If a woman, whether just a friend or potential girlfriend, ask for a money loan, should you give it to her?

Answer 1

If you trust her and you can afford it.

Answer 2

nope, never. And the same goes for the opposite way, too. In fact, I suggest that one NEVER "loan" money to someone they know. I've lost good friends, had family rifts, and boyfriend rifts - from BOTH sides of this equation! It's just a bad, bad idea.

Now, if you GIFT someone the money, that's a totally different situation. A gift is not ever meant to be returned. But make sure that as the giver you don't put your ideas on how the money "should" be spent. Once it's out of your hands, you lose all claim to it and how it is spent.

Answer 3

I am a woman and I have borrowed form a males (potential boyfriend). I have always paid back the loan. For my own personal integrity and because I respect my friendship.

So you have to keep that in mind when you let people borrow money. Do you trust them? Do they respect you and your friendship?

My rule is never lend money that you NEED. Expect it never to return. If it does, wonderful!!! however you should always keep in mind that there is a slight possibility you may never see it again.

Answer 4

A very important lesson is this: Do not lend money unless you can do so without needing to get it back. You may never see the money again. Will that hurt your relationship? How would you act if you never got the money back? Would you treat this person badly? If you do decide to loan her the money, just consider it as gone. If she pays you back you know she is someone with great character.

Answer 5

The situation is tough. Ask yourself: is she dependable? Where is this money going to? When will you get it back? How long have you known the person? Do you need the $$ yourself? Check it out.

Good luck, be responsible, don't just give the $$ up without some deal. ($$ returned in 2 months or something... she owes you, not the other way around... she shouldn't have to beg her later for the $$)

Answer 6

Are you talking $10 for lunch paid back the next day? or like $200 because she can't cover her rent?
Anyone who falls far behind enough on finances to be hitting up friends for major cash isn't a good bet to pay you back.

My rule is to never LEND someone more money than I would freely GIVE to them (because there is always the chance they will treat it like a gift rather than a loan and you won't see it again).

Answer 7

With anyone...if they ask for money its a personal call ...meaning do you feel the person is trustworthy in paying the money back ...but know you are take'n a risk of ending a relationship ( of any sort) because money makes people act funny, and they may not wanna pay you back in a timely manner

Answer 8

If you trust her. According to how much is asked for, what it is for and if she is willing to put in writing that she will pay it back. I would make a payment schedual with her if it is a very large amount. This way if she turns out to be a rip off...you can take her to court and get your money back. That doesn't only pertain to women, it should be this way no matter who you are lending money to.

Answer 9

that depends on you... not anyone else's opinion... Now lets look at this....do you lend friends money? do you expect to receive loaned money back? does it make you feel good to help someone in a jam? these are the questions you need to ask yourself and then if answerd honestly you will have your answer!! good luck

Answer 10

If you trust her then yes. The thing with loaning friends money is to not expect it back.

Answer 11

Hmmm...It all depends on how well you know her...Does she always ask for money? Is she always broke? Is she needy?? If so, I don't think "loaning" it to her would be a good idea. But if it's for a good cause and she is sincere and really need a helping hand....why not?