I was raised in an alcoholic family, and now, in my relationship I am not able to trust my girlfriend at all. I mean, I have reasons not to trust her; however, I think I am overreacting. she says after we move together she still wants to stay in touch with her male friends (including her ex-boyfriend), she still compares me to the other men, she says she's with me because I am very intelligent, and she does not find me attractive so much; she says I will have share her 'with other people', that she doesn't love me ('not yet, but I am willing to'), and she does not miss me (we live 300 miles from each other).. Honestly, I am really hurt, and she does not know how it is possible... It all makes me think - I' so confused!!! Is she worth my time? Shall I trust her? Shaould I be with someone who doesn't love me back, but is 'willing to'?
2006-08-22 10:43:58 · 12 answers · asked by adam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes honesty hurts, but your worth so much more. Grow a backbone, get out of that relationship, find a real woman, one who truly cares about you completely.
2006-08-22 10:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie.... look! your so-called girlfriend has giving you some very serious things to think about....... Read your question over for yourself ... now think about it, if you were on the outside looking in what would you think about this situation? You say this is your girlfriend and that you live 300 miles apart but she doesn't miss you and that she doesn't love you oh... but she is WILLING to. this does not sound like a healthy relationship let alone a healthy long distant one.... My advice to you is to find someone who is attracted to your mind and body and soul the WHOLE package.. this is a test of how much you love yourself... because by holding on the this Dysfunctional relationship in your mind your are not hurting anyone but yourself..
LOVE U FIRST!!!!
Good Luck
2006-08-22 10:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by lucky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should move on. Relationships are built on trust. Without trust, you don't have a foundation to build upon. I know this from personal experience. Life can be quite miserable if you cannot trust your partner and that's not what relationships are supposed to be like. Overreacting or not, you definitely have reason for concern. I would be hurt if I were in your shoes. You should have a relationship in which you feel happy and can trust your partner. Relationships take two people - sounds like this one is one-sided. Good luck!
2006-08-22 10:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Snow White 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bro, I don't know how old you are, but judging by your question, you probably could use some extra experience. This experience would normally give you more protection from falling flat on your face. Experience means in fact; experience in understanding and not understanding the rationalisation talents of women.
Best is I think, to pretend a somebody that you love and care for, wants your advice and asks you the same question.
If this person really means a lot to you, what answer would you give?
(I would enjoy and move on. Next!)
2006-08-22 10:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by voborko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not you so I cannot be sure but she doesn't sound worth it at all. She might love your intellect but wouldn't you rather have a girl who loved all of you? Dealing with "sharing her" will only torture you. I am kind of confused why you went for her in the first place. You're not overreacting by not trusting her. I think you should drop her and find a girl worth your while, someone who likes all of you, someone you can trust. They are out there, I promise.
2006-08-22 10:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by downabbyroad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah dude, I'm sorry and its gonna be hard but you have to bail on this one. She doesn't respect you at all. And she's feeding you a line of bs. I can't believe you're letting yourself get treated like this although I've been there before too. Its just another case of the nice guy finishing last. Time to join the dark side and start nailing some other chicks.
2006-08-22 10:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by Big Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you will always not trust people, it will take years of counseling to solve those issues. You are wasting your time with this person. Move on and find someone who really cares about you, in time you will gain trust in this person, but you will have flash backs that may cause you problems.
2006-08-22 10:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who loves you and you love back who would miss u and not say hurtful things. She is wasting your time. There are millions of ladies in the world. Who you might have a change with
2006-08-22 10:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Krazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her she's not worth your time trust me. I daited someone like that. U deserve better and plus she could get an STD do u want to sleep with someone who has an STD I didn't think so.
2006-08-22 10:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is on your heart. ordinary a thanks to believe someone who has damaged you've self belief back and back and damage you plenty. Now in case you back believe him it will be your blunder mistake and also you is surely not in a position to forgive you through out your existence. because, you could not wish reliability from that individual any extra. Your extra believe in him will damage you to that volume, that you is surely not in a position to believe every person else in destiny Please whip out each element you've on your ideas in his remembrances and ignore him for the entire existence. one element i ought to allow you to realize that, this individual does not deserve a woman like you. in no way in his existence. leave him right now and brake off all kin. If in destiny he favor to go back to you're saying him good bye.
2016-12-01 00:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋