Is anyone else in this situation? or one similar?

Question

Okay, ever since elementary school I've been bullied like crazy because I was always the kid into music instead of sports. I tried to compromise with them to stop the abuse, but they just laughed me right out of tryouts and made me miserable for years. This carried on through middle school, and now in High School it's paying off and I'm getting calls from all over the state to sing and perform at people's private events and I'm singing in musicals and plays in the big city and concert halls. Now they're trying to act like my best friends, and it doesn't feel right. Any advice?

Answer 1

They are trying to share some of the fame or fortune which you have earned through the years without their support . In other words i think they may be taking advantage of you again in that sense. Don't allow yourself to be their fool again. Just act normal around them, but stay apprehensive of them. that means don't go out with them if they ask you to, lend them huge amounts of money etc. I'm not being cycnical, Yes we should give them the benefit of the doubt ; people afterall do change but some don't even after so many years. You have to use your good judgment on that note. try always not to forget what they did to you in school if you ever get close to them. If i were you i would avoid them( but do it with subtlety) or if they keep showing up and bugging you then leave them as just acquaintances( don't show them too much interest cause that may make them think you want to be freinds with them) but certainly not friends.

Answer 2

In the 80's, the rapper Biz Markie wrote a song called
"The Vapors" all about the fake people like the ones you know, who diss you when you're first starting out--then try to be your best friend after you "blow up" and make it..Those people at your school caught The Vapors honey, sorry...When they come up in your face, smiling all big, just make eye contact with them, and start talking to someone else and walk away--they'll even respect you more if you do that..They're mean and jealous anyway--so dont be surprised if they start acting all jealous. They're losers honey--you're a winner--so just sing your songs and keep climbing higher..And do not take pictures with them--they'll try to sell it on ebay if you make it big.

Check out the Vaoprs lyrics.

Peace

Answer 3

Bravo for you! Leave em in the dust, you're wise enough to know genuine friendship when you see it! Keep going, and don't look back! They are the ones that lost out when they could have had a great friend like you years ago! Keep making good use of your talents.

Answer 4

In high school, everyone finds their own groups to be in, and if its a big high school, no one is really cast out. People can play sports and be in the marching band, or be on the football team and also be in the choir, the point is, choose your friends based on the people who like what you like, and who like you. These people who only like you because now you seem them to be "more popular" probably aren't your true friends.

Answer 5

Now you are the one w/the power. You can decide what feels right for you. Don't do anything just to have them as friends since they weren't your friends before. That would be going against your own true self.

Congratulations on going your own way and having the courage to maintain your individuality!!

Answer 6

Be the bigger person here, but be true to yourself. Keep your real friends from middle school and high school. Keep shining and using your talents.


I like this Benjamin Moore quote below:

Answer 7

i have always been the ugly duckling in school...never had but two good friends and everyone always picked on me because I was poor and unattractive...once the star baller at school played a trick on me...he told his friend to ask me if i liked him and if i did he wanted to ask me to the school dance...i was so surprised I said yes...when he went over to tell him...they all started laughing and said....i got punk-ed....From that day i stayed away from everyone....but now.......no one remembers me...because i have changed so much....when i went back to visit old people i knew...most of them flocked too me. the female pickers all became haters and I use it too my advantage....when i am around them ...i recall the events that used to happen...and say look at me now (not being concieded ,but just to remind them).I am engaged and soon to be married...and everyone wants to be the bridesmaid...my old two friends from school are the only one in it....i am the only one of all them to own my own house...business...and secured future...nothing feels better than to see their faces when i walk into a room...and to hear of my accomplishments....you keep up the good work...i leave them all behind...no grudges but i have no reason to include them in what my life is...i just tell them i have no time...sorry....

Answer 8

i feel you. all i can suggest for you is to do what is best for you. look at like this,,can ou really handle of all of this new found glory? And what are all these people really there for you? Or What you have..?Keep that in mind. And I wish you the best of Luck..Oh yeah , always go with your gut no matter what.

Answer 9

People are usually close sighted. When they see you succed, they want to be close to you, when they don't want to understand you, they make fun of you because it's easier than trying to think outside their circle.

By the way, congratulations on your accomplishments! I hope you do very well in arts :)

Answer 10

Just smile and go on about your business. You can be nice to them but you don't have to be their friend.