my ex bf still have feelings for me but i don't have any feelings for him no more and i just want to be firends with him thats it. But he really want me back cause he say i am perfect for him i am every thing he dream for but i lie to him telling him i am still with someone but i am not , i did it just for him not to try to get me back. what should i do i can't tack him back he lie and cheat to much.
2006-08-22 15:09:02 · 20 answers · asked by Native Princess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i tell him all the time i just want to be firends but he just keep trying to get me back
2006-08-22 15:11:30 · update #1
but i am not going back
2006-08-22 15:12:07 · update #2
Tell him the truth. Tell him that you just want to be friends.
2006-08-22 15:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this same exact problem and what I have done to fix it is to stop communicating with my ex. He pretends we are still going out even though I clearly broke up with him. I tell him that we are just friends and try to be friendly but he wants more than that so I have had to simply stop talking to him. It is very sad because I would like to be his friend, but if he cannot handle it, then he will lose both a girlfriend and a friend. Maybe he just needs some time to get over you and this is not going to happen as long as you are still seeing and talking to each other. Try going 30-60 days without seeing or talking to one another and see if that helps. It will be hard to do but it is so worth it. Good luck!
2006-08-23 07:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by jjdanca18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demand that you two discuss this in person over dinner. When you are at dinner with him, do all sorts of disgusting and impolite things that will scare him away from you. For example, stick your finger up your nose, be rude to the waiter, insist that houseplants are your only true friends, spit out your food onto your plate then demand that your ex-boyfriend switch plates with you (explain that you want to switch because you think that he conspired with the cooking staff to give you the worst food), and be extra loud when discussing that annoying fungus you've grown recently (be sure to mention that the doctor says it's an incurable fungus).
I think that would be enough to scare a man away. Good luck!
2006-08-22 22:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by aanstalokaniskiodov_nikolai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay... Don't panic!
Well yes guys can be this way... Did you actually tryed to tell him what you feel without saying about some diff guys?
Try to tell him that you are not the one for him and that he should just look at the girls who he was cheating on you with. Don't lie , don't hide anything! just tell him everything you feel and it will be okay. And yeah dont get mad and scream at him. Just act nice and be a bigger person!
Good Luck sweetheart!
2006-08-22 22:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by tasya.orlova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay no attention to his sweet words. He is just trying to convince you to take him back so he can lie and cheat on you some more. Be strong and don't have anything more to do with him. He already hurt you once; don't let him do it again.
2006-08-22 22:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie to him.
All you can do is be honest. Tell him that you just don't want to take your relationships further than friendship. When he says that you're perfect for him, ask him how long it took for his rebound date to dump him.
If he treated you by lying and cheating, then you DO deserve better. Stick to your guns, don't lie to him (what's that doing?!), and be honest with yourself.
Good luck!
2006-08-22 22:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your intuition... You know whats right for you. Never stay with someone to keep them happy, then you are miseable... Unless you don't care about your own feelings. Besides... you know he's lying... He said you are his dream come true and you are perfect for him, but he lied and cheated... I guess his perfect dream person is someone who is easy to control and manipulate and doesn't value their own self worth, who doesn't mind being lied to or cheated on. Now, come on... give yourself credit and hold your head high, that person he's calling perfect for him doesn't really sound like you - - - does it???
2006-08-22 22:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Myzz Undastood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel
and tell him the truthits best not to keep things in the dark because it wil hurt his feelings in the end when he finds out that you were lying to him so tell him and try to introduce him to some friends of yours and he just might steer the other way so don't fret just talk to him
your friend
lue butterfly
2006-08-22 22:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by BLUE BUTTERFLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about him, its about what you want, and if you don't want to get back with him, just find a nice way to express this feeling.
2006-08-22 22:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him your too young and want to get older before you date. That you want to just concentrate on school for now.
2006-08-22 22:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋