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my x and i have been together for about 5 years now. he lives down the street from me and his family loves me to death. He has bought me a promise ring, but now he says that he dont really know what he wants. He says he wants to meet new people and date others, but in the end he wants to be with me. Should i wait for him until he's done dating or should i try to find someone else. Remember we been together for 5 years and now he is saying this to me. I've been through counselors and doctors about this but i am still too attached to someone i have deep feelings for in my heart.

2006-08-22 13:27:04 · 19 answers · asked by lilbertorange 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

19 answers

Do not wait
move on
he is selfish
you deserve better

2006-08-22 13:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by clair 4 · 0 0

I know your heart belongs to him, and you will feel this way for a long time trust me. I went through the same thing, except I got beat up the last 4 years. You might love him more then he loves you, thats happened alot. Why don't you get up and start doing things for yourself. Go hang out with girl friends, go out to clubs, listen to music. Why don't you try painting on canvas. Thats helps emotions run wild, onto paper instead of holding it in. Experience life by your self for a change, give it awhile. I know you are going to be thinking of him, but push on. I know it's hard, but try. Let him go for now, show him you don't need him, they always coming running back trust that. Give back your promise ring, and tell him hey if we are meant to be, then we will find our way back to each other. Pick your self up, go to the mirror and repeat this over and over everyday, "I'm Strong, I'm beautiful, I'm talented, and I'm free. Good luck to you!

2006-08-22 13:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by prettyartisichuskey 2 · 0 0

why wait for something like that? think about it, you have no idea what is going to between him and these other girls he is dating. what if he is telling one of them the same thing, it gonna be never-ending. Do you want him after he has contracted a disease? Do you want to wait for him to give it to you?

Please work on getting over this guy, hes not worth the wait.

2006-08-22 13:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 3 · 0 0

i know this type of guy. immature. he needs to grow up and probably date other people for a while. if you want to sit around, waste your time and wait for him that is your choice. but take it from someone who has been through this and is older, go have some fun, meet other people, and then you can decide if he is worth the wait.

2006-08-22 13:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Tell him to look you up in 5-10 years, and you'll tell him then if you're still interested or available. Go live you life babe - cause he's not the one. You've already wasted enough time.

You're not some barbie doll that he gets to put away for later, when HE'S ready.

2006-08-22 13:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0 0

it sounds like he wants to date other girls for now...like he thinks he is missing out on something. he is telling you that he wants to end up being with you but i think thats because he wants to keep you on the backburner.. for just in case .. you are his security.

someone once said "THE BEST REVENGE IS MOVING ON IN LIFE AND BEING HAPPY" Dont let him know that he has this kind of control on you. you need to let go and move on. if its meant to be, it will happen but not until you are both ready .. and he definitely isnt!! you deserve better... i

also, remember ... NO GUY IS WORTH CRYING OVER....AND THE ONES THAT ARE, WONT MAKE YOU CRY. this one helped me overcome my issues with ex boyfriend. i hope this helps.

oh yeah!! also remember that guys love the chase...if they know they have you, the fun is gone!! you need to let him feel that he is losing you...dont show your feelings .. and go out....it wont hurt you to make some friends .. take your mind off him for a while.

2006-08-22 13:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0 0

your ex is an idiot, get out in best finery, meet a new person, stop acting like a doormat, after five years he cannot make his mind up you could be waiting thirty, murders dont get that long, get your life in order, be yourself not an image of what someone else wants.
regards LF( sorry for shouting}

2006-08-22 13:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by lefang 5 · 0 0

Its hard to be with a jerk. I know, I was with one that i truly loved. He "loved" me to, but he wanted to be with other people to...and now i am with a different person, who i care for much more deeply than my previous boyfriend....I think as long as you love him that you should be entitled to dating other people if he is. Just know that no matter how many people you date that its him you will be with...tell him that and see how he feels...

2006-08-22 13:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by Claudie 1 · 0 0

Do same. Magnets stick when it's + - and repel when it ++/- -. If you both come back to each other, it's great. Don't wait, he might not come back, so you'll find out you wasted your time waiting.

Explore.

2006-08-22 13:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by WWJD: What Would Joker Do? 4 · 0 0

heck no you shouldnt wait! it may be hard to get over him but lets face it love....hes puttin you on the back burner until he's "done" with his new interests.....I say let him taste the curb hun....good louck with the pain of letting him go!

2006-08-22 13:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by hannahrosey 2 · 0 0

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