This is for those who actually respect and care for their parents.
2006-08-22 14:26:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Until the day they bury me next to them.
2006-08-22 14:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't really say that there is a "specific" time frame as to when you have to stop mourning. I lost my dad and grandmother 8 years ago. This year I have lost a dear aunt and uncle and naturally at first it was horrible. As the time has passed, each day seems to be easier to deal with. I will never forget them or the good times we had. As you mature you will realize that life takes some crazy unexpected twists and turns and people you expect to pass because of sickness seem to be the last to go. You will know deep in your heart. There will be days you will ball your eyes out and don't think you can get on. And then there will be those days you thank God that they didn't have to suffer any longer. If it takes you forever...so be it!
2006-08-22 21:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by Annooch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom passed in 1992 and to this day I still mourn the loss. There is no set amount of time or steps to grieve the loss of a loved one. It can take the rest of your life to grieve.
I also have lost my dad, who I was not close to, but cared for and both grandparents, that I was very close to.
It takes as long as you need to mourn. I still mourn daily of my lost loved ones.
There are some good days and of course I have moments of strong grief.
It will take you as long as you need to deal with the loss you have.
Just take each day as it is and remember them as often as you can.
Loving your parents deeply in death as in life is something very special, not many people can do that.
I hope you feel better soon, just take your time, do not let people tell you to get over it, because you can't get over the loss of your loved ones.
2006-08-23 15:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Butterflycry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still am, I guess. My dad died last August. The anniversary date is coming up. I have been moved away cause I got married. So I can kind of pretend it didn't really happen most of the time. I visit sometimes, but I don't have to deal with the constant pain of him not being there, like my sister & my mom. When I do think about how real it is, I can't stand it. It's more than unbearably, there's no word for it. I remember, before he died, I had never had anyone close to me pass away. So when other people's loved ones did, I just thought, ya know, yeah, that's sad but it's a part of life. I don't mean I didn't care. I just didn't know how bad it really does hurt. Now I'm like...well. When I hear of someone else passing on I feel a deep deep pain & that's without even knowing them. But I know someone else is hurting like I am over my daddy, maybe worse.
2006-08-22 21:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Lady Beth*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will probally mourn the death of my parents forever, but what helped was knowing that are with God now and they are not in any more pain. We all must go that way one day and if God calls us home it's not a bad thing. You'll never forget, but the pain lessens over time.
2006-08-22 21:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by stephenl1950 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother died in 91 and my father in 04 and i still think about them all the time. i didn't really go thru a "mourning" period right away when mom died, as i think I stuffed all my emotions and feelings so it wouldn't hurt so much. Now that i'm older i have dealt with my feelings. I miss both my parents very much but i think that it was they're time to go. i will always carry parts of them with me where ever i go and i know they can see all the wonderful things i have accomplished! thank you for the question!
2006-08-22 21:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by XxbrooklynnxX 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will forever mourn the loss of my mother. I can accept that she is not here with us anymore, that she isn't suffering like she was. but I will mourn her forever. If I could bring her back and her be healthy, I would give just about anything to do so.
2006-08-23 02:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its different for everyone, but things get a little easier with time. I lost my mother, in 99, and my dad in 2000. I loved them both very much, and I was an only child so we used to do so many things together. We had great vacations, and holidays, and many wonderful memories. I'm glad they are not suffering anymore, but I miss them and think of them every single day. No one really knows how it feels unless they loose a loved one. They say they do, but they don't. I would give anything to have them back for just one last dinner, or one last Christmas, or Thanksgiving meal, or just a visit. I do believe that they have visited me in my dreams. When you have a dream of them, that seems so so real, they probably really are there with you! I really do believe that. Their spirits are still with you, and someday, we will all join our loved ones again that has passed on.
2006-08-23 00:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my Dad is still alive but my Mom died 14 years ago on my sons 5 birthday she decided to commit suicide and to this day I'm still mourning.
2006-08-22 21:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my dad passes away in 1994 I mourned him for a long time and I still do!
2006-08-22 21:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by angelwinks619@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to over come the loss of parents,, It has taken years for me,,,,, they are always in my thoughts, every one is different, so I can't tell you how long it may take you,,, just hold on to the memories, good or bad. Not a day goes by I don't think of them. God Bless You
2006-08-22 21:30:58 · answer #11 · answered by avery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋