Girl Help From A Shy Guy?

Question

There is a girl at school I really like but i dunno if she is really interested in me. In the beginning i took in slowly just chatting a bit here and there , some how managing to get her phone number but lately things have just fallen apart, we rarily talk and most of it is online. Ive thougght about phoning her but i think it might feel really awkward and when i talk to her face to face, i get really nervous. If i dont do something now i believe that i will regret it forever because she really means the world to me. PLease help, need advice on what i should do in this situation, should i go back to school and start talking to her right away or should i give it time? Please Help!

Answer 1

i think you did good for starters! if you feel like things have fallen apart, put yourself back in her life :). she obviously means a lot to you, so dont give it anymore time--talk to her at school! say hi when you pass her in the halls, smile at her, start up the small talk face to face again. you've got to take the initiative. if you have a class together, maybe sit next to her. perhaps then you'll get more comfortable around her. as you become closer friends and you get to know each other better, ask her out :). if your worried that you might run out of things to say, think about doing something interactive like bowling, and then a dinner, so you'll have something to talk about :).
best of luck!

Answer 2

First, ask her if she is single(the suggestion above my answer is really good), this will give her the biggest hint, so she'll say "yeah, why do u ask?", at this point she basically knows wats on ur mind, so say........"i think ur cute/i have some special feelings for u and i'd like to take u out sometime." The first date should be something unusual(e.g, rollerskating or something),so u can know each other better, a movie will be very usual and she will think thats a boring idea.....u wont get a lot of time to talk while watching a movie. Y'see, women are kinda submissive and find it hard to say no to something unusual(gimme ur # is usual and they have practice rejecting it.)......so be creative and surprising, she'll love it. It'll work, if u use ur head and dont goof up, and....NO PUPPY LOVE!!, desperation will turn her off. i guess thats it, gimme 10 points if u think its a nice answer:)

Answer 3

I can sort of connect, since I get all nervous whenever I'm on the phone, and then we the convo is over and I hang up, I always deeply exhale and lay down, like I just ran a mile. But talking face-to-face and online chatting is so much easier, and I'm never tense. I guess that's just another weird thing about me.

But if you like her, call her, dude! (First find out if she's single, lol). But first write down on a paper or something what you want to say to her, and read it off when you are on the phone with her. Ask her if she wants to go see a movie, then go for ice cream or something. While eating ice cream with her, ask her out on a second date (if that first one went well).

Hope I helped. Good luck, man.

Answer 4

well being a girl, i guess if i were her i would want some kind of contact wit you....call her up and just see if she has any classes with you or just ask how she's been, you'll feel better once you do..and once you actually get past "hello" in the conversation it wont be as hard...maybe you are like me...always anticipating things are goign to be harder than they actually are then after you actually accomplish what you want you feel soooo much better!
i actually am in a similar situation with a guy, who i have e-mailed a couple times and called once over the entire summer, we are friends but i really like him, on the first day i plan to act real casual and say hey missed you and give him a hug....

maybe you could try somethign similar???

hope everythign works out though! good luck~

Answer 5

ok man... talking to her on the phone is a good start, but talking to her in person is the best option. You'll get to read her body language, and get to see what's going on. Talking in person is the best thing to do. By the way 85% of communication is non-verbal, so like i said your best bet is in person. Good luck man. Be confident. It's ok to be nervous, but don't smoother her with conversation. Assess how things are going and take it day by day. If it's going bad, bail out and move on, but if it seems to be flowing, go with it.

Answer 6

Give her a call and ask her how she's doing. Maybe you could ask her to go to a movie or something. Be confident if you like her and if you make your feelings known and she doesn't feel the same at least you'll know.

Answer 7

stop with the online stuff. you should want to talk on the phone. and when you do keep it to a minimum so she doesnt think its like stalking to talk online and on the phone. just make simple conversation when your face to face. hows school going? any activities going on? blah blah

Answer 8

If she means that much to you, why are you asking? Of course talk to her. It's hard to keep up an internet or phone relationship. Good luck!

Answer 9

I think you should start talking to her again...and try to call her sometime...just talk to her and when you find the right time, tell her how you feel....because you WILL regret if you didn't tell her...hope this helped

Answer 10

Dear, you are going to have to suck it up and get over whatever phobia is prohibiting you from talking to her........Write her a note and tell her how you feel........She probably thinks that you are just not that interested since you didn't try harder to pursue her.....Hang in there, handsome, it'll all work out fine.........