She's very detail oriented. Very impatient. Ex...I removed mine and my husbands dinner plates, and she fell to pieces. I put them back, and she was fine. Why should something like that upset her so? There are other examples. Let's start with this one first. She's 28 months old.
2006-08-22 15:28:07 · 11 answers · asked by bewildered 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hi,
I am a preschool teacher so maybe I can give you a little insight. She is going on 3 years old. This is an age where many children want to be more self sufficient. May be she wanted to help clean up from dinner. Also transitions (ie- going from dinner time to bed time) are difficult for kids this age. Try and warn her "We are going to clean up from dinner soon, would you like to help?"
Hope it helps,
Kimberley
PS
Don't be made to feel guilty by the previous poster... This behavior doesn't seem like that of a attention starved child.
2006-08-22 15:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberley S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Control. At this age, they are learning what they can and cannot control. This bothers some more than others- and those it bothers may just turn into "control-freaks" when they get older. This is not necessarily a bad thing- control freaks make the world a more organized place. (I myself am a proud control freak...)
It's just part of who they are and who they are becoming. You can decide how much of this personality you want to try to shape. In my personal opinion, this time at home as a toddler is one of the most secure times in a child's life. So this is a good time to help them learn that they do not get to control things, and that that is okay. They are still loved, nurtured and safe even when things don't go their way. I think it's harder on kids who are allowed to control those things at home and then are rudely introduced into a world that refuses to cater to them when they are older. Sometimes these kids seem spoiled, or uptight, but really they just are still adjusting to how they relate to their own world.
I think you should remove the plates, and let the meltdown happen. She could really benefit from the experience that, although you value and appreciate that the plates are moved, she is really okay when they are. Don't scold her, or tell her she's being silly. Instead, say things like, "I know you are upset, it seems that makes you angry. Are you angry? I'm sorry you are angry. I still need to move the plates, but when I'm done, we'll try to do something to help make you not angry anymore." This helps her identify her emotions, encourages her to talk about them, validates them, but teaches her that her emotions don't get to control the world. It will feel cheesy, but it might help her survive in this crazy, plate-moving world.
Just remember- all kids have these things. Pushing boundaries and learning behaviors is part of growing up. It is never a reflection on your parenting, or you as a parent. It's just how humans grow.
Hang in there, and Good Luck!!
2006-08-23 02:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have a OOD kid on your hands... Does she NEVER SLEEP! Scream a lots? Hit you? Try to break things? SCREAM when you try to dress/ feed/bath her? IF 3 of these are right.. You will have to wait!! IF YOUR NERVES will let you--and RUSH her to a Ped. that will give her Ritalin!! IT IS GOOD for the kid!! SHE does NOT really want to be SO AWFUL!!
2006-08-22 22:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son did the same thing at that age she is testing your limits she's seeing what she can and can't do and get away with she didn't like the idea of you leaving so she screamed in turn you gave into her it's a mild test cause now she knows that if she throws a fit you may give into her
2006-08-22 22:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At level one, I can't rate the answers, but as a father of 8 I can tell you that blkrose65 and KimberlyS are right on target.
2006-08-22 23:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by Gideon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes impatient cuz everytime she wants sumthin, u guys probably give it to her rite away. dont give her watever she wants, if u do ur gonna get one of those brats that scream in the store when they want candy. let her know ur the boss n she gotta deal wit it
2006-08-22 22:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't want to feel left out. is she detail oriented or is she manipulating you?
eat alittle slower, and help her along. ask her to help you clear the table - she wants to be included in your activities, and she's old enought to help you with some things.
2006-08-22 22:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the beginnings of a control freak to me. try talking to her as you do things, and DO NOT let her disrupt your routines, or she'll be controlling you for the rest of YOUR LIFE!
2006-08-22 22:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by blkrose65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is in charge here. Do what you have to do and increase the one on one attention with her.
Don't put your kid on medication.
2006-08-22 22:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
?? can't figure it out my son is the same way
he is very sensitive and if you do something he gets upset and you don't even know why?
it doesn't make sense
2006-08-22 22:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋