My girlfriend doesn't trust me at all. She is always accusing me of messing around on her. What should I do?

Question

My girl always thinks that I am cheating on her. She bought me a cell phone for me and every since she has accused me of cheating. Everyone I talk to on the phone has to be a female that I am messing around with. I feel like it comes from other relationships that she has had that may have her feeling like she can't trust anyone. Should I stay in it and try to make it work or should I just leave it alone. I was in the process of changing jobs and just received my first paycheck. Her and I stay together and with my first check I got my daughter her things for school with my first check. I am coming into some more money on Friday, thanks to financial aid. Should I use this money to help her and I work out or should I use it to move into a place of my own and call it quits?

Answer 1

If I were you I'd call it quits because many times the partner that accuses the other partner of cheating is the one doing the cheating.(they can't believe the innocent partner isn't doing it) so they act like the other one is!
Also because if two people are going to get married without trusting each other 100% you won't have a lasting marriage, I promise you it's true!

Answer 2

I think it is F****ed up that while you were inbetween jobs you were dealing with the situations at hand and now that you have a job you want out, just like the typical man(dog), or no good user. I am pretty sure that your girl understands the fact that you had to use your check for your daughter especially since it wasn't much saying it was your first check. Depending on how long you have been living together and she has been taking care of the bills by herself, and still being nice enough to buy you a cell phone that you obviously couldn't afford could mean she is under a lot of pressure. And if you have girls, no matter what you consider them, calling the phone that she got for you, that is wrong. I mean how were they getting in touch with you before if you didn't have a cell? And especially if you know some of theese girls like you. If you are making new friends and giving them the number, you need to be shot! Put yourself in her shoes and consider the fact that she was living with you, had kids to take care of, no money, you do everything you can do to help her out until she can get on her feet so the two of you can work together, you get her a cell phone cause she dosen't have one and you just so happen to have an extra one on your account that needs to be activated and she gives the number to everybody she knows and got MALES blowing it up all day, leaving messages about how they miss her and really want her to come over tonight, or have men text messaging her talking about what's up SEXY at 11:00 at night, how would you act, then she gets on the computer and tell everyone how she is going to get her financial aid and leave your *** after all you have done for her.
But it is totally your decision and you shouldn't rely on the answers of strangers who don't really know what's going on to dictate your decision!
Oh and I wanted to agree with anjelkake's first two sentences up there, If YOU KNOW she has been played before, you should know that she NEEDS your reassurance.

Answer 3

Being as though, i comprehend this answer for a certainty because of the fact my husband is the only finding this **** up!! if your companion is accusing you each and all of the time, why might there little thoughts come to this end if that they had no longer considered this form of strikes on your previous! on occasion you do no longer might desire to think of exterior the container for some thing it is powerful in front of your face. in case you cheated in the previous, i'm unlikely to have confidence you, i ought to by no skill have confidence you returned!! it somewhat is a feeling, no longer some thing that anybody can help, and in case you gave that individual reason to doubt your character, the two freshen up your mess, or circulate aside so somebody else will!!

Answer 4

first of all are you sure she's not the one cheating ? thats a sign you know.... she probably feels like you should be at her beckon call since she's the one who bought the cell, pay her back for it, then ask her what you ever did to make her think you were cheating, tell her you are NOT her ex ex"s and you dont cheat and if you were going to , you would break it off , so as not to hurt her, then tell her you want the relationship to last but it wont if she cannot trust you...... that leaves the ball in her court as to weather you guys have to break up or not "straighten up" or shut up

Answer 5

I do the same thing to my husband, and in our situation, the reason for my mistrust in him is because he stares at other women and flirts with them in front of me and has lots of female friends, so I feel like its easily accesible to him if he decides to cheat so I have more of a reason to not trust him. So maybe you make your woman feel insecure by doing things like that and thats the cause. Have you ever asked her why she doesnt trust you? I do think yall should break it off if this cant be resolved, a relationship is built on trust, if you have none, you have nothing...

Answer 6

I am in a relationship w/ a guy whos always accusing me of something. Personally I want out and just don't know how to do it. I think a lot of it is jealousy. W/ my guy I know that hes had relationships w/ girls that hes cheated on and I kind of think that thats why...maybe your girls done it before. As far as your financial aid....if its for school (college ) expenses thats what you should use it for. If its for your daughter thats what you should use it for. If your relationships taking a toll on you whats it doing to your daughter? Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 7

You seem like a nice guy who likes his girl so try and works things out first. Start with having a civil chat with her, and telling her you obviously wouldnt cheat on her because you love her so very much. If that doesnt work you can always seek out some therapy. I hope you have good luck :)

Answer 8

If her jealousy is due to things in the past, don't necessarily write her off. I myself have been cheated on, and I occasionally have trust issues even though I know my boyfriend would never, ever cheat on me. I don't take it as far as your girlfriend, but sometimes I find myself wondering what he's doing, even though I know that he wouldn't mess around.

Talk to your girlfriend, let her know that her jealousy is really starting to frustrate you. Let her know over and over again that she is everything to you and you would never cheat on her or do anything to hurt her. Maybe she just needs to be reassured more.

If she continues to act this way after you talk to her, and it doesn't get better, let her know that you can't be in a relationship where you aren't trusted.

Good luck!!

Answer 9

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Very doubtful that she will change no matter what you do. It doesn't sound as though you like what she does very much so you know what you need to do.

Answer 10

She's been played before. She needs your reassurance. She needs you to show that you have no life other than her.

Sorry, I've seen these scorned women before, friends even...and they wonder why they can't keep a man. (I try to explain "SHIIIIIT, cause you smother them)