Why are guys like this??

Question

Why is it hard to find someone who will love and appreitate you for you and not for your looks......I mean i think im a kick butt person and i am myself all the time but because im not pretty (in other peoples eyes) i never get asked out by the opposite gender...im not saying i want all the attnetion in the world but why cant guys just realize that there is more to a person then looks...and i mean i know alot of guys will be responding othis saying its not only guys that do this but its just aggrivating that people are so judgmental on looks....why not go out with a person because you like them as a person and you dont just like there boobs, or butt, or hair, i mean isnt it in the end the person you love and not there appearince? I mean why cant people just like people for who they are???

and if i cange myself then i am being fake...i buy nice clothes that i can afford and i dont think im ugly...so i dont think i should have to change who i am at all....i think you should never change who you are for someone else....

Answer 1

Because alot of guys think with the wrong head... and that doesnt necessarily have to be a teenager some do it all their lives... just need to find someone that is more mature and bases looks on ones personality, but thats kinda hard to find these days... try meeting someone in a bookstore / library... better chances of meeting the right person for what your looking for. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Yup, men and women are both like this. That's how the world works. You can either a) complain about it or b) do something about it. I tell the same thing to guys.

You are not "pretending to be someone else" if you work on yourself. There is such a thing as self improvement. So improve yourself. If you want to achieve the results without hard work, then you are pretending. But if you really work hard and put in an effort, then you are improving, not pretending.

I have had to go though not-so-pleasant transitions myself, both mental and physical. In fact I'm still going through it right now. I'm by no means successful; my starting point was way low since I was born without the mojo to attract the opposite gender, but I am doing a lot better now than before, and I attribute it all to my research and hard work.

It sucks, yes, I wish things were different, yes, but the cold hard truth is that you either play ball or you lose.

I didn't researched what women need to do to attract men for obvious reasons. But I can tell you if you get a nice body, that'll score big points with guys. You don't have to be the best, you just have to be above average, easily reachable if you put in an effort. And by nice body I don't mean plastic surgery. I mean eat healthy and exercise. A firm and tone body is sexy, period. That goes for guys too. People are attracted to others that take good care of themselves. How far you want to go with the "nice body" is your choice. You can either look like you work out regularly, or you can try to attain the celebrity body. Obviously perfect body will take a lot of effort, but also will score a lot of points.

In addition to nice body, I'm not sure what other things women can do. I'm sure there are women out there that will give you advice in those areas. The goal is to pick many areas to improve. It's easier to improve moderately in many areas and add them together than to just improve one single area a lot (like the celebrity body example). But ultimately it's your choice what you want to do. You need a plan.

Answer 3

People are visual and attracted to a certain appearance and body style. They can be friends with someone other than that, but not think of them as dating material. In fact, usually don't even get to know the personality if she doesn't hold that attraction for them.
It's sad and hurtful.

When people are teamed together, either in a job position or a class project, they get to know each other and see past the physical. Or just change their entire mindset on what is pretty or not.

It's great that you like yourself because people who do also like other people and that will show as you go along.

Continue to be yourself and one day you'll meet just exactly the right person for you......patience is the keyword here.

In the meantime, rev up your personality and keep abreast of news, sports, and interesting activities. When you are completely happy with yourself and your position, that's when others are attracted to you the most.

It will happen.........stay positive.

Answer 4

Sadly its just a fact of life especially with teen aged boys. And with some men too.
It's hard to come up with a solution to your problem. But it seems to me, there are just as many boys and men, in the same situation. Maybe those two groups would do well to get together.
I know this will sound shallow, and I don't mean it to be, but is there anything you can do, to improve your looks. A new hair do, some other style of dress. Women are fortunate, that they can differ their appearance.
You can't solve the problems of the male, female, relationships, but you can change you.
Be more outgoing, smile more, and if you see some guy you like, try asking him out. I know its easy for me to type it, and not so easy for you to change. But give it some thought, they may work for you.
After all, all you are looking for, is some guy do date. Not a major problem in the big world, but one that could make you happier, if those changes work.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

It is the world we live in. I wish I could tell you different but all of the magazines and TV shows have only the most beautiful people so that is what everyone else wants.

Answer 6

Men in general, especially young ones, are usually shallow when it comes to dating. It does get better as you get older, but you do put your best foot forward. It is true you should be yourself, but you should also take pride in how you look. Dress to flatter yourself. You sound pretty confident and guys will come around.

Answer 7

see this question goes both ways how come girls dont ask out fat or broken out guys even if there the only kind of guys who will treat them right. but to answer your question just be patiant give it up to God and he will bless you with someone... he did for me
God Bless
LusTlesS

Answer 8

Teenage boys are like this.
Grown, mature men are not.
Good luck. You deserve a Romeo. :)

Answer 9

we all end up old and ugly in the end anyway, find someone you love talking with and being around and you can't go wrong.

Answer 10

And I agree with you babe. It is there lost so don't worry about it girl. Hit me if you like, bye.