So there is this guy that I have history with. We fool around all the time regardless of either us of being single or not. Lately I have beginning to think that he really is just starting to use me becasue now all he wants is head and the leaves. So I said the hell with him so this past weekend I was partying with him and gave him head, half way through i stopped said I was done and walked out of the room. I havent seen or heard from him since...was that just alittle too mean????
2006-08-22 13:13:39 · 24 answers · asked by lolli_pop69_2001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope not at all. It means that you realized that you were sacraficing your dignity and so you stopped. Good for you!
I'm proud of you.
2006-08-22 13:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by big_dreamer2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was just passive aggressive behavior. When a man and woman get together for sex only, people always assume the man is using the woman for sex. Well, sometimes women want sex too, if both people get pleasure out of it, why not?
Anyway, if all he wants is BJ and not give you anything in return, he's being lame. But you should have talked to him about it. Like before you gave him BJ the last time, you say, I'll only do this if you do XYZ on me too. If he won't follow through, then he's useless to you, go find someone else.
I don't think that was mean, there is no such concept when dealing with relationships. All is fair in love and war. But it is counter productive if you still want to have sex with him. Passive agressive behavior can only destroy, it will never make the other person "see your perspective". If you just wanted to end things between you two, there are much easier ways of doing it.
2006-08-22 13:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little too mean? Hell naw, you should have never of partied with him or even gave him head if you said the hell with him. Stop doing **** for him period would have been the real hell naw. Its not mean in the least. The only mean thing out the situation is that you guys have been playing each other for a long time now. Always giving each other sex when ya'll in a relationship or not. That is the meanest thing ya'll could have ever done to anyone.
2006-08-22 13:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too mean. Not really. It's a sign that he's get the message that you are not one of his tools to satisfy his lust for sex. It's great for you to finally realised that this guy is just using you for the free sex. There lots of great guys out waiting for you you to love & treasure. Why waste time on a heartless guy when you can have a better choice? You deserved to be happy and have a better man who really love you not because of the sex that you can provide. So, be happy that you've make the right decision.
2006-08-22 13:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. To say the least I am proud of you for standing up for yourself (and leaving him with some personal physical pain that he will never forget). I have been there, done that. You did the right thing for yourself. No one (guys included) deserves to be used without their consent. Good luck and keep your chin up girl three cheers from me (gives cheers)
2006-08-22 13:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by missyb5884 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wats wrong with you? never give a guy head unless you got him on check . if yall was just flurting then you shouldnt of let it get that far and if he not talking to you you make him talk .set him up so that he will come back 4more but dont give it 2 him.
2006-08-22 13:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by maudhaitian2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I'd say justice was served well done with gravy! If you are booty buddies then you are suppose to be getting yours too. I applaude you! Make sure he's seen the last of your booty and felt the last of your mouth.
2006-08-22 13:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, he got what he deserved. Just a fair pay back for his insensitivity.
Now you can find someone, that will be willing to share with you. You should get something back for what you are giving, that's just fair.
2006-08-22 13:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i think it was but why was u giving head if u have a bf though i mean thats wrong to ya man though see i only get heads from girls that are single only when i am single or fomr my girl when im not single
2006-08-22 14:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was BEYOND mean. It would have been better to get him all riled up and leave. But the fact that this was premeditated is cruel.
2006-08-22 13:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋