My boyfirend and i are going through a rough time. I really just miss him- and by that, i mean his touch, hi emotion, hi LOVE. WE haven't made love in a long time. I feel like a quick lay I don't want to please myself...i just want to connect with my man. i want us to make love........what do i do? Besides the romancing, what do I say to him? What would work for you if your gf came to you with the same problem? I don't want to please myself...i just want to connect with my man. i want us to make love....i want to cry....what do i do?
2006-08-22 10:00:12 · 3 answers · asked by Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what happens in a relationship is that the man sometimes just does it and it is over. most men have the same problem. the woman wants to be held, kissed tenderly, and have romantic forplay. however, the female doesn't communicate with the male until after several several times of having sex. then it is an emotional thing for the female and a ego buster for the male which will make him be defensive.
what you do is tell him the sex is great but you would like more forplay especially the caressing type. tell him you love him vvery much and you would like to have more sex but with lots of affection mixed in. now you have not put him on the defensive. now, you have to understand that men are men and once they get in the true action of love making then you know how it goes from there. the trick is you need to understand that but at the same time make sure you are enjoying it as well. that is the reason for the discussion.
tenderness many times is laying on the couch together, holdings hands while shopping or sharing a sundae, or a big sweet hug. let the sex be sex and he just might come around. one last thing are you having sex the same way all the time (same position, no oral, etc.) with nothing else in between. be creative at the right time. i don't mean wearing a negligee when he walks in. i mean when you are in action be creative if you know what i mean. if this doesn't work then close the buffet until he comes around or goes away. either way you will be the winner. you see if he goes away you really didn't lose anything anyway but he did. remember, you need to try to reduce the romantic part in love making to a reasonable level. good luck!
2006-08-22 10:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by lou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your man was your man he would have sensed that by now... and the feelings would be shared... and both of you would be happy... Somehow I feel his feelings aren't quite as strong as yours...
2006-08-22 17:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him everything that you just told all of us.
2006-08-22 17:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Zenas Walter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋