what do you think about a woman giving her newborn baby up for adoption when she is not financially stable?

Question

please tell me what kind of counseling i should get in order to prepare myself for when that itme comes!

Answer 1

i think you are a very Strong and unselfish person you should be proud of your self in a certain way for putting the baby first, you have obviously thought hard about this, so you know what you are doing, you are going to need support from family and friends, because the feelings you will feel when the baby is born are unbelievable, so have someone there for you, ask your doctor about what kind of counsellor you should see, and good luck, do what you think is right for you and the baby.

Answer 2

As I social worker who works in adoption, I can tell you it is a loving and BRAVE choice. There are many many couples out there that will give your child a loving and caring home.

Are you religious? Could you talk to your minister or something.

You should find a good adoption agency, they have birth mother counseling, but first be sure this is what you feel is best for you and the baby.

FIRST GO TO A CRISIS PREGNANCY CENTER....one that supports your decision to have the baby. They should have a counselor to help you make your decision and guide you to a good agency if this is your choice.

Go to the crisis center first (be sure it is one that offers support to women having their babies...many of them are just fronts for abortion clinics and they just don't want to say that),ask them to help you find a counselor......then IF your decision is adoption you can find a good agency.

The reason I say this is because Adoption agencies will have a conflict of interest no matter how hard they try not to. I have so many parents that if a young woman came in with a baby, I'm not sure I would actively consider her needs in front of my client. You have to be sure.

Then you decide on the type of adoption, open (where you stay in touch) semi-open (letters and photos only) closed (no contact). You should work only with a licensed agency in your state and one that allows you to help pick the family. They should also help you with medical expenses and such.

Good luck, you're very brave.

Answer 3

Depending on your faith in God as well as how sure u r about giving up the baby, I think you should pray and read your bible. Giving up a baby for adoption is not easy but by praying and holding on to the fact that some1 is seeing and helping you through this. Just prepare yourself and remember dat no matter how hard u try not to become attached itz normal 4 a mother and child to have some type of connection.

Answer 4

I think it is the responsible thing to do if she cannot afford to care for the child. I'm sure most adoption agencies offer counseling of some sort so I would contact a few now to start preparing. Good luck

Answer 5

I think it's wonderful that you decided not to kill your baby! Giving it up for adoption is purely an act of love when you're unable to take care of it! Hopefully you're going to be involved in the process of choosing the couple who will adopt your baby. I do think that that will make the adjustment easier on you.
I don't know what type of counseling you'll need, but I'm sure that you're going to need someone to talk to. Good Luck!

Answer 6

don't do it..there are so many ways to make it with a baby. The government will pay for so much..chidcare..formula...rent..and the most important your education..struggle through the hard times now with your child and then when u are back on ur feet you will look back with a sense of accomplishment and pride..If you give your child up all u can do is look back at your regrets. once you give your child to somebody else you will never see the child again..you will not be mommy and u will have a hole were your heart used to be. If I can make it as a single mother with a crappy job then u can too. I am everyday thankful for my son and would give the world for him. I will never turn my back on him and he is the number one reason that I am putting myself thru college.

Answer 7

I wish I could recommend some kind of counselling, hon, but I'm afraid I don't know. I just wanted to say that I think it takes an incredible amount of courage and a deep love for your child to do something like that. Good luck!

Answer 8

My wife and I became parents through the loving and unselfish act of a birth mother who placed her baby with us. We are grateful in ways we cannot even express. Our son and his birth mother are literally answers to our prayers.

Talk to an adoption agency or pregnancy counselor. I am sure a government agency in your area can help. Church groups such as Catholic Charities, Lutheran Child and Family Services and Bethany can also assist you.

Please know that there are many happy and loving couples who will love this baby as much as you do.

Answer 9

I think is is the ultimate act of love. When you cannot provide a child you bring into the world the tools necessary to reach it's full potential and you chose to not to force the child into cycle of poverty, hopelessness and despair you chose to truly give the child life and not just existence.

Answer 10

I think it takes much responsibility and more love to give up a child then it does to care for one. If you are giveing up your child because you can not take care of it you are being a wise person and thinking of the baby instead of your self.