When my sister decided to get married she, of course, sent out invitations to everyone. Well.....the invitations were really nice, but on the right hand side of the invitation at the bottom was a sticker that said "In liu of gifts we would like money for the honey moon". Do you think this was totally tacky of her?
2006-08-22 16:01:18 · 45 answers · asked by bobbie21brady 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Your sister is not only wildly tacky, but in dire need of spell check (it's "lieu")!
In addition to being tacky, the sticker was also pointless. Had she not registered anywhere, I think **most** people would have simply given her money anyway. And I think it's actually possible to register for trips with travel agencies now (I think I remember seeing this on "Today" or something), so she could have gotten the same results in a more socially acceptable manner.
2006-08-22 16:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's day in age, I've seen worse. It's actually becoming somewhat of a common thing. I look it at this way, I'd rather give the bride and groom something they want, then to buy a gift I think they'd need only to find out they've returned it. It's just much easier to give what they are asking for. However, you should have told your sister that she could have registered at a travel agency...it would have been more appropriate and less tacky to write on the invitations. A simply leaflet telling guests where they are registered would have done the trick.
2006-08-22 16:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is tacky and shows no class!!
The main reason you invite folks is for them to share an important day with you. That's the main thing. Of course I would never go to a wedding without bringing a gift. I would be too embarrassed to show up with nothing to give, plus its just not right!! I usually just give money or gift cards anyway. To write that in an invite though, never!! It sounds sort of desperate......
2006-08-22 17:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by GTcasper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was tacky to put information on the invitation about how to give a gift. As someone else wrote, the invitation is about letting people know you are getting married and that you'd like for them to come; it's not an invitation for them to give you a gift.
As far as the actual arrangement, no, it's not tacky to ask for money instead of gifts. Honestly, most people just register for a bunch of crap that they end up taking back for gift cards anyway.
2006-08-22 16:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by bwjordan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you agree that most people prefer cash to giifts? Yes, you better believe it.
So here's the solution:
For those who want cash instead of gifts,...... do not provide the gift registry. The guests should understand that when the gift registry is NOT provided, it means the bride/groom would prefer cash. This way the bride does not have to be tacky by expressing what she wants in words.
It's time this tradition of gift giving evolve for the better. I sincerely hope people will try this and read the hidden message when the gift registry is not provided. It will save the bride from having to be tacky by voicing their preference for cash and save the guests the trouble of having to go and get the gifts. Isn't giving cash with a nice card much easier and convenient for the guests and what the bride and groom wants? We are going to give gifts anyway, so why not give it in the form of cash to please the bride and groom and everybody can be happy knowing that's what they want. We should give with the intention to please. If you have no intention to give any gifts in the first place then you also need not give cash either.
2006-08-23 05:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! That is completely tacky. Regardless of whether people want a certain thing more than others, it is never proper etiquette to tell someone what to buy you as a gift, or to just give you money, unless they are very close family members and it is a birthday. A more appropriate way of doing this would be not to mention what the monetary gifts would be used for, and to accept whatever gifts one chooses to make! Then they can take it upon themselves to use the monetary gifts for their honeymoon.
2006-08-23 02:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds tacky, but I think it is more common these days. Think about it, a lot of people do give monetary gifts at weddings. So is it tacky to add your registry to the invitation? Not at all, people used to do that and now they just put a note and say where they are registered at.
2006-08-22 16:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personaly think it was a very sensable thing to do. A lot of wedding presents are things you never use anyway. Of course if a friend is broke it may be hard on them because they can always give something that they cherish but maybe could not afford to go out and buy. also some people realy like to go all out shopping for a wedding gift. Maybe it would have been better to ask her friends to give money If it wouldnt be to much trouble, that way it would free some up from shopping. who didnt know what to buy anyway.
2006-08-22 16:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by waukez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess there's nothing wrong with letting people k now what they really want as a gift.. i think its the same thing as getting a bridal register where they can suggest what gifts they want to get...What i find offensive is the recycling of gifts... but asking for cash as gift, i dont think its tacky at all.
2006-08-22 16:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by suburbanmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your sister was wrong!!! Oh, sorry, that was a knee jerk reaction; growing up I was the only boy and had an older sister and younger sister. Actually, I don't really think it was wrong... tacky, yes, but also kind of practical in a way... and some folks were probably offended by it, I'm sure.
2006-08-22 16:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by cool_breeze_2444 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋