I have stopped having a relationship with God...?

Question

I became a christian 3 yrs ago, and Christ really saved me from death, but its been about 8 months that I am so revolted with God b/c I feel like he alowed me to suffer way too much in my life, even after I met him until now I am going through way too much in all areas of my life, its just too much to bare, and everyone tells me to go back to the Lord and he is the only hope out of my mess, I just dont know why I'm not doing it...I need help...

Answer 1

Lili, God didn't make you suffer. But He can teach you something out of your suffering. God doesn't sit in heaven with a lightening bolt and say, you die today. You get sick, you get in a car accident. Things just happen. He lets things happen, because he gave us freedom. We have the right to choose which way we are going to go. I chose a path that was harder on me than it could have been. I felt I suffered a lot, but that was my choice. Now my life is on the right track, but things aren't perfect, they never will be. Life is never going to be perfect and easy on this side of heaven. I still have many problems, some of them stem from my life before, because of past decisions. I can look at my life and see that many of my problems are a direct result of sin. I believe in God and and know that He is a God of Love. He doesn't want you to suffer, but he will allow it. He is not a get out of jail free card. I do find that when things seem bad, it's usually because I am not close to the Lord at that time, not reading the Word and not praying. We will still have problems, but God sent the Holy Spirit to comfort us. God will never let you suffer more than you can bare. Just keep praying, reading your Bible and going to Church, and don't listen to those people on this site that will try to confuse you. It would be better if you went on a different site like Charles Stanley. I'll pray for you! God Bless!

Answer 2

YOU have stopped having a relationship with God,God didn't give up on you,or walk away from you. He knows you are angry with Him in your heart, you are not the first. But talk to Him and tell Him all the reasons you are hurting

You are not the only one to suffer in pain and agony.And you do not have to bare it alone. He will never leave you or forsake you. I know this to be true as I was in a terrible accident with a broken pelvis & multi -trauma injuries. And yes, I walked thru the valley of the shadow of death, and He told me I had to walk thru it,but I would not be alone. I knew His Precsence was with me always. It took over a year to recover, and numerous surgyies after that,and I did suffer pain. I still suffer to this day.

Do I blame God? No, someone made a mistake and ran a red light. Unfortunaly,I suffer the consquences of anothers mistake. Do I feel bitter toward the man who ran the red light? No, we all make mistakes.And I forgave Him.

Read the book of Job,and how he suffered. Remember the sacrfice Jesus bore on his body to save you & me. Is the servant better than the Master, that she should not suffer?

The Bible says MANY are the affilctions of the rightious, but the Lord God delivers him out of them ALL!

Trust Him when all seems lost,hold on to the Faith and Grace He has given you. Be of good courage as He has overcome this world.

If you can't change the circumstance,then change the way you THINK about it.

You are never alone in your trials. May the Father's Peace settle all around you today. He is your Daddy,and He loves you so.May you feel His arms around you today,and experience His Peace. Peace be still and know that I am God and there is none other.

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Answer 3

Sounds rough.
I bet getting preached at by everyone on here doesn't help either.

I can't give you any real answer because I haven't figured this out. I've been trying to figure out if I should even call myself a Christian anymore. God feels distant, and having people tell me that that's my fault doesn't help at all. My issue is probably that the people that claim to be Christians just make me ill, but I don't know if you're struggling with that or not.

I still pray, and I'm going to pray for you, because I don't know what else to do. If I can give anything like advice: don't worry about being consistent, remember that if there is a God then his feelings aren't going to be hurt by you yelling at him or ignoring him, and talk to a trusted friend or family member about how you feel.

Hang in there.

Answer 4

God never guarantees and easy life. I believe our sufferings make us appreciate the good in our lives more. I have a simple system that helps me appreciate the good. When I pray my final prayer every night, I thank God for all I have - a roof over my head, a lovely daughter, a wonderful partner, etc., then I ask for what I need help with. Guess what? The first list is always a lot longer and my problems seem a bit smaller than when I started. It really helps me, hope it does you too!

Answer 5

If Christ is what you beleive & your relationship with him saved you before - than why do you choose not to seek his help again?

Did you consider that the suffering you are enduring is how Christ intends to help you?

Christ has allowed you to suffer? Is it not yourself that has allowed you to suffer?

If you beleive in Christ & you have strayed from the flock - then why not go back to the flock. Maybe this is the realization you need to make. When you joind the flock - you were saved & now that you have strayed - you are in turmoil.

This is the first question i have seen in which I have ever recomended a return to a religon which has provided comfort in the past.

I recomend that you find a spiritual leader that you can relate to & then use that leader to help guide you back to the path of enlightenment. Ask questions & don't accept the answers given to you but beleive the answers that you have in you already - if you ask a question - you already know the answer

Answer 6

lili24_7,
Okay, you need some one on one. It sounds like you are depressed al the time. Is that right?

Were you aware that the moment that you became Christian that you became a target? You joined a side. The other side thinks that you ae an enemy. Read Ephesians 6.

But what does the Bible say? "Greater is He who is in us, that he who is in the world." The victory is yours through Christ.

Now for some hard speech:
Get off your butt and read some scripture. You should have a Bible. Read it. Everyday. In the morning, before you go to work. Without fail.

And talk to those that have been giving you such wonderful advice. They know what they are talking about.

So the first thing to do is, shut up. Stop whining. Next open a Bible in the New Testament. And whatever voice is telling you that it wont do any good, open your muth long enough to tell it to shut up in Jesus name. There's power in the words you speak. You can use them to harm yourself with doubtful speech. OR you can use those words in faith. Trsuting God for all things. ALL THINGS!!! He''s your God and He promises you all things. Claim it.

Go! Stop reading these things and get youself to biblegateway,com or pick up your dusty Bible. GO!!

Answer 7

was you put on a cross and had nails pounded into your hands, did you have a crown of thorns shoved on your head, was you given vinger to drink couse you asked for water. you do not know what pain is, was you tied to a post and beat whith a whip till you passed out. was you left lying on the ground bleeding from all those cuts from the whip. and did you while on the cross have some one take a spear and cut your ribs with it. if you can say yes to any of these then you can say that you have been in pain.insted of thinking about what you are going through why dont you think about what JESUS went through for the world. JESUS suffered for the world,s sins.

Answer 8

You must understand that pain and suffering does not weaken you, but rather, opens your perspective. Time is not real. Your wounds will close as soon as they open because is not all suffering just time? Live without fear. The only hope out of this mess is you, not the Lord.

Answer 9

You don't want to have a relationship with someone that much older than you, it could never work. Your interests would be so different for one thing; what would you chat about when he came home from work? After a busy day dealing with the ineffable he'd be better off with someone to talk to about it who understood what he was going on about. Eventually you'll feel like you're not fulfilling his needs and you'll start to get paranoid about him looking for 'a bit on the side'. That leads to jealousy, mistrust and ruined relationships.

Find a nice boy your own age.

Answer 10

Well.......sometimes the only thing that needs to change is our perspective.

God is sovereign. If you have freewill, so does everyone else and God cannot step in to save you anymore than he can save anyone else from choices- our choices or the choices of another.

God is NOT the cause of pain and suffering. God gives us PEACE or the strength to get through horrible situations, but just because we still have to go through them does not mean he doesn't care about us.

You do not know what God HAS saved you from. This is hard to hear, understand, believe, but it is true.

You are not - BELIEVE ME!!! You are NOT the only one who feels like GOD shoulda been the hero who stepped in and rescued you from terrible situations.

We go through hard times because we do. We all do. And someday you will see someone going through something you have gone through and you have the choice to turn your back or comfort them.

Do not grow weary of doing good... endure... it's not an easy pill to swallow, but it makes us better people.

I would search for something deeper if I were you.... something less "wordy" and more spiritual...