i seem to be attaacted to women of all ages. i think this is bad. i have seen 40 year old women that are hot, 20 year olds that i have seen as very besutiful and ...i have seen itttl girls i have almost goeen hard from. i dont like seeing a gairl and start to get hard and then realize she is 14! like always when i realize her age or if i get distracted (depsnds on the age of the girl if shes 20 i am not going limp unless some thing more interesting come along) i get no sexual thoughts. nut i think i must say that last weekend i was at the friver and some friends were with us and ther daughter was changing and all i though was that the kid is going to get cold other than that i had no interest in the 7 year old. but this does bother me with the 14 year olds. give me advice and dont tell me i am sick. i know that.
2006-08-22 14:29:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2006-08-22 14:31:54 · update #1
Well with the way some young girls dress these day it's hard to tell their age. The are trying to dress "sexy" for some unknown reason. If you are really worried about it then you should go see someone and talk. The fact that you think it is sick to be attracted to some one so young could be a good sign.
2006-08-22 14:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfiy81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. I applaud you for trying to face this part of yourself, very brave. Definitely tell your therapist, they aren't going to call the police or throw their hands up in the air and say "I just can't work with you," at least not any doctor that's any good. I see a therapist, and I remember him saying "there are no wrong thoughts." We don't get to choose our thoughts or emotions, but we can choose what we do with the thoughts that occur to us. So don't beat yourself up about having those thoughts. You're not a pedophile for getting aroused and thinking about an under age chick, but you are a pedophile if you actually touch them. Talk it out with your doctor
I also agree, there are some pretty hot 14 year olds out there who know how to flaunt it.
2006-08-22 21:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Noodle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the above poster. The clothes these girls wear, and the bathing suits, they are leading men to sin. They have to be held accountable. My husband, whenever, he sees something that catches his eye, he tries right away not to look, because he doesn't want to be lead into temptation and wants to stay true to me, even with lust.
You haven't said anything that makes me think you are a pedophile. I bet you haven't had a REAL love or relationship in your life, because I think you are attracted to things like that when there is an emptiness inside. Try LOVE instead of LUST.
2006-08-22 21:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by spartan_117 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is good that you are not attracted to 7 year olds. by 14 some girls already have adult bodies so it is not that strange. as long as you never pursue an underage girl. it is also normal to be attracted to youth. if it really bothers you, i would say definitely talk to your therapist about it, you wont get in trouble if you haven't done anything.
2006-08-22 22:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ganesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should tell your doc. only when you do can you both try to discover why you have these feelings.....there is a reason you feel this way.. something in your childhood perhaps
2006-08-23 23:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋