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my bf who I have been dating for quite a while whom I really love wants to have baby and I am fourteen........but there is this guy I like who I just met who seems to b really nice .....but he is a hobo and I am totally different than that. usually all the hobos i no get on my nerves but i really think i like this guy and he is real cute and sweet........but I can't imagine not being with my current bf eventhough he asked me this question about havin a baby, I still love him, but afriad of what he wants me to do.....torn between 2

2006-08-22 14:49:42 · 18 answers · asked by All Of the Above 5 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I had a baby when I was 19 (unplanned) and I can tell you, without any hesitation, to NOT HAVE A BABY WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND.

You're in a unique place in your life where you have nothing but opportunities, and you really can do whatever you want. Don't waste it. You can always have babies later, right?

2006-08-22 14:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0 0

Why would u want to have a child when ur only 14 years old? U have ur whole life ahead of u and having a child will ruin ur chances of going to college let alone finishing high school. Who's going 2 take care of this child? Do u have a job or some sort of income (and I'm not talking about ur mom's)? Does ur bf have a job and knows how to provide for this child? Even thinking about having a child is just plain silly at this age. How about finishing school and getting married first before all this? No offense, but ur bf prob doesn't even care about the baby. He's just looking to take advantage of u. U DO NOT want to ruin ur life. Having a child will change everything. Don't make this mistake-u'll regret it. And if he's pressuring u, do not give in. A real bf will agree 2 wait until ur adults to consider this. Focus on ur education- never take a good education for granted. As for the hobo guy- forget him too. A hobo? Why go w/ someone like that? Be patient and wait for the right guy to come along. Ur so young- don't be foolish. Good blessings!

2006-08-22 14:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wha..wha....WHAT?!

14? good lord girl. You haven't even seen Constantinople yet or the dark side of the moon. You are so far from reality..u should check ur self. There are Italian villages, Thailand parties, Turkish ports and Costa Rican waves waiting for you. With a kid that all goes OUT THE WINDOW. Love is relative. What you think is love now will mos def change in about 5 years. Go to College. Go to another country. Get out there. Don't be a statistic. You much more than that.

2006-08-22 14:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by kms 2 · 0 0

I am not a teen anymore (ok, maybe mentally).. but I hope you will consider what I have to say:

Oh please do NOT have a child. I can tell you that I would have crumbled if I had a child at your age. The stress and strain would have done me in. My first child was born when I was 30 and it was much better for me.

No child kept me from having fun while I was young and single.
I could not have handled all the medical problems that come with even healthy babies. I had morning sickness from the third month to the 6th month. I couldn't even drink water! I had to go to the hospital to have fluids pumped into my body from the dehydration! I was so sick I wanted to just die and be done. It was 24/7 ! My daughter was born with no enamel on her teeth and has had oral surgery several times since 18 months to cap her teeth and even today 11 years later she still has problems with her teeth. This year it is braces! My son has Aspergers Syndrome (possibly from his MMR vaccine- he reacted badly with his vaccines. I waited until my daughter was over 2 to do her vaccines and it was better for her). When breastfeeding, I knew I was giving my child the BEST, but as a younger woman, I might have been too unsure or confused to stick with it when my breasts hurt and when one got infected. (keep breastfeeding, it helps during a breast infection).

I never got my figure back. I went from a size 3 to a 13!! No lie!! It took years to get to size 6 again. I had an emergency c-section after 20+ hours of labor. I had been fully dialated and had been pushing for two hours and I said "I really need drugs" and the midwife said "we have to go to a hospital for that" and I had to GET UP AND WALK to the car!! Let me tell you, it takes maturity to go through childbirth like that!

Honey, you are not ready for any of this. I promise you that you will be happier if you wait for the right man. BTW.. the right man is someone you meet during college or after college.. but that is a mom's point of view.

2006-08-22 15:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by starshine 2 · 1 0

Start asking this bf of yours what he's gonna do to support you and your child.
Next time your in the store go down the diaper isle and see how much them baby's cost.
Then check the formula.
Not to mention as the kid grows.
14 is way too young.
You loose your youth.

OH YEAH ASK HIM WHERE THE RING IS. Explain that you won't do that outside of marriage.
Date people your own age.

2006-08-22 14:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0 0

girl im 14 and if my boyfriend can't deal with "I don't wanna have a baby so early" he needs 2 go and if u really like that guy and u feeling presure from ur bf y u still with him dump him and go for a new adventure good luck and hope i'm not being rude or 2 hard with ur bf

2006-08-22 14:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2016-09-29 14:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Stick with ur current bf, however no babies r too young dont screw up your life like i did, i am 21 yrs old and i have a 5 yr old son.. Honestly all i can say is follow your heart, your still young have fun!

2006-08-22 14:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by Gail 3 · 0 0

Who am to say this since am 13 and don't know anything but I think that is a big responsibility to have a child I don't know anything abt kids but am just goner tell you don't do it all I know is that is a badddd thing lol but seriouly Follow your heart choose the path that your heart is leading you to.... Plz do not have a child think abt this your still a kid having a kid uh.. Love is crazy

2006-08-22 15:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Krazy 2 · 0 0

listen to your heart, you are the one who is going to decide at the end if you want a baby or not, he shouldn't force you. About the hobo, that is your decision.
How old is your bf?

2006-08-22 14:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by ☼♫☆☺♡♥☺☆♫☼ 4 · 0 0

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