ok i just met my ddad like 3 years ago and he told me he would never let me down on anything... even the smallest things unless it was an emergency. and he has cancelled things between us but he would always tell me why and then talk to me for a little bit. well anywaysi dont have my licens yet and i get around on my bike. well my bike got essed up and he took it to the shop and told me he would come pick me up to get it. well that was like a week ago. anyways...... i calle him today to see if he wanted to hang out and he said that he would call me back. he never called me back. then he told my parents that he would came and pick me up. he never picked me up. then i asked him if him and i were still up for tomarrow to get my bike cuz i havent seen him in like a realy long time cuz ive been sick lately. well then he said he didnt want to pick me up tomarrow. this is realy depressing for me and i dont know if being ad at him is the awnser... cuz usualy he tells me if somthings up........
2006-08-22 15:53:47 · 11 answers · asked by livinlife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
there could be a problem he just does not think you need to know about or maybe would not understand... or maybe he just does not know how to explain it to you... I suggest you call him 1 more time and just straight out ask him what is up.... tell him how ya feel , short and to the point..... make the first move... parents are not always right, we just do the best we can....... God bless
2006-08-22 15:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a right to be upset with him....I dont think it is anger,though. Sounds more like " Very Dissappointed" Wait till he calls again and tell him he hurt your feelings. I wish you all the best. Appreciate the parents you have at home too. Ask them to go get your bike. Take Care,hun.
2006-08-22 15:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by mrssmokestack003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he normally tells you that would lead me to believe that something is going on and for some reason he does not want you to know (personal, work, not wanting to hurt you, etc.). One of the easiest ways to get to the bottom of things is to write a letter to the person. Tell him what you are felling and how concerned you are. Do not come across as judgmental, just come across as you have to all of us. A concerned daughter who does not understand what is going on. Good luck.
2006-08-22 16:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You met him 3 years ago - yet, "he usually tells you if somethings up"?
You are only kidding yourself. He is not going to change and he is only going to mess with your head. He is not reliable, or dependable.
Maybe there is a real good reason that he just decided to show up one day and try to pretend to be a dad to you know. My guess is that he just got bored and you (part-time parenting) was something to try for a while.
Enjoy him while he is around, but don't count on him or rely on him or trust his word - you already know all that in your heart if you are honest with yourself.
It is NOT your fault - sounds like he just never grew up.
2006-08-22 16:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you have a healthy relationship. Use it to get to the bottom of things and ask him what's up with his missing out on his promises to you. You seem like someone who's matured enough to understand what's going on.
2006-08-22 16:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to have a heart to heart talk with your Mom. If she doesn't know what is the matter with him, maybe she could give you some good advice.
2006-08-22 16:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might have some problems and is trying to solve those...
may be he needs peace of mind currently...
let him have his space and relax!
2006-08-22 16:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ashish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not and you should tell him you're mad at him. sometimes parents forget that kids have feelings too.
2006-08-22 16:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by blkrose65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz you shouldnt be mad at him. just keep living the life.
2006-08-22 16:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by gris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, like your answer, you talk too much?
2006-08-22 16:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋