if your spouse died and you specifically asked his former minister to attend the service and he didn't attend?
2006-08-22 16:15:49 · 15 answers · asked by herenthere 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
the minister's wife contacted me, asking if there was anything that she and her husband could do. I said the only thing that I ask is that you both be in attendance for my husband's service. So they knew about the service
2006-08-22 16:35:30 · update #1
I would be very hurt for one then I would give him a call and ask why he didnt come. Shame on him.
2006-08-22 16:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
attend the service? If it was his former minister, would his feelings be hurt, he was not ask to perform the service? You say, wait...he is a minister. He is not suppose to have feelings? Interesting. Ministers are people. Not perfect.
However. Rumor has it, the Pope is perfect. He has no room for feelings.
I believe, I would just sit back and think about the situation for a while before I jumped to any conclusion.
They did call, right? They did ask. Right? To be quite honest, I have not seen many ministers at the normal funeral. I'm sure they have they're own flock to attend too.
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Just a thought.
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2006-08-22 23:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be hurt until I started thinking about it and then I'd assume that there was a really good reason why he wasn't there. If he's a minister at another church now, his first obligation is to those people, not to his former church. But if he said that he'd attend my spouse's service, I'd want to know why he didn't attend.
2006-08-22 23:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Fairview Searcher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ministers are busy people. They attend lots of funerals, weddings, etc.,. It's would be virtually impossible to attend all of them, and its highly possible he just forgot. I wouldn't read too much into it.
I live my life by this rule: Don't take offense at ideas not expressed in words. You should simply assume that people like you untill they say otherwise. That way, it is easier to forgive their shortcomings as an insensitive oversight, rather than an intentional insult.
2006-08-22 23:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't jump to any conclusions about it I would go and talk to the minister and ask him about it if it bothered me. It could be any number of reasons like he had some other pressing duties to attend to.
2006-08-22 23:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be hurt because that would be important... I'd want to hear the minister's side of the story though....
2006-08-22 23:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by Meemah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. I've not been in that position.
It wouldn't hurt to ask if there was a problem. Members of clergy do get bogged down from time to time.
Blessings )O(
2006-08-22 23:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, my spouse and I are Atheist. But in your situation, I'd be a little hurt.
2006-08-22 23:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by Spookshow Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably figure out why he didn't come. Unless it was "I do not like your former spouse", then you should be tolerant.
2006-08-22 23:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by drink_more_powerade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instictively I'd be too busy looking around for him, to see if he's late. Then I would reconsider, think about the possibilities.
2006-08-22 23:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋