music order of service or should it be done together whether he is interested in doing it or not
2006-08-22 15:02:10 · 22 answers · asked by nurse2011 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Congratulations on your engagement first of all!
In an ideal world we would love to have both the bride and groom involved with every detail of the wedding, but we have to step back down to reality and customize the event and the planning around the couple.
If the groom doesn't want to be bothered with the details the best way to become closer to his family is by asking his mother, sister, aunt, or cousin for advice and make them a part of the planning process.
He should be involved with choosing your wedding invitiations, food selection, band selection any of the major points of your ceremony but the smaller things can be left to you, your family and your event planner.
Your wedding colors should be a combination of what the two of you enjoy.
Your wedding date should be the best date for you and your family to come together and enjoy your blessed union. Make sure you choose an ideal time that most people will be able to attend and keep in mind that weather can either be your best friend or make your wedding a nightmare. So if you live in Central FL, spring and early summer months are not the best to choose but if you're in Texas that might be the perfect time.
2006-08-22 15:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by weddingsforall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't get off on planning a wedding, they just want to know what they're supposed to wear, where they're supposed to be, what date they're supposed to be there, and what time, that's about all that most men want to have to do with "wedding planning." Oh, you'll get the odd duck who is really into wedding planning, or really has strong feelings about it (and no, he's not gay either), but most guys don't see the purpose behind it all. They don't understand why women get all worked up into a lather over a shade of peach, or how tall the altar arrangements are going to be, and how could he have 1 more groomsman (or 1 less) than she has bridesmaids. I'd say if the guy is wanting to be involved, then by all means, involve him! But if not, I wouldn't force the issue, you'll only tick him off, and make him regret proposing in the first place.
2006-08-22 22:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess men generally are not that interested into the minute details of weddings. But i guess you should involved him becoz then he is in the know and won;t get a shock on the day of wedding if he disagrees with some stuff. It will also be fun to plan everything together. I'm planning to involve my hubby-to-be!
2006-08-23 04:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is interested, he should be involved. If he isn't - who would sign up for the hell of making a guy do wedding stuff he doesn't want to do? All he'll do is make you suffer for it. Imagine him making you sit through months of planning and organizing for something you have absolutely NO interest in. Communicate - find out what he might be interested in with regards to the wedding. It may save you a LOT of headaches later. lol
2006-08-22 22:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the couple. Some men enjoy being a part of every decision, some don't. If they don't and the bride-to-be is willing, she should still include him on the decisions she's making. It's a good test of communication skills before the marriage begins (it's not all about the wedding you know).
2006-08-22 22:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't interested in doing it, then don't make him. You'll only end up fighting about it. Don't take it as a slight, either. Many guys just don't think about details the way women do.
I planned most of our wedding, and then brought him the plans so he could provide his input. It worked well.
2006-08-22 23:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have some communication problems.....better get this straightened out before the wedding, sweetie!!! If the guy is smart, he will let the woman do whatever. It is like a guy asking a girl how to arrange a garage and what colors would go......we don't really care.....whatever!
2006-08-22 22:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the male is willing then both parties should help make the decisions, but if the guy doesn't really care to help then only consult him on main things. Most bridal websites also offer timelines, one for the bride and one for the groom, so that each person knows when to make certain decisions (i.e. ordering the rings, picking out bridal party gifts, and when to make hotel reservations).
2006-08-22 22:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by KCH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It needs to be a joint decision--you are going to be living life together...so all decisions should be made together, most men don't really care about color but the music and that other type stuff he might like to be involved. Even if you just ask his opinion he'll feel like he's involved.
2006-08-22 22:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed that most women do all of the planning because majority of the men don't know how. My husband allowed me to picked out the colors, favors, first dance, date etc. because he said he is just not into all of that stuff. He assist me in paying for whatever needed to be paid.
2006-08-22 23:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋