006-08-22 20:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell them. It is their friendship with you that would be exposing them to "danger", so they should be prepared for whatever might happen, at least have an idea of what to expect.
Better to err on the side of caution.
2006-08-22 17:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by camilledg127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them. If there is any chance he could become violent, they need to be prepared.
2006-08-22 16:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them what happened to ur sisters friends and warn them to stay away from him. make sure you tell them why so they know you are serious.
2006-08-22 16:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, by all means, warn them..........If he got "a little violent" once he'll do it again.........Take care dear and remember.........He's your dad, you have to love him but you SURE don't have to like the things he does..........
2006-08-22 16:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋