My sons father barely takes him.........When he does he brings him right back to me......so sometimes when he wants to bring him back i tell him i'm somewhere else so he can spend more time with him he barely sees him..is that wrong that i tell him i'm out and about so he doesn't give him back to me so soon..........
2006-08-22 10:14:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i dont think so because you are encouraging time that he can spend with your son. try to also include activities that all of you can do together. good luck!
2006-08-22 10:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't. You need your own time and space to. Make dad step up with the childcare. Dad maybe scared to be alone with the kid. Tell him to bring his son to see his grandparents and cousins. Make him do his fair share.
You can be somewhere else without lying. Go to a movie or a friend's. Get a haircut, go shopping all kidfree. Or just take a bath and nap, you are somewhere else in the bathroom, dreamland, lol.
2006-08-22 17:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no i think your doing the right thing.. though it might be sneaky i give it to you... what a clever idea! maybe you should try to go with your babys daddy and your son out somewhere and have a good time with him, go to the zoo, and let him see how much fun it is with the baby. its so much more fun when you stay active with the baby then just staying at home with him.. i hope you find something that makes it better for you!
2006-08-25 16:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by charlena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not wrong that you do that. it is wrong that you have to do that. Here is the deal though, you can not make someone be a father, they have to want to. You baby daddy may just be feeling a little scare do fa a baby...I mean is he a baby? If he is like 3 or older then there is no excuse.
The fathers of today suck. There are some bright and shining stars out there...i mean I have one of them. My man is not EVEN the father of my daughter, but he regards himself as her daddy.
My best advice to you is to take him to court soon, because it really sounds like he is gonna bolt soon.
2006-08-22 17:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by cookies_n_cream0218 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One day your baby's daddy is going to need your son.... and because he has not been there for him your son won't be there for him.... that's just a fact that you can remember every time this situation occurs... doesn't solve your problem... but karma does have a way of making you feel better. Good luck
2006-08-26 17:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kayley S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. It is important that both parents play their part if possible.
You don't say how old your child is, or if you are separated from the father.
Sometimes, we men have a problem bonding. We haven't had that whole 9 months of feeling it grow. We used to have a wife, now we share a mother. We may not know quite what to do. It can be scary at times, we are suddenly responsible for this whole person.
The situationshould improve in time, as the child grows, your partner will hopefully grow in confidence, and come to realise the little one is a part of him as well.
2006-08-22 17:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No it is not wrong to want him to spend time with your son, my ex-husband does the same thing with our son, a first I would argue with him to spend more time with him, but then I realized I cannot force him to see his son, and if he doesn't want to spend time with him, then it is his loss, he will miss out on the joys of being a parent.
2006-08-22 17:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by Andy's Mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong to need your own time.
HOWEVER,, I would have a serious question of whether I would want to leave my child in the care of someone that clearly does not want the responsibility. I would rather have a reputable baby sitter than feel that my child wasn't being seen to correctly.
2006-08-22 20:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all, all your doing is helping along the fact that your babies daddy did part of the work so he needs part of the responcibility. I would give him to his daddy and then tell his daddy that I am going out of town for the weekend after he already has him... :)
2006-08-22 17:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by lykwo814@verizon.net 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your lover is young, say less than 30 years old, then he may not have recovered from the fact that he's thinking..Oh my Gawd, I 've become like my Dad, Darn it I am a Dad !
2006-08-26 16:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by rc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of thought about this before you had the baby. A father is not someone who conceives you, a father is someone who care, and he sure doesn't sound like one. Screw him
2006-08-26 16:30:59 · answer #11 · answered by lady love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋