I broke it off with my GF 5 months ago after I became certain that she created or greatly embellished her problems, as well as putting herself in a situation of being dependant on me regardless of my efforts to raise her above that. The whole world was against her and she 'acted' the trouper. Now that I left, she makes no effort to hide the fact that she is telling lies, only her purpose for doing so is to be able to show family and other people how I have 'been the cruelest person in history'. According to her I am gay, a drug dealer, a thief, a manipulator, I beat her up, etc.
I am a nice guy and she played on my compassion. Now that I see her for the games she plays, she is angry at me, calling my clients, soliciting my friends for help against me, etc. fortunately no one that knows me takes any stock in her words. Still, it's damn annoying. She is using me to get others to feel sorry for her at my expense. Any suggestions?
2006-08-22 11:10:33 · 12 answers · asked by Director665 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You can not change her so forget that. She needs psychological testing and therapy. I would let her know if she did not stop the harrassing problems, that you will be seeking legal action against her for stalking, which is basically what you would call this.
2006-08-22 11:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is just ignore her. It appears there are others who are already treating her the same way. Those who know you the best - will always be there for you and they won't believe stupid rumors. She's just angry because she can't get others, and you, to come down to her level. Back away from the situation, think of something else and get her completely out of your mind. Do things which make you happy.
2006-08-22 11:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer dude. Seriously. Don't assume such a person can escalate things such as vandalizing your home, puncturing your tires and stuff. Believe it. I've seen it happening... in particularly from girls that at first looked innocent looking.
Being a psycho goes both ways for men and women. So don't wait until crap hits the fan. Get a lawyer.
2006-08-22 11:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by elnyka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you % to take criminal action against your mom? Why no longer in basic terms get her a %. of Nicorette and tell her that she desires to stop previously her spongy smoke-ridden lungs up and kill her? Or circulate out, while you're sufficiently previous? Smoking is criminal and doubtless would be for an quite long term. i do no longer think of this is ever been unlawful. She isn't breaking any regulations. there is not any criminal action you may take.
2016-10-02 10:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If avoiding her over the next month or so doesn't work- go to a close mutual friend & ask him/her to sit down with her & talk it out (DON'T go yourself!). If THAT doesn't work & the harrassment continues- go to a lawyer & see if you can take out a "cease & desist" order against her. No matter what you do- she'll get tired of making a fool of herself & go away, eventually. So you can always wait her out. -But that's the nerve racking way, & it sounds like your pacience is running out. Good luck!
2006-08-22 11:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goes to show you no good deed goes unpunished. Seriously, some people do not want to get better. Sounds like she is addicted to unhappiness. It is predictable. How does she know who your clients are and how contact them? I would try to scare her about the trouble that she COULD get in she does stop, but you have to prepare for the nuclear option. No fun, but must done.
2006-08-22 11:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by billymike1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not wait dude call a lawyer and get a order of protection from this physco before she does you real harm! Stop being a nice guy!
2006-08-22 11:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called a restraining order. you got enough proof to warrant one so use it. otherwise, she'll keep exploiting your nice guy attitude and eventually it will come back to you and seriously screw you up. should make her think twice once she gets served that piece of paper. you HAVE to take legal action, you HAVE to. otherwise she'll keep on going and going until you break or she wins and gets what she wants.
2006-08-22 11:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ccant remember the legal word for it, but she can be sued for it. I would also get a restraining order against her.
2006-08-22 11:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is call your clients she threatens your livelihood. SUE HER! File a restraining order against her! YOU CAN'T HELP HER!
2006-08-22 11:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋