I have one years old baby, my husband kissed me but i have no feeling. Im so scared that i dont love my husband any more. What shall i do.
He is a good guy but not romantic. Is my hurt broken... If i divorce with him then my baby , what shall i do, shall i continue to stay with him pretend to love him????
2006-08-22 15:27:44 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to have a date night just you and your husband without the baby. Do things you did before you got married. You've just been caught up and forgot why you married him and fell in love with him. Work to get that back. Marriage is a hard job! Don't give up so easy!
2006-08-29 11:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by noneofyourbizwax 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is more than that "warm and fuzzy feeling". There is no way (the first time you kiss feeling) will and can last forever. Relationships have to grow, if you feel that disconnect feeling, then you should find a way to re-connect. Remember when you were dating? Try to rekindle some of those feelings, by doing the things that you enjoyed before you were married. Marriage is a roller coaster and also filled with trails and tribulations. To be successful in marriage, you have to try your best and work through the peaks and valleys. It was not designed to be a contract printed on a bubble gum wrapper. You already made the commitment and must of loved him in the beginning. You may just have to remind yourself, of, why did I marry him in the first place? Good Luck, nobody ever said it would be easy. Love has different levels, and it looks like your moving to a higher level...
2006-08-22 16:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by 345Grasshopper 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It truly could be the hormones if it just came out of nowhere, but if you have been developing this for a while now and have slowly been becoming more and more distant from him then you could have fallen out of love with him, there is some type of chemical pumped to the heart when your in love and when you loose someone it is like with-drawls when you don't have the love you want anymore, and once you are over the with-drawls your over the person. I suggest you wait a while to see if you truly just don't have that spark anymore or if it is just the pregnancy.
2016-03-27 01:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom takes a lot of energy. I remember when my children were small that I didn't have a lot of energy to put into my marriage relationship. I never stopped loving my husband....but it was hard because I was just tired a lot and had no desire to be touched.
As the babies got older, it got better. Talk to your husband. If he loves you, he will understand. And he will feel better about a lot of things when he knows that you are just tired and need a little space to feel human. When he gives you a little time, you will find that you won't mind a little kiss and then before you know it......
Be patient with yourself. And with your husband. And with that sweet baby!
2006-08-29 16:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by LouAnn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you how you feel about your husband only you know that. If you do love him then tell him what u want. Men are very eager to learn especially when it comes to romance. If you dont love him then leave and someone else will teach him. But if your ready to divorce because of a kiss then there is something wrong with you, and you need more help than people on Yahoo.
2006-08-28 21:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by dm1003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that you have lost that loving feeling...check your heart...is there really no spark left? Leaving a marriage is never easy especially when you have a child together...What might help is check why/when the feeling was gone... Most important communication...talk with your husband about your feelings...sit down together and listen(don't judge) to eachother. Think about the time you first met, why did you fall in love...what has changed since then...what is your outlook on the future(plans and goals) what are his...can they be joined together...It will not be all roses and peaches in a few days...but with some efford you might both grow back together....Most times marriages go bad is lack in communication...I wish you good luck...and hope you fall back in love again...
2006-08-29 07:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by City_Larkii 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you need to ask yourself what love is. is it the fuzzy feeling you have when you had your first kiss? Is love a feeling at all? I believe that you love your spouce but you may be over extended and tired. i have a 2 yr and 9 mo old baby and I have to say I feel the same way at times But, I KNOW that I love him and always will. Love is a great thing but I think many people mistake it for a feeling when it is something we were born to do. Do you love you child? Do you love youo spouce. Ask yourself and think about your answer. I believe you already know the answer.
2006-08-28 18:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by bound_to_prosper 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how old are you, sweetie? it is perfectly natural to not want to have sex for up to two years after you have a child. you are tired, your body has changed, your priorities have changed. do you and your husband spend time alone together regularly? are you romantic with him: try leaving notes, or giving him flowers; do the things for him that you want him to do for you. don't expect to want to have sex, or to get a thrill from a kiss. you may be unconsciously worried about getting pregnant again.. there are so many things that could be going on, physically, emotionally , spiritually, and in the dynamics of the relationship with your husband. why would you need to get a divorce just cause he doesn't thrill you right now? marriage is supposed to be life-long. there will naturally, then be times when you do and do not want each other. what makes a marriage successful and long-lived, and happy is recognising the changes, and sticking to your partner;;; always looking for ways to keep yourselves in sync
2006-08-30 09:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by soobee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever happens you should be truthful about it. Living with a lie is much too hard. It's like trying to keep a basketball underwater. A difficult balancing act at best. Then what if you find a man who you love so much you would rather die than be without him? Then what? Truth is much more important than propriety. It simply is what is. Know that you CAN make it without your husbands support. Hang in there!
2006-08-30 10:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. It's normal for that feeling of love to go away after you've been married a while. But that doesn't mean that you no longer love your husband. If it continues to bother you, talk to a marriage counselor about it. It's too early to be thinking about divorce.
2006-08-22 15:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋