I had a friend about 6 years ago commit suicide! Still til this day I have dreams that I find her in her room hangin! In my dream I am running to her house to save her when I get there it is too late! Is there a way to stop dreaming this! I wake up crying everytime, I dream of it at least once every 2 weeks, I dotn know what to do anymore! That's how she really died, by hangin herself. I was devastated when it happend, but I dont want to dream about it anymore! any ideas on how to stop them or is it even possible to stop them? any advice?
2006-08-22 16:06:39 · 19 answers · asked by woohooo 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes there is a way to stop it but you have to admit you have a problem and you need to seek professional help. If you are a teenager then have your parents make appointment to see a psychologist and if you are not a teenager then you see one. Or go to a clinic to find one if the cost is to much.
You need to let your feeling out and tell someone how you feel about this terrible thing that happened to your friend. You have to understand that you are not responsible for her death and she was very depressed, if you were not trained you would never suspected it or you would never have seen it coming.
I understand exactly how you feel as I have had one of my best Friends commit suicide. It is always in the back of my mind but I have been able to get over the guilty feelings, that I should have done something. But I was only a teenager and didn't really see the signs or understand how deep the problem was.
Seek help as soon as you can as you are having the reoccurring dreams due to your sub-conscience, as you feel deep down you could have or should have help her in some way. It is not your fault.
Good Luck
2006-08-22 16:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey you may need to see a therapist to help you get over what is going on with you. Obviously this person that ended your life meant a great deal to you or you wouldn't care. A therapist may be able to help you cope with the situation a little better, maybe its time to do this now before this completely ruins you. You keep dreaming about it because it obviously had such a deep impact on your life and your self conscious and this is the reason why you can't seem to get over this. Honey please ask for help now so that you may work this out. Don't get discouraged if you don't feel relief overnight these things take time for the mind to heal but please ask for help.
2006-08-22 16:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't control our sub conscious but you may try doing something pleasant before going to sleep. Reading something positive or listening to uplifting music. I think trauma causes us to have dreams and you were really traumatized so, even though it hurts and it is upsetting it may be something you have to go through. Time is a great healer, you will never get over it but with time you should have these dreams less often. Pray before bedtime also, ask God to please help you get through this and not bring it into your thoughts when you are sleeping. I will pray for you too.
2006-08-22 16:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot give you advice...but a counselor can or psychologist can. There may be contributing issues that you have that make you have this repetitive dream...you need to ask for professional help...that is a scary dream you are having and I am very sorry about your friend...that is incredible trauma you have experienced....good luck.
2006-08-22 16:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by MUMNY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a therapist, regarding this situation. I agree, that the main reason, you continue to keep dreaming this dream, is due to your "inability" to have been able to stop your friend, from killing, herself. So, you keep replaying it over and over in your mind. People experience guilt and grief, sometimes, very similarly. In beginning to "forgive", yourself, and to "stop" punishing yourself, you will find, a weight has been lifted from your sholders. Again, seek out either a grief therapist, or just a family therapist. Good Luck!
2006-08-22 16:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your desire is still that you want to have saved her. Such a desire is causing your thinking to focus on this event. And dreams are simply thinking in pictures.
To get rid of the desire, is to be rid of the dreams. It's the only way, and it may require some time.
2006-08-22 16:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 14:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a dream ounce about a really serious family problem that was bothering me, but it was never recurring
sorry to hear about your friend, thats something really hard to get over, i hope you'll be okay with it one day
dont worry its just a dream, your subconscious way of dealing with the trauma,
2006-08-22 16:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by punkrockprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking about it's good. I've know people that killed themselves. It's a horrible thing to think about. 6 years ago is a long time, and you need to get help. I think you need to find a way to get closure.
2006-08-22 16:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by Michael M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I to lost someone this way I always remember the last time I talked to her may be you didn't have closure go to her grave if you can get things out you may need to tell her
2006-08-22 16:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by buffywalnuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋