we were together for over 2 years and we broke up about 2 or 3 months ago. but he still keeps coming around for sex every 5 or 6 weeks. tells me how sorry he is for treating me the way he has and tells me that he still loves me and that im in his heart. then he turns around after we r together and doesnt call or answers my calls. i do love him and miss him. am i crazy?
2006-08-22 09:41:09 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not to be mean but you don't seem to have any self respect. You know this guy is just using you and yet you let him continue to do so just in hope that something will change. Look at this way, why should he change when he is getting all he needs and wants from you right now? This guy is not giving you any respect at all. He doesn't care about your feelings or what you want and need, this is all about him and he is letting this pattern develop so that he can do this to you for the rest of your life and it will be considered ok because you let it start happening. You need to put an end to this right now. Stop seeing him. Refuse to talk to him, shut the door on him if he comes over. Do not listen to him even for a second. You need to focus on your life away from him and stop letting him use you. If you keep this up you will eventually have no sense of who you are. Respect your self and stand up for what you want. If he can't be in a committed relationship with you or have anything to do with you outside of having sex when he wants it then you don't really want him in your life. You deserve more than that and the only way you are going to get it is to get rid of him from your life.
2006-08-22 09:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy, you love him and that is acceptable however his behavior is NOT acceptable.
He is using you. I've had it done before to me and if you keep allowing him to have sex with you and then avoid you until he wants sex again, you are going to get hurt in the process. He wants you around because he knows you will have sex with him and he wants sex with no strings attached.
You have to stop being so vulnerable. Here is what I did. I knew that the temptation would be too strong, I loved this man as well and even though I knew in the back of my head he was coming around only for sex, I allowed him to do it with hopes that we would be the happy couple we once were.
So, I finally came to my senses. I knew it would be hard to not answer his calls, so Ihad my number changed. If and when he would come over and knock on my door, I would go into the shower so that the door bell ringing or the knock wouldn't tempt me to answer the door.
It's a hard thing to end but you have to do it very "cold turkey".
If he loved you he would want to be in a sincere relationship with you that wasn't just based on sex. I hope you take my advice and stop letting this man take advantage of you; you deserve better.
2006-08-22 09:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you're crazy! How about you get some self control are you so horn* that you feel the need to sleep with him every chance you get. Get some respect for yourself and grow up. The sad part is that you know he's using you and you're allowing him to do it. You are the type of GIRL that make women look bad. The good thing is not all hope is lost avoid his calls do not let him come to your home if he comes over unannounced talk to him outside and do not let him in. Never give him the opportunity to turn you into his wh0re! Love yourself child and move on. He doesn't love you and he doesn't respect you all you are is a piece of as* for the day if he truly loved you he wouldn't use you like this. Please please just let him go.
2006-08-22 09:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by Trish H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem like that also. Then I told him one day that I didn't want him around me anymore and to quite using me, *since he was engaged to another woman* he began lying to see me and get me alone, one day it went to far and he forced me (not that i"m saying this guy will, but back ground information is always good), now I'm having the child from him from that one time, and he's already married. So I have my own demons.
Just tell him that if he loved you why did ya'll break up. To take a break? Avoid his calls, find some reason to call him back at a later time, 2-3 days later after you see that missed call on your phone. Or just tell him straight out: STOP USING ME!
2006-08-22 09:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre not crazy!!!I had a bf for 1 year then couldnt get over him for 6 years!!!I stopped feeling crazy bout him when i found sum 1 new.To make him stop comin back to have sex say u got AIDS. Hell leave you alone and you can go to clubs and pick up more boys!!!You wont forget but you will stop thinkin bout him all the time.
2006-08-22 09:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by cutie_wit_voice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Miss M, question for you?? Why cant you??? There are lots of real nice guys out there that would love to treat you the right way..Look around sweetie bet you even know some.. Tell that guy your worth more then just SEX and he should bugg off... Lifes way to short to be unhappy baby, smarten up..Your friend from Tennessee...ROB
2006-08-22 09:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl....... i am sorry guys r jerks an he is going to keep doin this to u as long as u let him think bout it would u rather be sad for a lil bit getting over him after u tell him no more an then go on wit ur life stress free an and happy meetin new ppl an someone who will not treat u like this or... keep goin back and forth happy then sad then mad an pissed i no u think u gonna lose out but hunny u deserve better an its his loss... good luck i no its hard but in the end it will make u stronger
2006-08-22 09:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by my heart belongs to a sailor! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens to most people. But it sounds like he is using you. you cannot help how you feel, that's why u love him. You have to use your mind and think with logic and make the best decision. Do not let your emotions decide choices in your life because you will make irrational decisions and be used. Trust me get rid of him and take your time before dating again. The short term pain is a whole lot better than the long term suffering.
2006-08-22 09:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by McOff.80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your not CRAZY you are just in love which can make ppl act or do crazy things. Such as give in. You should avoid his calls sometimes and make him wonder. Give him the cold shoulder. When you do finally talk to him (let him call) act like your not intrested and let him go and say I will call you later and don't. Then he will eventually call you back . If he really is sorry and cares about you.
2006-08-22 09:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kat33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. Delete his number from your phone and hang up if he calls from a different number, block his e-mail address and hang out with friends who make you feel good.
You do not deserve to be used as a sex toy, and nobody who treats people like sex toys deserves your love
2006-08-22 09:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋