How do I talk to my three year old about others not toching his "Private Parts"?

Question

My son just turned three in June and will be starting preschool in September. At his physical the doctor stated that it is time to talk to him about other people not touching his private parts. I guess I am just kind of lost on how to approach him due to his age.

Answer 1

My son will be 4 in a month.. and I had this talk with him a little while ago. I told him in no certain terms one day at breakfast that he and mommy were going to have a ' big person grown up talk' I told him that he was getting to be a big, smart boy, and that we were going to talk about some 'big, smart boy' things.

He was very interested in what I wanted to talk about. SO.. I used proper terms ( which he knew ) and told him that he had very special places on his body, places that no one but himself was to touch. I told him that there were certain times that it was okay for people like Mommy, Nanny and Daddy to see them if we were helping him change, or wipe, or bathe.. and I told him that there were times when it would be okay for a Doctor or a Nurse to touch them if Mommy or Daddy were there..

He understood.. more than I thought he would.. It's not too hard to talk to a 3 year old about this.. it's much harder for the parent.. we don't think we should have to be telling 3 year olds that they have to keep their private parts safe.. it doesn't seem right. But as long as you give it to them clearly.. and without much confustion.. he'll get it much better than you thought he would.

Answer any questions that he might ask as best and as HONESTLY as you can.. even if you think he's too young. Don't lie to him about anything.. if he doesn't understand the answer.. then he doesn't understand it, but tell him the truth anyways.. he'll ask again when he's ready.

Answer 2

it can be a little tough to approach. But with my daughter i just shut out all the background noise, and told her to come sit by me I wanted to talk to her about something. She had just started to become "aware" of those parts, so I told her that if ANYBODY ever touched her there or anywhere then she needed to tell mommy or daddy right then. That NOBODY was ever allowed to touch her in anyway. That sometimes bad people may try to do bad things to little kids so she should always stay with mommy and daddy and if she's ever away from us just to make sure she never let anybody touch her, or hurt her.
I know if you go to the library or even search online then you can find lots of books and stuff that are geared towards kids about that. Try bright music they have lots of little sing along books and stuff for the kids about not talking to strangers etc..

Answer 3

You can't do enough of this...in other words...any chance you get quiz him on who is the only person allowed to touch his privates. Basically ...nobody.
My wife often uses bath time to reinforce this point and will ask my two kids just about each night the same question. They answer like robots and while it seems silly I can assure you that nobody will be able to offer them a piece of candy or
"play doctor" that shouldn't be.
You have a good doctor for getting this item on the front burner.

Answer 4

I have had this same conversation with my son. When I give him his bath I ask him to identify each body part as I wash it. Hands, arms, back, tummy...etc. When I get to his bottom and penis I tell him that they are private parts and the no one should touch him there except for mommy or daddy if we are washing it, or a doctor if mommy or daddy are in the room. He understands. I have told him that if anyone does try to he should yell "DON'T TOUCH MY PRIVATE PART!"

By the way, I personally recommend not using the cutsie slang terms that a lot of parents use. It's not his "poh-poh" or his "rump" or anything, it's his bottom. It's not his "pee-pee" or his "winky"...it's his penis.

Answer 5

There may be some books out there that can help. Check on Amazon. Other than tell him that some parts of his body are private and can only be touched by mom. dad or the doctor if it's necessary. Tell him that no one else is allowed to touch him there unless you or his dad are with him. Do try to scare him, just say it mater of factly.

Answer 6

Just talk with him and tell him that only the doctor, and mom and dad are allowed to touch his private parts - but only when they need cleaning/a check up.

That other people touching his penis or booty is wrong and that he needs to tell you if it happens. That he CAN tell a grownp up or a child loudly 'NO DON'T TOU CH ME THERE.'

Answer 7

Try to tell him there are "good touches" and "bad touches" and show him with your hand on his body. Let him know only his parents and the doctor can touch private places anyone else touches him there it is a "bad touch".

Answer 8

Well i have a 4 year old and i always told her no one could touch her private area but me when i clean her or what ever and i always said if someone touches you you tell mommy and guess what someone did touch her it was a friends ten year old kid so im glad i always told her that and she told mem right after it happpened

Answer 9

Explain to him that his privates are his special parts and that no one should touch them, except mom, dad, and the doctor. Let him know that his special parts stay under his clothes because nobody is supposed to see or touch them. good luck.

Answer 10

guy parenthood. i think of each and every determine is going via this. continually problematic and uncomfortable yet i think of what you probably did replaced into remarkable. Be as we communicate along with her and clarify to her that its no longer well mannered for her to touch herself in her private places in public. tell her if she desires to renowned approximately her physique then she could ask you. keep explaining that those places are private and there are regulations. you probable will could clarify it persistently yet that's what you may do. with a bit of luck she learns the lesson and does not deliver her interest to college along with her.