I don't know what her problem is but she's getting worse and worse. She likes to make her sister cry by bighting her fingers, sticking her hand down her throat, twisting her arm, bending her fingers backwards, you name it. She even tries to smother her with pillows. She laughs while she does this stuff. Then we bought some little gold fish for her yesterday and she killed two of them by stabbing them with her toothbrush (I was busy with baby). What is this problem? What is causing it? She's getting worse, and it first started when her little sister was born.
2006-08-22 10:08:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Young children often see new babies as a threat. It's plain old jealousy. They feel replaced and are not always capable of understanding or expressing all the feeling they are having. They act out and in alot of cases show aggression towards the younger child. One thing you can do is invovle the older child in the care of the younger. Encourage the older to help feed, clothe and bathe his/ner sibling. You will be teaching the older not only to care for not hurt another but that little brother or sister is not a threat. Valuable lessons in all phases of life.
2006-08-22 10:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do some reading up on this before she gets out of hand and really hurts your baby............
Best Parenting Books:
Adventures in Gentle Discipline by Hilary Flower
The Discipline Book by Dr. Sears
The Successful Child by Dr. Sears
Kid Cooperation by Elizabeth Pantley
Kids, Parents & Power Struggles by Kurcinka
Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Faber & Mazlish
Siblings Without Rivalry by Faber & Mazlish
Good luck
2006-08-22 10:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by LondonLou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's jealously--clear and simple.
Your two-year-old sees your new arrival as competition and doesn't like all the attention you give it.
So she acts out in the only way she can.
I don't know if I went through this phase myself when my two brothers were born. But I can wager that since we were born one year after another, it might've happened when I was 3 and my other two brothers were 2 and 1.
But I would have to ask my mom the next time I talk with her.
2006-08-22 10:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a child doctor there is somthing very wrong with her and until you get this checked out by a prof. it is going to get worse and lead to long term effects that could lead to abusive behaviour as a adult. my sister tried to kill me as a infant (she dropped me on the corner of a china cabinet at 3 weeks old) this lead to abusive behaviour as i got older and i had to see a psychologist from the age of 5 to 15 because my parents found out she had been severly abusing me while they were at work. It wont stop till she knows this is bad and her actions have consequenses. Dont put a death sentence on your infant, or lead to psycholoical problems in the future stop it now.
2006-08-22 10:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by pythonicbeauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you are a good mother and not ignoring problems like this. Earlier you pay attention better it is. My mom said I was jealous when my sis. was born.. But she took care of it.. She made up this secret love codes and we had this special sign language. I felt loved and very special after that.. Well if you want more details and tricks of my mom.. let me know. lol.
2006-08-22 12:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure you have already been told this but it sounds like she i looking for attention wether its possitive or negative , as for the hurting i think you should get her to child phycologist thee maybe something deeper there and best do it soon rather than later , good luck hope all goes well .
2006-08-22 10:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by l w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bad case of Jealousy. Talk to your doctor and get a referal to a pyschiatrist. Good luck hon.
2006-08-22 10:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Gayle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds almost exactly like the early stages of schizophrenia. Talk to a therapist. It may also be jealousy.
2006-08-22 14:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She got too much attention before your second child. Maybe if you let her play with other, a bit older children, she'll get roughed up a bit and realize that there are consequences. Spank her.
2006-08-22 10:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by krd12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants attention from you. She feels threatened by her new sister and is going to do whatever it takes to get attention from you. You need to punish her when she does that. That sort of thing should NOT be tolerated!
2006-08-22 10:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋