Okay, my bf of about 18 months started telling me im fat. Well not really fat, just that Im getting "chubby" and "bigger" and my stomach isnt as flat as it used to be. My eating and exercise habits havent really changed since I first met him, I havent gained much weight (maybe 3 lbs) but I've also grown about an inch. He says I need to do something about it because he doesnt want a lazy gf. When I tell him he's rude he says we need to be honest with each other. I got weighed in my aerobics class and Im in the healthy weight range. Im about 117 lbs and 5'1''. He says his friends and family noticed my wieght gain. None of MY friends or family have said anything. He keeps bugging me about it and i dont know what to do!!! How do I make him stop?!?
2006-08-22 10:47:25 · 18 answers · asked by Sareeg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DUMP HIM!!! DUMP HIM!!!
2006-08-22 10:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a loser. If you hadn't been going out for so long I would tell you to dump him straight-away.
But over a year is a pretty long time. It sounds like he is trying to break up with you and is making up stories in order to have an excuse. Sit down and talk to him. Tell him exactly what you posted here; You've only gained 3 pounds and are in the healthy weight range, so weight shouldn't be an issue.
See what's really on his mind. If things don't change, you should probably dump him. You don't need someone tearing down your self-esteem.
2006-08-22 10:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is so ridiculous! No real man that loved you would ever treat you like that. If you were unhealthy that would be one thing, but it sounds like he is just a shallow bastard. No one who weighs 117 & exercises could possibly be overweight. I say dump him and don't look back! You'll find someone who appreciates you for you and will love everything about you.
2006-08-22 11:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by lacopperphx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your boyfriend joking about it?
If he isnt.... hes not much of a boyfriend...
If your 5'1", and weigh 117lbs... I think you sound hot and I wouldnt complain with those stats!!! (not trying to sound dirty either!)
Your not fat... and DONT let anyone say so otherwise... because you will start to believe them!!!!!
Also, tell you 'so-called' boyfriend that these comments bother you!!!!!!
If that doesnt work... you deserve better!!!!!
If it doesnt work out with your boyfriend.... give me an email!
(only joking girl) ;-)
Please dont let this bother you.... even the skiniest girls think thieir fat.... but your absolutely normal and in a healthy range for your height!!!!! Stand proud!!
Take care
2006-08-22 10:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to control you....Don't let him make you starve yourself. I had a friend who died from not eating cause her boyfriend said she was fat...and she was 5'4" and 120 pounds..a perfect weight for her height, but he bashed her so much, that she truly believed she was fat...So don't let anyone other then a doctor tell you if you need to lose weight.....Your life is worth more then a few pounds.
2006-08-22 10:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by mom2kats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't supportive of you now he will not be about anything else. I hate it when men try to destroy a woman's self asteem. It is a form of control. My advice would be tell him that if he doesn't like the way that you look that you are sure that there is someone who will.
2006-08-22 10:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Stvsgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes scared of losin ya so hes makin ya feel down or tryin to make u look bad so youll think hes the best you can get. Has he had any reason to be jealous lately?if so then that is prolly the reason for his nonsense.
2006-08-22 10:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by ozzius1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You make him stop by dumping his judgemental ***. What, does he feel like he is the most perfect person in the world. He sounds like a jerk-off to me. Kick him to the curb and find a real man.
2006-08-22 10:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to F off and find you a new guy who will appreciate you. Then he will regret being such an a s s.
2006-08-22 10:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u dont marry a man for his hair line, and you dont marry a girl for her waist line, so if he isnt accepting you now, find someone who will, if my man said that to me id back hand him! it wouldnt come up again, take up for yourself, a bf is supose to make you feel good, right?
2006-08-22 10:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a jerk.no one should say that to anyone else,especially the terms he used and even more so cos it isn't true!my advice:tell him you find it offensive and if he does it again,ditch him
2006-08-22 10:52:12 · answer #11 · answered by Dominic M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋