does it worry and of you parents?

Question

Is all this sex and drug talk from teen girls scare you for the future of your children?
I know it scares the crap out of me. I have a 2 year old daughter and a 9 week old son and I am scared to send them to public schools. Seems there is so many teens uneducated about all this stuff! Why aren't there parents more involved in there lives?

Answer 1

I does concern me but I also talk with my daughter about stuff all the time. I can read her so well now that hopefully I can put any of that stuff to a halt before it can happen. As an added bonus my husband and I live in a small town that we grew up so if I don't know people he does and they all love to share what bad things other kids are doing to their parents. So that should give us a good heads up.

Answer 2

I am in a unique position in that I have 4 children, ages 27, 24, 21, and 9. The 9 year old was a BIG surprise born seemingly by a miracle while I was on The Pill (and had been for 11 years). When my older 3 were in school, I worried about them since it seemed like there were so many more dangers than when I was in school. Because I had lived through raising those 3 into pretty successful adults with relatively little problems, when my 9 year old was a baby, I thought I would be well prepared to raise her into adulthood as well. However, I was stunned and shocked by the things I saw and heard in our schools and we live in a small community. My husband and I thought seriously of homeschooling her. Instead, I have arranged my schedule so that I am well known and visible in my daughter's public school, assisting her teachers, helping with events, getting to know the principal and the kids she goes to school with. Something that I see repeatedly are parents who have no belief that their child could be involved in anything involving drugs, sex, and bullying or any number of things. As parents we want to always believe our children, but I think we just have to think back to when we were kids and think about all the things we either didn't tell our parents or the things we did tell them that weren't the "whole truth". I make it a point to get to know the parents of my daughter's friends. I see many families who are disconnected - each person has their own room and their own TV and their own computer. Dinner is whatever you microwave for yourself. Everyone is involved in too many activites and I think some parents lose touch with their kids and are surprised when they are called into school for a problem. I understand the fear of letting little ones grow up in the world today, but I think that if we control our home surroundings and focus on what is best for us instead of what the media tells us is best that we can raise our kids to be well-adjusted adults who are productive in society.

Answer 3

Well it is sad to say that alot of parents arent there for their kids.. I know alot of people have kids and don't even take care of them, I am very involved in my sons life.. I'm his mom and he is not going to get away with much.. I mean I cant say that he may get something over on me but he will have a hard time.. lol It scares me too to send my child to a public school but I am fortunate enough where I live in a good area and I am always at the school volunteering my time I am in PTA and I teach my son to have good judgment and we talk all the time.. he is not afraid to tell me anything, I have brought him up that way to let him no that there are no secrets between us. He has grown up with good influences in his life and I just believe it is in the way that u bring up your children. My son knows that drugs are bad for u and that they will kill. The best thing that the schools offer is the dare program and it is great.. my son tells me how bad drugs are and that he would never be sooo stupid to do something like that. I hope he still feels the same way when someone offers it to him. I have a feeling he will, now sex ugh that is a whole other story. We just have to teach them to be safe about it.

Answer 4

It scares the crap out of me. I have a three year old daughter, and at three years old, I have a tough time finding clothes that don't look "ghetto" or like something a hooker might wear. And yet we wonder why there are so many child murders and rapes. I think that the media and certain types of music and a certain element of our culture objectifies girls. So all the strides made in the 70's and 80's as far as women's rights have been tossed out the window. (I am not a femenist by any stretch.) When you have girls thinking that they deserve bling and the way to get it is to spread your legs for the first pimpster/gang banger that offers you a tennis bracelet, it's hard to get them to understand the value of learning to read, to write, to "cypher" as Jethro Bodine would call it.

Here is my advice. Teach your daughter that she has value as a human being. Teach her to love herself, respect herself, and to think things through. Give her a good solid foundation and while she may stumble a bit, she will never fall.

Why aren't these parents more involved in the lives of their children? Because the parents are too self absorbed. I don't know about you, but from the moment I found out I was pregnant, my life ceased to be about me. My life was no longer my selfish pursuit of material stuff or a good time. Too many "parents" aren't willing to set aside their "wants" in favor of their children's needs. Some parents have lost all control of their kids because society has told them that disciplining their little angels will stifle their creativity and self expression. Bull. Without discipline these kids have no boundaries. Kids need clear lines of right and wrong.

I could go on all day...the fact is, it's only going to get worse. All we can do as responsible parents is love them, try to teach them, and then do damage control ever day when they come home from school.

Answer 5

#1 yeah it scares me but, not to the point i'll let my kids live in a bubble and shelter them from the REAL world. Education is your best tool let your kids know bad things are out there.#2 As for public school my kids are 8 and 10 go to public school they are fine I don't have issues with schools. #3Why aren't parents more involved in their kids lives WELL there is no stright answer to that. Some parents work too much, some are too young, some are not educated enough "don't know any better", some FEW honestly are too self involved to take the time to focas on anything other then themselfs. It's a scary world always has been always will be you live thru it.

Answer 6

There is your answer, in your question. " Why aren't there parents more involved in their lives?" They are not, and that is why they end up doing stupid things. My daughter is 18. Doesn't drink or do drugs. I remember, the day before she started school (1st grade), we talked to her about drugs and what she shouldn't except from people. The main thing is, that your children should be able to talk to both parents about EVERYTHING. Daddy should learn girl talk, and Mommy should learn boy talk. You never know who is home when something exciting happens, and they need to talk it out. They should trust both of you. Telling the truth is the main thing. Don't be mad if they tell you the truth on something bad they have done. Explain why it was bad. If you get mad, they will see no reason to tell you anything. If your relationship will be open, you will not have to worry about the things you are now. Take care

Answer 7

It used to scare me, but I still believe things can be taken care of right from the home. I have been a single mom since my kids were 4&5, and I used to worry all the time about their future in the public school system with all kinds of issues... but...I have been talking openly with my kids about that since before they hit 3rd grade. And my whole family comes has good values and morals. So they were raised with that. My kids are now 18 & 19 and doing fine. Sure they do bad things, but they do normal bad things.. like egging cars or toilet papering trees haha.. things normal teenagers do. I think if you have some disfunction in the family, even distant family, it is good to start talking about that early on. We as parents are the biggest influence on our kids. When I got divorced, I put my life on hold. I never wanted my kids to have any 'uncles' if ya know what I mean? My daughter is now 18 and a real advocate in the "save virginity till marriage" thing, and my son is also waiting for the right one. Not saying that they will wait till marriage, but they will wait until if feels right for them. And I am ok with that. There were a lot of pregnant teens in their school, and boys that keep trying to get my daughter.. but.. my kids have seen so much of that in school, they know they are better than that. My son does smoke pot, but so did I in the 70's. Parents worry all the time... it is our job :). My kids have good morals, good values, they don't hurt anyboy, and they don't steal...I think I have done well. They do not get influenced from kids at school. I raised them to think that 'no matter what, always stand up for what you believe is right' and so far, they have.

Answer 8

I am 29 and I have a 9 year old son that will begin 4th grade in a few weeks. He has attended public school since kindergarten. The public schools are the schools that educate the children. it's the PRIVATE schools that does not educate the children on situations as such. REMEMBER for topics and concerns as yours should be taught @ home with the family. Don't be afraid; be aware. When your children start to ask questions, ANSWER THEM TRUTHFULLY! Depending on the questions omit some answers. :))) YES I am sometimes scared for our children's future!

Answer 9

Check into homeschooling your kids. Between the screwed up kids of other people with little or no parenting skills and the brainwashing/conditioning projects the system has creating little manchurian candidates your responsibility as a parent is to homeschool your kids and educate them about EVERYTHING. That means teaching them about other kids and letting them know WHY they are homeschooled and giving them a good handle on reality...not the media spoon fed culture of consumption reality but the real deal. If you love your kids...protect them from being corrupted by the bullshit in this world and homeschool them at least until they are old enough to report to you each day what they did exactly in school and what happened each and every minute while they were out of your sight.

Answer 10

Yes, I do worry about this. I have a 13 year old daughter. I have sat her down and talked to her about things and I try to make her feel comfortable about asking me anything. I ask her a lot of questions and if something she tells me is a bit of a shock, I don't let it show and I don't get mad. We talk about the issue and I let her know that no matter what she can talk about anything and that at times I may be a little upset, but that we will work it out together. I make sure she always knows I will be there for her. So far it has worked for us and she comes to me with a bunch of different things and I help her come to the best conclusion.