I've known this girl for a few months now. i really like her and even tho i dont think she feels the same way about me, i really want to tell her but i dont want to make things weird between us afterwards. i really want to remain friends with her even if her response is no but i'm not sure what to say or how to say it... should i even risk telling her?
2006-08-22 16:08:43 · 11 answers · asked by Eddie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want my opinion, being friends with somebody before you take it further is actually a very sensible way to begin. Somebody who is not willing to be your friend before they are your lover can really not be all that interested in you as a person. I was friends with my boyfriend for almost five years before anything romantic happened between us, and we have a wonderful relationship, so it can succeed very well.
I think that the best approach for you would probably be to talk to her and explain how you feel. If you truly are great friends, then if she doesn't feel this way about you too then it shouldn't effect your friendship afterwards. If you are a friend you would respect her wishes and respect the limits.
good luck, and remember nothing ventured nothing gained!
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2006-08-22 22:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her out somewhere with you, like to a movie or a museum or a game or hiking or whatever you both like. If she's seems game for it, try to show her the more fun and interesting side of you that she might not have seen before, and be a little more flirtatious. Don't tell her your intentions, but keep showing her a good time and keep her guessing. Sometimes you can hook a girl this way.
If she doesn't seem interested, though, don't push it.
If you go out a few times and you still aren't sure, but she definitely seems to like you as a friend, then it's worth it to tell her your feelings. Even if she doesn't feel the same way about you, your admission won't ruin your friendship.
2006-08-22 23:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a male best friend for about 6 months that I had a crush on, but didnt want to ruin the friendship by letting him know. Eventually, he told me he liked me as more than a friend. That was 5 years ago and we are now living together and talking about marriage. I'd tell her and then if she doesnt have those feelings for you, try to find someone else and just continue to be "just friends'' with her. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-22 23:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u don't tell her your gonna kick your self in the *** for it anyways but i think u should tell her depending on the type of person she is, if shes the kinda that acts like a complete tart and uses the fact that u like her to play games with u then don't. but if shes the total opposite then u just have to ask, u never know maybe she feels the same or wanna give it a try just as much as u do.
and if it turns out that she doesn't feel the same way u do just keep your chin up, your back bone Strong and keep on looking.
2006-08-22 23:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by tifa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to spend the rest of your life regretting losing her as a friend than spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been.
Just pick you moment and go for a kiss, go slowly and give her plenty of time to make to decide if she wants you to or not.
If she backs away the be prepared to say something like, 'Sorry I was just overcome by the need to kiss you'.
2006-08-23 00:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had exactly the same situation.....and to cut a long story short.... I just kissed her....it worked out welll and now she is the love of my life!!!!!! N.B I did plan to say 'sorry I was overwhelmed by you' if she gave me the brush off - so as long as you have a back-up plan - as in a 'sorry' about that clause you'll be fine.....and send me an invite to the wedding!!
2006-08-22 23:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by keriandjelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing ventured nothing gained . tell her if she is a real Friend she won't get weird with you and by the way most people call there partner there best Friend .
2006-08-22 23:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by chotpeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it will harm the relationship to say anything, then don't say anything. Just spend time with her, be natural and she will work it out for herself.
2006-08-22 23:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by The Lone Gunman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know tell her honestly and it won't result ruin your friendship may be your lucky because she also same feeling like you have! just be honest to her ok1 gooooooooooooood luck
2006-08-22 23:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by stephenking28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be like," hey what would you think if things went farther than just Friendship?" and see what she says.
2006-08-22 23:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋