i am pagan (and for those of you who were insulted by my last post 'to all my fellow pagans...' i sincerly apologize.
i am in need of somebody's help/adivce. i am deeply afraid to tell my family that i am pagan. can anybody help?
2006-08-22 11:38:28 · 11 answers · asked by tallfemal 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Apology accepted.
As for your family, it all depends really. Are they religious, and how religious are they? Are there major repercussions that might result from telling them?
I told my family nice and slow. Simply coming out and saying "Mom I'm a Witch" probaly would have made my poor mother have an aneurism on the spot. So I started out by gently initiating conversation about religion and touching on Paganism...what it is, what it's about, and sharing my opinions. Then I watched for her reaction. If it looked good then I gently told her that I was interested, and then finally I came out and told her (although she had pretty much figured it out by then...moms are good like that). You might want to go that route.
The important thing is to be nice and gentle, inform them what it's all about, and don't lie to them.
2006-08-22 11:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Abriel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, paganism still exists today. I am hindu, which is a pagan religion that has been here for centuries. So, it really isn't a big deal that you are pagan. Just tell your family that you do not believe whatever religion they believe in and that you respect their religion, so they should respect your religion. There are worse things to tell your family. Hopefully, they'll undetstand!
2006-08-22 11:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by desigal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer this much because my mum doesn't approve of Tarot and runes, etc, so I keep it hidden. My dad is an atheist and my mum agnostic, so it's difficult. My brother hid that he was Christian. I'm not sure my parents even know now.
Whatever you do, it is ultimately your choice. If they would prevent you from practising your beliefs, perhaps it would be better not to tell them, but then if they found out by accident, they could be more unhappy because you didn't tell them.
I'm sorry I can't be of much help, but I hope it all goes well.
2006-08-22 11:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Eclipse24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and tell them.
"Mom, Dad, I don't share your beliefs. This is what I believe. I don't want to hurt you, but I need to be honest with you about this. I love you and that won't change."
Accept their reaction - they have the right to be surprised, angered, and go through all the feelings of grief for losing their hopes in what you would be. It may take awhile, but they (and you) should come out of this OK.
Know, if you were my daughter, I would continue to pray for you.
Good luck, honey.
2006-08-22 11:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Vicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...You probably don't want to use the word "Pagan". That suggests naked moonlight rituals and drinking sheep's blood. Choose a safer sounding word like "Wiccan" or "Celtic". Then just come out with.
2006-08-22 11:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by elvenjewl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! My friend Rachel is a pagan and her family is like fundy Christian, and they really didn't take well to her announcement. At all. But I guess it depends on your family, and how "Christlike" they really are.... Anyways, good luck rebelling against the establishment....
2006-08-22 11:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be open and honest about everything you believe and do. show them you aren't seduced by evil god called you to another path and thats all. we each see god differently no two people see the same thing at any point in time. honesty is the best policy and don't worry if they freak out. they will calm down at some point. if not screw em your better off with out the stress.
2006-08-24 07:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by Dana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there really a need to tell them? I am not advocating lying to your parents, but sometimes telling all is not necessary.
If you feel you need to tell them make sure you have all the facts. Not your interpretation or a buddies interpretation...the actual facts. Make sure you can explain to them why you feel the way you do. And above all, remain respectful of them and their beliefs.
Blessings )O(
2006-08-22 11:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest: there is nothing to be gained by pretending to follow another's belief system; and your family should be able to accept you for yourself.
2006-08-22 11:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Blackacre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit them down and explain the whole thing and if they get mad then stay calm and dont star yelling like them.
2006-08-22 11:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by sexynfun84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋