they ask you out, but u are seeing someone already
2006-08-22 11:52:37 · 21 answers · asked by emma c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well that is the danger with flirting. It should be harmless but then you can end up in a quandry when someone you thought might laugh you off responds. If you are not feeling your current partner that much that you are tempted to cheat, then maybe there are probs with your current partner. If you cant handle the fall out of flirting, don't do it
2006-08-22 11:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Donna : 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Dang.... Aint it always the case.
Size up how much you like this current person and how long you've been with them. Bare in mind all relationships have sticky patches. But dont stick with one you simply dont enjoy / love anymore and get dogged down in habbit rather than a relationship.
Some of my most interesting relationships tho have had little to do with love.. looking back. They were expensive, twisted, warped, crazy and heartbreaking at some point or other.. but hell.. thats life and it makes you who you are. And they were oner hell of a ride!! No pun intended. Although there are some people I wish didnt have to get hurt in the process.
Then as Mr Antonio once said (An italian drug dealing, foreign girl pimping ice cream man / landlord)... Enjoy life. People will get over things as long as your not plain nasty. One day you'll meet that special person and then thats it! You dont want to cheat because it doesnt cross your mind. Until you feel that way... lifes yours for the taking.
So dont be reckless with others hearts.. Desiderata.
Besides.. innocently flirt?? Ha.. no such thing. You flirting for a reason. And thats because something is there that your not getting now. Greed. It instinctive and perfectly natural. Your only dilema is to get some ethical grounding on what you've already decided to do and are clearly in denial of.
Best of luck.. best to be cruel to be kind.. but be gentle huh?
2006-08-22 12:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by frohike47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's exactly why you shouldn't flirt when you're in a relationship. At this point, I guess the best you can do is pretend you weren't really flirting, assuming it wasn't too obvious. You could be honest and tell them you are already seeing someone, but then there's the possibility they might somehow tell the person you're seeing, which could cause trust issues.
As I said, it's better not to do it in the first place.
2006-08-22 11:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by musiclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if you said yes to the guy, my guess is you did. I did the same thing, now I have my ex, (who I still luv) and this great guy, but my hearts not in it. This guy is great, but all I can think of is, I wish I was with 'my' guy. That's why I say that I don't know how guys do it. Be with more than one woman. Slowly break it off, because the nastalgia wears off after a while and all you want is love.
2006-08-22 12:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by lilybear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for him to ask you out you had to be doing some major flirting probably but you will just have to choose i mean think about how your b/f now treats you and think how this other guy has treated girls in the past but i would jus tell him that i was seeing somebody else and sorry if i led him on but then still talk to him soo he wont feel all weird!
2006-08-22 11:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by *KAYLA* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that will teach you to FLIRT! Although I believe people should stay within their attractiveness group; ie handsome with beautiful, cute with cute, and ugly with ugly. So if they are out of your league this was your ONE AND ONLY chance. So you are in a world of hurt, next time don't go looking for trouble.
2006-08-22 11:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by doc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No such thing as "innocent" flirting when you have someone waiting for you!
How would you feel if the tables turned?
That's your answer!
2006-08-22 12:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we seem to be in a pickle dick.
If you're seeing someone already...then let it go...unless you want a roll in the hay...
But you know what, I frankly don't care...why do I even take the time to type; oh that's right, for the points. Thanks for the 2 points.
From the Great and Powerful Poppet
2006-08-22 11:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends on if your other relationship is open or committed.
Remember that flirting -- even under "innocent" pretenses -- is still flirting.
2006-08-22 11:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking that then you can't be too bothered about who you're with at the mo!!!
Follow your heart but be honest with your current fella and break up b4 doing anything else
2006-08-22 11:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by zebra 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋