lost soul...?

Question

in my mid 20s
used to be out going, loving life
now for the past 3-4 yrs i isolated myself from people and activities
i even work grave shifts
i dont know why i am feeling like this..but im afraid for my future

P.S-
be mature about this when you answer, because life is serious and there's nothing funny about a person being in a awkward situation- because you'll never know when it can happen to u...

Answer 1

You have just matured and God has a plan for u!

Answer 2

You may just be going through some kind of change. You're in your mid-twenties so you may be maturing a bit, not as wild and footloose as you were in your earlier years. Your fear may come from worrying about bills, a relationship, etc.. When you were younger you may not have been mature as you are now and bills were not that important to you. When I was your age they weren't. I was in college and taken out loans here and there. Now I owe over twenty thousand dollars and am a little angry with myself for being so stupid. I also made a lot of terrible judgments in the guys I dated. Now I look back and I can't believe I was attracted to them.
On a real serious note--you may need counseling. Please don't get offended, but you may be going through something that only a professional that has the expertise can help you. Good luck!
Also please ignore the religious zealots, because a lot of the times when people turn towards a different way of thinking it only covers up what the real problem is.

Answer 3

It's very possible that you suffer from depression or anxiety or both. Many people don't even realize that they are suffering because there seems to be no serious problems in their life and the stereotype for someone with depression or anxiety is someone who has a lot of issues, however, this typically IS NOT the correct stereotype.

What you should do first is not stigmatize yourself with negative feelings if indeed you are depressed or have anxiety. Tens of millions of people suffer...me for one.

You should go see a mental health professional for a proper diagnosis. It might take more than one visit to find out what is going on. Your MHP will work on a sliding scale according to your ability to pay. If you can't afford that and are a student, you can go talk to a counselor or social worker trained in mental health. If that's not possible there are a lot of great resources on the Net dedicated to mental health. Start with WebMD.com or just type in mental health at Yahoo or Goggle.

There is also a national non-profit group called "Emotions Anonymous". It's similar to AA or NA and is based on a 12 step program. You don't have to participate and you can just listen. You'll find people from all economic scales and backgrounds; however, you'll realize you're not alone and that there is help out there to make you feel better.

Peace and good luck...

Answer 4

Don't be afraid. Life's unpredictable, and can change at the snap of fingers. You never know when it happens, but be patient. In the meantime, don't isolate yourself. Go out there, and live life real time. The only person who can help you is yourself. Read books, listen to music, take up photography, study people and places. Just take long walks by yourself. Whenever you feel depressed, take a loooong cool shower. Dress in clean clothes. If you are a smoker, quit smoking. Drink plenty of water. Start keeping a diary. See, there's a lot to do. Just don't keep LIFE waiting at your doorstep.

Answer 5

I think you have to use mind over matter in this case. If you keep thinking negative thoughts, your lifestlye will reflect that.

"I isolate myself from people and activities" - Ask yourself why you isolate yourself. Do you feel overwhelmed by numbers of people. Could be a social disorder. Are you easily irritated by the people around? Try out different kinds of friends and figure out who you best gel with.
"Work grave shifts" - Try and find a job that doesnt revolve around people. Avoid retail, customer service, etc. Look into individual work where you can work in an office setting.

"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" (Dr.Wayne Dyer, The Power of Intention)

Answer 6

working grave sucks. Start there and go to a different shift. Make friends. Start a garden or have house plants. Get a pet. Go outside under the sunshine. Go on bike rides or nature walks. Repaint your house in a bright new color and start fresh.

If you can't cheer up on your own, see a doctor. You may need help for depression. It's ok, many people get this way and you are not alone.

Answer 7

The only way you can be happy is to change some of your ways-no offense, but it seems like you don't have much time or even a chance to go to places or events to meet anyone. You might want to rethink about getting a day shift job so you can have time to get involved with activities or do things you might enjoy.

I suggest take a class at a local college or even try a dance class, something where you can meet people and, who knows, maybe someone special!

Good luck!!!

Answer 8

Lost Soul

This mite be a faze but, u should get over what happened in you're love life and get on in life you should met new people instead of locking you're self in a room and u shouldn't be afraid for you're future because alot of people change over time I Personally think u should go out in life and have some fun.

PS:Hope It Helps

Jason

Answer 9

Did you have a disappointing event?
Did someone let you down?
Remember that you are your own best friend.
If you are comfortable being alone,well that's ok too.
But I think that you are beginning to feel discomfort with your lifestyle.
Try other things to do that you may never have considered doing.
A short trip. Walk in the park or beach.
There are simple pleasures in life that you can do without breaking the bank.
Cook yourself a nice meal(?)
Give yourself some type of goal.....
Like learn a language,a skill.
Try to get more out of yourself.
Call someone and have a pleasant conversation...
I know,
I've gone through this myself many times.

Answer 10

You definitely sound like you are suffering from depression and I urge you to seek counselling as soon as possible. Your family doctor can refer you to the proper resources.

I'd also like to suggest a couple of inspirational books.

Anything by Dr. Wayne Dyer (specifically, There's a Spiritual Solution for Every Problem oro the Power of Intention or Inspiration) or Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch. This is NOT your average book about God or religion, but something much more open minded and liberating.

Sending love, light and blessings to you with this message! :)

Answer 11

Hey, listen up.
I know from where you speak. I'm almost 4 times your age, and my last hurt kept me there for more than three years. Yep, it can happen to one my age too.

Who in hell hurt you that badly? You're not lost, and remember, nothing lasts forever.
I looked at myself this past January, and I said, "Self. You gotta find something to do. It ain't comin' back no more". I have always loved music, and so I said, "Self, why in hell don't you learn to play?" So I tried.
Well, these old fingers just wouldn't cooperate on the guitar frets. Anywhoo, my teacher asked me to write a song. So I did. that's all I do now, even if I can't play em'. Got four done, working on two more. My first one is near copyright, cause my teacher wants to play it in his band and make the demo.
Hey, you, yeah, you.
Do something, sing, play something. You're not lost. You're just staying in the dark. There's a whole new world out there. It won't come to you, go out and grab on to it, hang on and don't let go.
Damn, I know I'm too old, even to dance with you, but I can tell Ya, I could wear you out on a dance floor. 4-5 hours, and if you wanta rock, I can still do it. Country Western you bet. Ballroom, The best. Hell, I've had enough practice. So, just do it.

Wanta hear something funny? My ex called me this past week. Wants me to come back, after a nasty divorce. He beat her up. After all the time I wished for that. Nope, s'too late. And she is 30 years younger than I.

Go git em'. You can do it. You're too young to do anything else.

Ever hear of the movie, "Auntie Mame"?
Rosiland Russell had a great line.
"The world is a Smorgasboard, and most of the SOBs out there are starving to death".
Don't go hungry!