He has an extremely obvious crush on me and he's very open about it. He even asked me to marry at least twice, jokingly. We're both teenagers, so yeah, I assume it was a joke. But anyways, if he likes me so much, why doesn't he just ask me out instead of telling me and other people how much he "loves" me or how awesome he thinks i am. It's kind of embrassing, but I think it's cute.
Does anyone have any tips on how to get him to just cut the crap and ask me out? (not implying that he's full of crap or anything)
Please give me more then just telling me to ask him out instead. I just think that if he likes me so much, he should ask me out, not the other way around.
2006-08-22 14:51:06 · 12 answers · asked by saladteapunk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is so shy, why would be so open about having a crush on me.
He litterly yells my name down the hall at school anytime he sees me like it's an emergency, just to say hi.
2006-08-22 15:00:14 · update #1
Fear of rejection.
2006-08-22 14:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by TheSkeptic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well- Here is a tip.
He likes you, It's kind of obvious. So since he has gone through all that trouble. ( Telling people he likes you and such) Why dont you take the next step and seal the deal by asking him out yourself?
Unless he (for some reason or another) thinks you two are already dating...You know what talk to him about it. Bring it up casualy in a conversation " What are we to you?" And see what he says, chances are he might ask you out and if not ( assuming what he says is sweet) then just ask him out and save the guy the nerve break down.
2006-08-22 22:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Catarina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is friends with you. He likes you, but is afraid that if he asks you and you say no, the friendship will be over. If you accept and it doesn't work out, he is afraid that the friendship will be over.
I am married for about 7 years and I am also friends with ALL but one ex. I am mature enough to be able to handle the fact that I used to date those friends......to me, it makes me closer to them in a way...and it doesn't hurt to have friends.
Understand that fear of losing you as a friend is most likely driving his decision to NOT ask you out. If you like him, make the first move and ask him to a simple dinner and movie. THEN, take it from there. Go slow and make sure that if there are any signs that anything more than friends is not working, that you back it down to friends again......
I am a believer that the best relationships are build on solid friendships......
2006-08-22 22:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffrey F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be incredibly scared of your response. No guy is ever sure the girl likes him. Often the guy who does not know will not go forward out of fear. He may fear to lose the friendship, or he may fear the results of you saying no. Reassure him in some REALLY obvious way that you like him. I am about to do this to a girl in a few days, and if she responds as I expect, I will ask her out.
2006-08-22 21:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably won't ask you out becuase well..
1) he if afriad of well no
2) he is afriad of what other would say maybe
3) maybe he is still thinking fi it is the right coice to make or not
every guy is different
some are straight forward askers cause they aren't afriad of rejection - i have one of thosee guyz in my school
some guyz are so desprate they freak out if they are single - i have one in my school
and like you guy some are so afriad of being rejected and are so afriad of they rep that they don't do it so quickly - well i don't have one in my school but that was the advice on your guy so...
2006-08-22 22:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Mystery 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww He is just shy and fear of rejection but if you really like him then try to make the first move
2006-08-22 21:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by Krazy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is shy and afraid you will reject him so he makes jokes to see how you will react.... I think you should ask him out but you did not want to hear that so maybe tell someone you know that he knows to tell him to just ask you out already
2006-08-22 21:57:12 · answer #7 · answered by melthule 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, you need to get a clue... he either is toying with you or is trying to get laid. first of all, babe, if he's saying stuff about you to others but not to your face chances are he's not really all that into you because a real man how likes a girl would make a move. my suggestion is to flirt with other guys in front of him to make him jealous to see if he's really into you, if he gets pissed then you're probably are right about him liking you, but if he's indifferent then you need to find another dude because hon, life is too short to waste on needless stress.
2006-08-22 22:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by demonswt88 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he is really shy and not confident enough, show him signs or clues that you like him back and then he might ask, what is wrong with you asking him?
2006-08-22 21:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by ☼♫☆☺♡♥☺☆♫☼ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u know what i think? i think that u should send a friend of yours to tell him that u like him too or just to ask u out. he is acting like if he was 10 years old he should mature more.if u dont want to tell him about what u feel just do what i told u or send him a letter.
2006-08-22 22:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by sweeteyes818 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
scared that you might you say no i noe you said not to say this but jus ask him out or spread the word you l ike him he might get the guts to ask you out
2006-08-22 22:02:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋