we went on va cation and when we came back there was some things missing from our apartment, but all my daughters clothes her swing all her toys were gone! the neighbors told us he sold it to some girl, and he admitted to it, my boyfriend (babies father) begged me not to take any legal action on his father, because he feels bad because he has a bad habit, but how can you stael from your grandaughter and not take a tv or the stereo why my babies clothes? what should I do?
2006-08-22 12:45:12 · 19 answers · asked by holly l 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
HAVE THE LOCKS CHANGED!
I would call the cops anyway.
2006-08-22 12:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i don't know that you can press charges you don't have proof he did it. My room mates heroin addicted sister stole my t.v a leather coat and a stereo. We were pretty sure it was her when it happen however they don't put people in jail because someone said they did something or you think they did. However I FOUND MY LEATHER COAT later in a bag of her stuff she STILL FLAT lied that she did not steal it. I know dealing with addicts is hard in reality a addict only thinks are care about the addiction this grand dad's habit is more important RIGHT NOW then the baby "it's part of the addiction". Don't allow him in your lives move and when and if he cleans up make him pay 4 the stolen stuff before you deal with him again. I had to kick out my room mate to keep his sister away i moved now i don't deal with them PROBLEMS SOLVED.
2006-08-22 20:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the man to check into a rehab clinic. Then tell him that if he doesn't go the consequence will be jail. Then stick to the promise. If he doesn't go or leaves rehab report the crime to the police.
By the way, whether or not the buyer paid for it, the items are not hers. It's receiving stolen property. You do have the right to get it back,. but it will need to involve the police. No one can buy your things without your consent!
2006-08-22 19:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by pgh9fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that he has to get back the money for those clothes and baby items. Obviously, his crack-head Dad won't have the money so tell your boyfriend he needs to figure out a way to get those things back (either buy them all over again or go to the girl and see if you can get them back). You should also change the locks and kick the boyfriend's dad out and tell him not to come back until he's clean. You don't need this. I would call the cops next time.
2006-08-22 19:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ignoring this situation helps no one, not to mention adds enormous stress to your relationship!
His father needs to be arrested & go into treatment.
People on crack rarely if ever quit on their own or truly feel sorry for what the do when high.
They become great manipulators, he probably has his son reeling right now & feeling bad for him.
You should report this to your local PD.
Good Luck & do what is REALLY best for your daughter!
Having a loving clean Granpa or one who puts her in danger?
2006-08-23 07:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to come between family but he has to be a man and side with his daughter. SHE has to come first. he's a daddy now even though his own isn't being one. maybe you need to set a rule and make it stick you don't want you father in law anywhere in the house or around your daughter as long as he's doing his drug, and won't be allowed near her until he gets help, gets clean and turns himself around.
tough love is usually the best, but you both have to put that 10 month old first over a grown man who made a bad decision.
peace and good luck!
Vin
2006-08-22 19:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What environment are you raising your child in ? What type of association do you have with others ? Perhaps the stolen clothes is a preview of things to come. I worry more about your child's future environment. Tell ole papaw good bye till he cleans his act up period ! But I hope you and yours associate with responsible, intelligent, ethical people.
2006-08-26 16:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by rc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would demand replacement of the stolen items, and the cost of changing the locks.
Give the grandfather the choice of replacing the stuff or dealing with the cops.
2006-08-26 11:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him atime limit to pay you the money the clothes and things were worth and if he didnt I would take legal action against him bad habit or no bad habit you or your baby didnt give him the bad habit. Good luck .
2006-08-22 21:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Angela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File a police report bcuz you never know what else could happen and you don't have to press charges just get it documentated thou. Take his keys and change the locks and tell your bf too if he is willing to do that who knows what else he could do or has done already drugs make people different
2006-08-22 19:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by blueseawale 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call the police. The crackhead needs some help. If you dont, he will keep stealing. He will eventually steal from the wrong person and get hurt, or killed.
2006-08-22 19:51:29 · answer #11 · answered by ilovegne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋