what do u do when you are very insecure about your relationship?

Question

I ve been datin gthe same person for 4-5 months everything goes well arguing not too often but, I can get rid of the thinking that sooner or later our relationship will fade away, I m not jealous at all
just insecure of the fact that love might end at one point and i dont wanna be hurt,people its driving me crazy and I m starting counseling soon but its always to hear other peoples opinion with similar situations.. thanks

Answer 1

pray

Answer 2

your looking all the wrong places for an answer, and asking for something that life doesn't give you... guarantees!

Why not express these feeling to him, no one here can tell you, only guess what you should do. its intimidating, but honesty is the best and only way to really build a relationship. "you know, I have just been stressin over something, got a minute? I can get rid of the thinking that sooner or later our relationship will fade away, that love might end at one point and i don't wanna be hurt,people its driving me crazy." then just sit back and hear what he has to say... and then you talk, then him again... communication is a great thing ;)

Answer 3

Love is difficult, there's no doubt about that. Its never easy to trust someone with your heart. Its a risk we all take. Counseling will help you to cope with the fear, but it won't be a magical fix. You'll just have to realize that one must take a risk to get anywhere in life. If you don't enjoy the time you spend with your boyfriend/girlfriend, you may accidental end up sabotaging the relationship. Just relax and have fun. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

I think that it's great that you are going to counseling. That will help a lot with your insecurity. You just need to realize that your insecurity about getting hurt may be what ultimately hurts you. People don't like to be in relationships with people that can't trust them. Be happy with what you have. Take one day at a time. It is pointless to worry about the future when you have no control over it. Good luck.

Answer 5

Relationships are so hard sometimes. I haven't had a lot of them myself, but I am good at long term relationships so I want to try to advise you to the best of my possibilities. One of the things that you have to realize is that sometimes when you love, you have to suffer. That's inevitable. However, the BEST thing you can do to make your relationship work out for the long term is have good communication. Never keep anything to yourself, your thoughts, feelings, etc. I said this in one answer already... good communication makes for great relationships. Talk to your partner, let him know how you feel, tell him your fears and have an open discussion. I'm sure he loves you, but when you stop talking to each other about what you think and feel things quickly deteriorate and then fall apart in a split second. Don't make the same mistake I did. Love CAN and IS forever if you know how to cultivate it in a relationship. It's not all about making out, giving presents and hanging out. Its about making your time together count, talking to each other and connecting with that specials someone. If you love him, don't let him go, talk to him. If you're open with him he'll be open with you. Love doesn't just come... you have to work for it and keep it alive. There is a saying that goes "You grow what you plant" so plant communication, and trust, and cherish every single second you're with him, and I bet that what comes out is a strong tree of love that cannot be broken by anything. When you let doubt in, you create tension that eliminates communication and then things fall apart. NEVER stop talking. To close I repeat, good communication makes for great relationships.

Answer 6

Oh geeze I do this too. I hate it when I do. I just keep thinking there will be a day when he just won't love me anymore..or I wont love him anymore and we will have a bad scene at the end....and we won't hang out anymore and we can't even be friends..and what the hell am I going to do when that happens?
It makes it very difficult to really enjoy the relationship as its going...
You gotta take it one day at a time and enjoy it while it lasts...if you worry about it all the time you take the fun out of it..Just take it as it comes everyday...tell yourself..that yes, maybe it will end but it isn't going to come crashing down around me today...today I will just enjoy him while I have him.
Good luck in counselling..it really helps to have someone else to bounce this off of. Everytime I give myself panic..I talk to my sister and she tells me Im on base or off base...it really helps.

Answer 7

a little bit of jealousy is healthy. if it bothers you that much talk to your partner about your specific concerns. if they cant handle the questions in a loving manner.....id be more suspicious. oh and not every relationship ends...but most do. so just know you'll be ok if that does happen. trust yourself to be strong enough to handle that...and the insecurity might resolve itself.

Answer 8

Don't chase her away with your insecurities. Enjoy the time you have together. If it doesn't work out, find somebody else.

Answer 9

it sounds like your afraid to get your heart broken. The best best for you is to talk to your counsellor and get encouraging words. Good luck

Answer 10

THERE IS NOT MUCH YOU CAN DO UNLESS YOU START WITH YOUR SELF.YOUR FEELINGS ARE BASED ON THINGS THAT MAY HAVE ALREADY HAPPENED.NOW YOU HAVE IT STUCK IN YOUR HEAD THAT'S IT'S INEVITABLE. THAT'S NOT THE CASE. UNLESS THAT'S THE SAME TYPE OF PEOPLE YOU PICK ALL THE TIME. START THERE. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

theRocksays say:
I am very honest so I would confront my partner about my insecurities and try to work them out with her."

hmnnnnn...well...? ^^,