ok. so i know it's wrong, but please, i don't want to hear any moral bs, just real opinions. My boyfriend travels a lot for work, and is horrible with the cell phone. I feel like he ignores me when he is away, and from our last conversation, it seems he even tries to (he needs his 'space', has to work, needs to think, etc.) I don't feel I'm asking for too much to talk to him to see how his day was, and to talk about mine while he's away. I am, however, pretty understanding, and if he needs his time away from home to unplug, then i'll give it to him. So my dilemma is, what do I do to keep myself from going insane wondering what he's doing? My answer is, have an innocuous, flirty affair with a guy who is fully aware I am commited to someone else! this way, nobody's hurt, my bf can have his 'private time', I can have someone who pays attention to me as well as having a distraction, and we are all happy! this makes sense to me....what do you think?
2006-08-22 13:52:38 · 11 answers · asked by ingrid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you don't want to loose your man then don't do it and if you don't give a flying crap then do it!
i think that you should really stand back and ask yourself if he is doing the same thing!
2006-08-22 13:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by ally 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was gonna give you some moral BS, but then you said innocuous and I've decided you deserve my respect and antijudgement. ;-D
You're DISSATISFIED, but nothing is good grounds for cheating.
You can have some friends, but flirtatiousness is gonna get you too intimate with someone and then heartbreak is inevitable.
Since you're displeased in the relationship,
maybe it is time you got one you really want
that gives you what you need.
I don't like that distraction deal thingy in a committment. It just don't go honey. It does not. Your lust is doing your reasoning and
I can relate, but when your man finds out... that's when the shatner has hit the fan. Be careful and get what you want... and need all from ONE man. The full package
is out there for you somewhere.
2006-08-22 14:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still being unfaithful to your partner. Wether you want to hear moral BS or not, you're going to. You realize a relationship is based off of trust and intergity, and while I support couples who engage in threesomes and such, I don't support people sneaking around. By engaging in this knowing you're betraying your loved one.
Instead of going through this why not just talk to him? Tell him whats bothering you. Explain what its doing to do. Don't be sleazy and go behind his back. Is this something you'd be ashamed of if he knew? If so then its wrong.
A little communication and courage goes a long way, cheating takes you a long ways back.
2006-08-22 13:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello jessica,yeh,EVERYONE is fully aware where EVERYONE stands..until it all gets a little too complicated for EVERYONE concerned..my advice would be to just be friends with this guy,never mind the"flirty"bits..THATS what will lead to complications,it will not"make sense"to you then,but will be"nonsense"&you will wish the flirting would never have started in the first place-you get hurt-b/f gets hurt&MR PLAYER/CHANCER/FLIRTYMAN waltzes off into the distance,to try his luck with someone else whose"lonely&feels neglected-BUT WHO IS COMMITED":-/Speak to b/f about moving his job closer,tell him there's a flirt about&you want him around more..unless you like this situation of course!?just a thought!!!
2006-08-22 14:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't continue to be just a distraction and you are not all happy. Break up with the bf before finding distractions behind his back
2006-08-22 14:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commited to someone else.No way are you commited if you want to cheat.If you two can't find the time for each other then break it off,and then find someone new without cheating.A cheater is very low person,and I don't think you want to be that so make your mind up.
2006-08-22 13:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, find someone who has time for you. There is no excuse for lying or cheating - someone ALWAYS gets hurt, always always always.
There are already too many liars and backstabbers in this world, and you wouldn't like it to happen to you.
2006-08-22 13:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you should get out of your current relationship because it isn't really working. you're current boyfriend probably isn't just sitting by himself reflecting. He's probably out doing what your contemplating. If you're not 100% satisfied with the relationship get out of it. Sounds to me like you're not satisfied!
2006-08-22 13:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by num1accent01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want more attention from your boyfriend you should let him know. cheating won't solve anything. and if he can't be there for him then you decide what to do. you'll just feel horrible afterwards and it might ruin your relationship
2006-08-22 13:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me know when your BF is out of town
2006-08-22 13:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋