I'm already working on my weight because I'm heavier than I should be and that alone keeps me down. I was never really confident in anything I did. And I am very insecure, everytime I see girls on the street I'm always wishing that I could look the way that they do. It's like I'm not comfortable in my own skin. Believe it or not my mom has alot do do with it because I never got any praise on the way I looked or on anything I achieved. I acutally got the opposite from her negative remarks like do something with your hair or with grades like that you should've falied. Or the icing on the cake"look at me I'm all that and you ain't sh**" my cousin witnessed that, I was really hurt. Besides all she ever does is insult me or find ways to bring me down. Believe me there's no talking to her because she won'tlisten to anything I have to say to her becaue to her I am inferior/beneath her. She wants me to be just like her and I'm not so it's like I'm a disappointment to her.
2006-08-22 14:53:05 · 7 answers · asked by friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At this time I am 35 and I want to work on this problem that has affected me for years. I just want to happy with myself but I can't seem to shake all the negativity. What can I possilbly do so that I can be more confident and definatley more positive about myself. Please I need serious answers. This is very important to me, thanks for info.(in advance)
2006-08-22 14:57:04 · update #1
Believe in yourself. For EVERY negative thing you think, say or think something positive. If you hear someone else say something negative, say something positive. Do this for a few weeks, and I promise you you will start to feel better. It works, you just have to be patient, and get over the feeling of frustration you have in the begining. Don't give up! I promise you this practice works wonders.
2006-08-22 15:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sadie555 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a friend or seek counseling. Things from your childhood can stay with you forever, especially if it was that bad. Just know that everyone has something special about them. Look into activities that you enjoy doing. Take hobby classes most cities have a rec center or community college that offer a variety of different fun classes.
I believe the website is the leaningexchange.com
I think by losing weight that will help as well. I lost weight and felt like a new person, I wasn't as shy, I went out and I just had fun. Get a makeover, if you like that kind of thing. I did when I lost weight and it was great!
Just know that you are not s*** like your mother said. Some people were just never meant to parents, that is not something that is your fault.
2006-08-22 22:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a counselor, sweetie. Ask at school....perhaps someone can talk to you! Recognizing the problem is half the battle. You might want to get some Self-Help books at the library.
2006-08-22 21:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, listen. ........ if you are an adult your in luck. you can tell your cousin - your mom etc. and ANYONE who tries to squash you and put you down to go to hell. i"ve had to do it! I grew up with a totall a**hole of a stepfather. nothing but put downs and verbal and emotional abuse. now as an adult - i have nothing to do with him. nothing to say to him. because i value myself too much to be around that crap. so the answer is easy. if your out on your own. screw them!!! dont let them do it to you. if your not out on your own yet - when they start with the negative crap -stop them in their tracks! verbally tell them - you will NOT be on the recieving end of their negativity. and dont let them push you around!!! you need to love yourself. when you do - you will carry yourself in a way that conveys to others not to mess with you. because you will be sure within your self. its all within you.
i spent my entire 20"s and most of my 30"s reprogramming myself from the that kind of abuse as a kid.
and im as sweet as pie ............ until someone messes with me.
usually they know better - since I am a confident - happy person.
you'll get there. dont give up. it gets easier to be assertive the more you do it. and the older you get. remember that. set your intention on surrounding yourself with positive supportive people and that is what you will attract into your life. say that to yourself every day and you will be amazed at the results. once you find your power and magnificence - and you will sooner or later in life - you will never be the same darling girl.
love to you precious one.
2006-08-22 22:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by oregonsquatch69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people can only do to you what you allow them to do - so don't empower her as of this moment and then go and write your self a love letter telling yourself how much you love you. these sound like silly exercises but if you do them repeatedly they help. also stand in front of the mirror and look and keep looking until you see something you like and hang on to it. that was the hardest exercise for me
2006-08-22 22:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same boat.... Just know that there are people out there that are less fortunate than you. Look wise. And people might be saying, "I wish I looke dlike her" about you. : )
2006-08-22 21:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by Indiana Jonas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think ure pretty
it will work
point out the best parts of u and think about those
2006-08-22 21:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋