What do I do now?

Question

My bf broke up with me about a week ago. I was doing so well and I was really happy the last couple of days and then all of a sudden I just started crying non-stop...I'm still crying actually. I already knew that he's seeing someone else and I know for a fact I would never want him back now, but I feel so betrayed.

I can't turn to my friends bc I also recently found out (before I broke up w/my bf) that they weren't actually good friends. So basically, w/out getting into details, everyone has betrayed me. I feel really alone right now. He was my best friend and now I have nothing.

Any suggestions on how to get through this?
Hanging out with family doesn't help bc I feel pathetic. I love them, but it makes me feel worse to be around them. If that makes sense.

How do I get through this break up in one piece?

Answer 1

Yeah this is a big deal. When you have a relationship with someone they become part of you. You just lost part of you like loosimg your arm or something. The up side of this deal is that there are countless others that have been through this. I have had people who were very close to me die and the loss feels like a breakup on steroids.

So..... THIS SUCKS! It is supposed to suck, and if you ever get to a point to where it doesn't suck then you are in real trouble.
The very fact that this bothers you so much shows that you are an awesome catch and I have no doubt that after you kiss a few frogs you will find a prince.
Take care

Answer 2

Well girl, I am going through the same thing as you right now and it is harder than hell. Everything that I could tell you right now will sound so cliche, but here it goes:
1. Write down everything that was bad in your relationship and read it to yourself every time you think about him. Eventually you will get mad enough to get over him.
2. Do the same thing with the problems with your friends.
3. Write a list of all the things that you want and deserve from life. I wrote a list of 100 things I want to do before I die (sounds pathetic I know, but if we don't have something to look forward to it sucks!). This will give you some things to look forward to.
4. Time will heal your pain. Each day you will feel a bit better.
5. Give yourself a little bit of time every day to have a good cry. It will make you feel better.
6. And lastly, don't give up... life blows right now, but you will get through it and you will be stronger next time! Good luck hun!

Answer 3

Get ready for some weird advice: you should sit down in front of the TV with lots of snacks and watch soppy movies and cry our eyes out all day. Eventually you will feel so pathetic that you will stop of your own accord. Once you are over the worst of the sobs, you should "clothe yourself in righteous fury". You have been betrayed by this worthless boy who didn't deserve you in the first place, so you have plenty to be justifiably angry about. How dare this boy cause you so much grief. You will find that this rage will help cauterize the wound in your heart. After this you may find an attitude of cold hauteur will serve you best.
Remember, how you are feeling is only temporary. You will come through it.

Answer 4

Crying is an emotional response to grief, you just have to allow yourself to grieve. If you do not then it will kill you. It would be magical to tell you that you'll wake up in the morning and all will be well, but it will not be. Time is what you need to actually help you, you are not gonna get over this so easily. It is gonna take some time, so just try to be patience it will be hard but you can do it. Try not to be alone, because being alone can compound the feelings.

Ok deary, take it easy! You are a strong woman YOU CAN DO IT! You will come out in one piece becuase you are all WOMAN! Holla at me if you need someone to talk to.

Answer 5

give it plenty of time.... it may seem hopeless right now and i know you were betrayed. I felt the same as you not too long ago. Its a really long and twisted story on my end, but it is getting better. I took my hobbies back up and spent less time thinking about him. I also talked to a counselor for 8 weeks after my situation and it really helped a lot.

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Answer 6

I understand your feelings. Don't fight the feelings allow them to flow, in time the pain will lessen. If hanging out with your family doesn't help, try to get involve in a hobby or if you like dancing, take up a salsa class (you may meet a single, fantastic guy). Doing these activities will allow you to heal faster.

This has worked for me.

Answer 7

Well, for a history, my EX-wife decided to sleep with my friends. ALL of them. Here's what i did: Mourn (but not too much, and not forever), ACCEPT that her (in your case HIS) behavior was not my fault or problem (Ok, I could have done better, but sheesh, SHE did it not me), Hope for the future, and Work toward getting there. Make yourself strong, resiliant, and capable. Go live a good happy life.

Answer 8

It would help to tell someone the details. If you don't have anyone, write to your bf while never sending him what you wrote. Putting your feelings down on paper can help you to manage them better.

Our feelings need expression, which is why we cry. Find as many ways to express yours as you can, and they'll run their course sooner.

Answer 9

you are doing fine so you found out those snakes were not your friend good cause what comes around goes around you are doing fine hang in there he was a jerk from jump street and those snakes may need you one day and when they do throw some salt on them and keep walking and for him he will get what he deserves smile stop crying move on it hurt but you are strong good luck

Answer 10

Only time will heal your broken heart. I understand about your family too, you probably don't want the pity. Just put one foot in front of the other right now, eventually you will realize how far you have come.